This Mess We're In

How would you feel if someone you knew had feelings for you but
had been telling friends one thing and telling you another?

When you confront them about it, they just lie to your face about
situations you were both in that indicated their feelings. She has
a boyfriend so had a lot to loose in what turned out to be a huge
fight. She managed to make it look like it was me that caused all
the problems so that she wouldn't get into any trouble.

I've had to cut off contact with a group of people who have been
made to believe that I'm causing the problems. We were
constantly having fights because I was being lied to and I just
couldn't let them go on any longer treating me badly. I didn't
want to hang around with a group of people who are bitching
about me behind my back but calling me their friend to my face.

I can't talk to people who try to bull**** you, if someone disagrees
with you at least you can have a proper discussion if they are
telling the truth but it's completely pointless if they are only going
to tell more lies.

They insist they've done nothing wrong and refuse to apologise
for organising nights out and not inviting me or when confronted about
it making up excuses to keep me away. Their excuses just didn't add up.

This girl and her friend used to be friends with me for a long time but
I noticed how they treated people and knew the signs that something
was wrong for a good while. I didn't say anything and waited to see how
much they would try to get away with until it got really bad and that's
when I started to speak up. They don't think the way they've behaved
is wrong at all but if it was either one of them not being told about a
night out etc I know they wouldn't have acted as well in the situation
as I tried to.

The only thing that makes me feel better is that I know that I've told
the truth of what really happened and have a guilt free conscience
and that this person is lying to everyone they know and has to live
with the damage they've caused.

The friendship we had was good until they turned on me. They ostracised
me and then expected me to continue to be their friend and just take it.
Most people wouldn't accept that sort of treatment from anyone, least of
all their supposed closest friends that they confided in.

The worst thing is I invested a lot in the friendship over the years and
now find myself trying to get a new life which is upsetting. My old friends
from childhood are still around (the ones who haven't left the country yet!)
but I don't get to see them a lot as they have very busy lives.

Anyone have any good advice?