First date with older woman

veryangryman · 05-02-2008 3:07pm #1

Hi i recently got with a girl. Shes 30 and im 25. Away from the politics of all this, Im wondering what would be a good idea for first date?

TheDriver · 05-02-2008 3:07pm

Quiet drink in a bar for lot of chat and get to know each other. Not cinema anyways. Dinner if you like that sort of thing, would be nervous myself to eat on a first date.

veryangryman · 05-02-2008 3:13pm

Thanks. I probably should have been more detailed though - i know her 6 years (friend of a friend)

Quiet drink sounds a decent idea, but im open to other suggestions too

How Strange · 05-02-2008 3:44pm

veryangryman wrote: »

Thanks. I probably should have been more detailed though - i know her 6 years (friend of a friend)

Quiet drink sounds a decent idea, but im open to other suggestions too

A walk in the countryside on Saturday, bring along a flask of coffee, some nice sandwiches and chocolate or cakes for a picnic along the way? You said you wanted different.

Nevyn · 05-02-2008 3:53pm

veryangryman wrote: »

Thanks. I probably should have been more detailed though - i know her 6 years (friend of a friend)

Quiet drink sounds a decent idea, but im open to other suggestions too

If she is some one you have know for a while as a friend then you will want to consider doing something which is clearly a date and not just two friends out for an evening or an outing.

After 6 years you should know what she does and doesn't like and tailor it to that, a romantic meal or picnic or something she has expressed a desire to do but hasn't managed to get a round to it.

John Mason · 05-02-2008 3:57pm

the ghost bus

evry1sm8 · 05-02-2008 3:59pm

dont do the ghost bus i heard its crap

Mazeire · 05-02-2008 4:19pm

evry1sm8 wrote: »

dont do the ghost bus i heard its crap

Crap and it stinks! If you are in Dublin, may I suggest Salamanca (Spanish and Tapas) for Dinner prehaps followed by drinks in Cafe En Seine or the Mint bar at the Westbury hotel?

briantwin · 05-02-2008 4:34pm

Why don't you bring her to the Light Scape exhibitions. Google it. Find out where the exhibits are and then go and enjoy yourselves. Its something different , then out for dinner and a drink.

milkerman · 05-02-2008 4:44pm

All the above are good.
Do you really think a 30 year old qualifies as 'an older woman'? Be careful how you answer.

denhaagenite · 05-02-2008 4:52pm

Haven't a load of your threads been locked for asking the same basic advi

dellas1979 · 05-02-2008 4:53pm

Hehehehe. Had to laugh at this one myself.

When I read the title, I thought it would be like a 25 YO Male and a 40-50 YO woman.

Hehehehehehehehehe.

Why cant you do the things that you normally do?

LegacyUser · 05-02-2008 4:59pm

30 vs 25 is only 'older' by virtue of maths, do the same stuff that you'd do with a 25-year-old woman.

gandalf · 05-02-2008 5:27pm

If you already know each other a meal and a drink somewhere quiet where you can have a good chat in a relaxing atmosphere.

(Oh as others say I wouldn't call her an older woman at 30!)

DD · 05-02-2008 11:16pm

veryangryman wrote: »

Thanks. I probably should have been more detailed though - i know her 6 years (friend of a friend)

Quiet drink sounds a decent idea, but im open to other suggestions too

Is it a date or you wanna see if it will be smth else?
Older ...u make me laugh 30 and 25, i thought u'll meet a 40 years woman

Clare_Guy · 06-02-2008 12:34am

Quiet drinks and romantic dinners are all very good but with a first date i find you want to reduce the chances of awkward silences as much as possible and nothing is as memorable as laughter, so i'd suggest a comedy show....

SarahMc · 06-02-2008 12:47am

Now I'm depressed if an older woman is 30!

First date, play it safe... a drink and/or meal, although I love the suggestion of a comedy club.

jdivision · 06-02-2008 1:46am

Can you tell us any interests/hobbies she has? Might be able to come up with a few ideas around that. That age difference is nothing by the way.

A.Partridge · 06-02-2008 10:42am

...Oh,...Mrs Robinson...are you trying to seduce me?

veryangryman · 06-02-2008 10:59am

Just meant older numerically. Ah gals, the glass is always half empty with ye!

Im not from the Pale, so i guess that a quiet drink in a decent bar is as imaginative as i can get for the first meeting up.

