Rescued kitten

So the introduction is not going as well as I had hoped. After several days of the two cats sniffing each other under the door and one moment where sandy came into a room accidentally and froze when he saw her before being herded back out by my OH. We thought on Monday we would begin by putting Belle in her cat carrier and putting her in the same room as him for 5 or 10 minutes.

Even though he was sleeping when we put her in the room he was up and walking around the carrier very promptly. Then he started pawing through the cage. She cowered in the back and wouldn't go near him. The next day we let them touch noses through the crack of a door, he went into a defensive crouch and pawed her through the crack. When she playfully lifted her paw (didn't even reach for him) he went into ears back hissing mode and ran away....not good. Then when I came back from putting her in her room and sat down he jumped up on my knee settled for a sec then sniffed me. Realised he could smell her and jumped up hissing and spiting and ran away again. Double damn!

This morning we had a house guest who left the door to the room she was in ajar by accident. Sandy came bounding up the stairs as she sleepily wondered out and came looking for me. She was totally uninterested in him and was just looking for humans. Second he saw her he went into a crouch again, hissed and ran away.

I don't want to push him and I know he needs to establish his dominance but in all honesty if he can't even be in a room with her without running away that's not going to happen for a while. We already have had trouble with him where he used to attack me all the time and corner me etc but after changing his food and my doing some cat behavioural things to establish that I was the boss and not him he totally settled. Even becoming a bit tubby and wanting to cuddle (which he never did before).

I'm going to go back to the sniffing under a door stage again and work from there. Also we did put him in her room for a while on monday too...he tried to climb out the window and was clawing at the door to get out.

Merry Christmas to Everyone who posted about Belle and all the people who were trying to help her over the last few weeks. This is the Lady herself very unsure as to whether she's really digging this whole Christmas malarkey.

quick update; had a great Christmas she's gotten a bit bigger and bolder. Having a little issue the vet is looking at due to her coughing everynow and then. Could be hairballs because she's excessively grooming (apparently cats who have been abandoned can do this as a psycological reaction, like a self comfort thing) or could be asthma. We're trying the hairball treatment first if that doesn't fix the problem we'll have to test for asthma.

We went and got spayed today. Nothing like a groggy half bald kitten trying to follow you even when she can barely stand to make you feel like an evil person. "I love you even if you do give me to mean people so they can poke me with needles and remove my organs." That's what she's saying.

Not well at all. We still can't get him to put up with her. They'll eat food in seperate bowls near each other but the second the meal is over he starts growling, yowling and getting super aggressive. She doesn't know what to do and is starting to get angry back after 2 weeks of a bad reaction. We can't have them in the same room and if he smells her he's gotten so aggressive he'll actually attack us. Gave my other half a nasty cut on his face.
As the dominant cat I know he wants to be sure of his place and we are trying to do that by lavishing attention on him etc. But he's demanding to be let out the second he hears her meow or smells her. After doing everything by the book I don't know what to do.

How about Last Hope they have a kitten cottage in Meath. And seeming as that is the Meath side of Kilcock they might actually help? I'll try and call them now and post if they are willing to come out so you can get in touch and meet with them when they do.