John Mason · 06-02-2008 12:33pm

i dont see what the big deal is really, just cos she is a few years older then you, just go on a normal date, as you would with anyone. except to make sure you get her home by twelve in case she turns into a pumpkin

echosound · 06-02-2008 1:02pm

Well just cos you're not from the pale doesn't mean you have to go to a pub. What does she like? Theatre? Art gallery exhibition? Heck, even bowling? All the aforementioned could be either prefaced by a coffee/drink and a chat, or followed up with coffee/drink.
Other options - day out at a coastal area (drive a scenic route, stop for a meal, beachwalking, etc) visit touristy spots nearby, museums, nice meal in a nice restaurant, a gig(make sure it's someone/something she likes though), etc etc.

and FWIW 5 years is not a big gap in terms of age, and certainly don't let her hear you refer to her as an "older woman" or you may be stepping into a world of pain!

johnnysmurfman · 06-02-2008 1:10pm

Viking Spash Tour (if you're in Dublin) and drinks afterwards. Can't go wrong with a bit of Viking Spash and it also means that subconciously she'll think of you as a primitive viking and she'll probably allow you to "plunder her village (if you know what I mean).

veryangryman · 06-02-2008 1:16pm

echosound wrote: »

and FWIW 5 years is not a big gap in terms of age, and certainly don't let her hear you refer to her as an "older woman" or you may be stepping into a world of pain!

Ha when you say "world of pain" im picturing Mr T in that ad!

milkerman · 06-02-2008 1:17pm

Nothing wrong with a quiet drink, but dont go to the usual pub where you have mixed as 'friends' in the past. A date needs to be different and she will appreciate you all the more if you have tried to make it special. If you own a car the 'Pale' is only an hour away, make the effort.

Esel · 06-02-2008 2:49pm

milkerman wrote: »

If you own a car the 'Pale' is only an hour away, make the effort.

Can I buy one of those cars?

OP: Can't see any problem. Apart from you thinking she is an older woman.

milkerman · 06-02-2008 3:28pm

esel wrote: »

Can I buy one of those cars?

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I stand corrected. But with a Ferrari it might still be true!

veryangryman · 06-02-2008 5:23pm

esel wrote: »

Can I buy one of those cars?

OP: Can't see any problem. Apart from you thinking she is an older woman.

Older=older than me
30>25

Thats older. Men think in logic. I do anyway

Esel · 06-02-2008 5:45pm

veryangryman wrote: »

Older=older than me
30>25

Thats older. Men think in logic. I do anyway

So, if she was 26, would she still be an 'older woman'? Use your logic. Anyway, no matter what age she is, you are obviously too young for her.

Dudess · 08-02-2008 4:19pm

veryangryman wrote: »

Just meant older numerically.

Ah, but you must think the gap is significant, otherwise you wouldn't be posting for date advice?

There's barely any difference between 25 and 30. Just do whatever. As others have pointed out, she's not a 48-year-old divorcee whose "night on the tiles" days are over.
By the way, whoever suggested the picnic idea must think 30 is pretty much the same as 75...

BaZmO* · 08-02-2008 5:43pm

1, The age difference is insignificant, although when I was 25 I went out with a 30 year old and thought it was a big deal. Looking back it wasn't.

and 2, Just go for a quiet drink somewhere. No point putting added pressure on yourself trying to think of something "different" to do, save all that for the second date, well only if the old folks home lets her out for a second date!

Rb · 08-02-2008 6:30pm

Go feed the ducks in the local park, old people love that.

Gordon · 08-02-2008 6:35pm

rb_ie wrote: »

Go feed the ducks in the local park, old people love that.

Banned

shinny · 08-02-2008 8:53pm

Well, considering Irish Men die years before Irish Women an "older" woman is probably a good thing

I'd go somewhere you both can have a chat & get to know each other better. So definitely not the cinema !

Dudess · 08-02-2008 9:35pm

And of course, culturally it's not considered the "norm" for guys to go out with women who are older than them. Would a 25-year-old girl be posting here for advice on dating a 30-year-old guy...?

veryangryman · 15-02-2008 1:26pm

"And of course, culturally it's not considered the "norm" for guys to go out with women who are older than them. Would a 25-year-old girl be posting here for advice on dating a 30-year-old guy...? "

Yeah but its the guys job to impress!

spurious · 15-02-2008 1:52pm

I would be very impressed if someone went to the bother of assembling a picnic for a date with me. It would certainly beat being dragged to a shout your head off to be heard pub.

However I am even older than the old 30 year old so perhaps I have early onset pensioner attitudes.

I'm sure she'll have a lovely time no matter what you organise OP.

nevaeh-2die-4 · 15-02-2008 3:47pm

Snip

Wibbs · 15-02-2008 3:59pm

Funny ha ha. read the charter, stay on topic and don't post nonsense again. Stay in AH for that.

nevaeh-2die-4 · 15-02-2008 4:02pm

ok wibbs no problem (but it was funny)

Wibbs · 15-02-2008 4:08pm

I'll grant you that.:D

veryangryman · 15-02-2008 4:40pm

Great stuff. All went well anyway. Just had quiet drink - no awkwardness at all.

Interesting hearing all the opinions all the same

First date with older woman

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