Returning Engagement Ring

LegacyUser · 04-07-2008 12:39pm #1

Hi Going Unreged for this,

Just got given back the engagement ring from my ex-fiancee the other night, I have it in the box just looking at me for the last few nights and I'm just wondering what do I do with it??

Do I give it back to the shop, do they take them back or what is the way to go! I just can't bear looking at it. I feel so sick that the engagement is over let alone having to look at it in its box, when it should be on the finger of the girl I love!!

(sorry didn't want to post this in weddings page as don't want to depress them, but if I'm in the wrong section feel free to move me)

Wagon · 04-07-2008 12:57pm

**** man, harsh one. Sorry to hear that

Go back to the shop and return it. Get it out of your sight. The last thing you need is it staring at you.

STUBBORNGIRL · 04-07-2008 1:01pm

In ruins wrote: »

Hi Going Unreged for this,

Just got given back the engagement ring from my ex-fiancee the other night, I have it in the box just looking at me for the last few nights and I'm just wondering what do I do with it??

Do I give it back to the shop, do they take them back or what is the way to go! I just can't bear looking at it. I feel so sick that the engagement is over let alone having to look at it in its box, when it should be on the finger of the girl I love!!

(sorry didn't want to post this in weddings page as don't want to depress them, but if I'm in the wrong section feel free to move me)

Firstly i would like to say how sorry i am that this has happened to you. It is a terrible thing that i wouldnt wish on my worst enemy.

To be honest i dont think that the shop would take it back as it isnt new anymore.(well did you just propose and she didnt accept or was it a case that the engagement came to an end) if it was never worn the shop will take it back, if not, you could sell it to a pawn shop but you wouldnt get near the value of what you paid for it. Thats my opinion and i will stand corrected.

Are you sure it is definitely over - is there anyway of you getting back together? just something you would need to think of before passing on the ring!

Good luck to you and i hope you can find a way to move on from this and try to love again. Everything happens for a reason....

pookie82 · 04-07-2008 1:01pm

Aw, that's terrible! You poor thing. How long did she have it? I'm not sure that shops will just take them back, at least not for the original price anyway.

Why don't you ring the jewellers first and see what their policy is? Might be less painful finding out over the phone first before actually showing up with it.

If not I'm sure there's a pawn shop you can take it too - or e-bay!

cjmcork · 04-07-2008 1:04pm

Op - so sorry to hear that this has happened to you

I don't think that the shop would take it back, though it's worth a try, I think they'd find it hard to sell on though...........pawning is terrible cos you'll get absolutely screwed for it's value...........if it's definitely over though, I'd get rid.........perhaps sell it in the local papers? Or donate it to me, I'd love to meet someone that would buy me a diamond;)

Keep the faith though - they say time heals all wounds, I've been there, it doesn't, it just gets easier to bear........

cjmcork · 04-07-2008 1:05pm

oohoohooh, pookie's right - ebay is defo the way to go - make sure you have all your certs, etc.........it'll be snapped up, or how about an auction house?

MJOR · 04-07-2008 1:13pm

yeah ebay it..... Sorry to hear that you are so upset....it is a fairly significant piece...

maybe afterwards donate the money to charity or something...

Oryx · 04-07-2008 1:20pm

I used to work in a jewellers, you are not the only person this has happened to. I saw a few guys come back with rings. Our policy was not to take them back, unfortunately.

Id recommend reselling through a secondhand jewellery shop, ebay etc. But s/h jewellery is hard to shift. You certainly wont get what you paid for it.

Storm_rages · 04-07-2008 1:22pm

Op .. I'm so sorry to hear that.

Go back to the shop, they may take it back or they may offer you a credit note... if not why not auction it.. There are some jewellery auctioneers in Dublin (and most don't charge you to get the ring valued).. i have some numbers if you want to PM me...

cjmcork · 04-07-2008 1:24pm

Mods, don't remove this, I've a feeling OP needs a bit of cheering up - have a look at this and then reflect on who needs help more!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UpPymk3vZoU

Mods, be gentle!

LegacyUser · 04-07-2008 1:43pm

Hi guys thanks for your msgs....Never thought of ebay, I think the shop has a no return policy.

Jst to be fair on the girl it was my fault the engagement ended I did't the worst thing any guy cud do to the girl he loved, and I dont know why, hindsight is a wonderful thing if only u can have it before!!

She has told me she will never be able to wear the ring again as it is jst a circle of lies and it has lost its sparkle...and so have we

the ring is only 3mths old.....still looks like new - hopefully someone will find some happiness out of it somewhere

miles teg · 04-07-2008 2:35pm

website to sell on: http://www.idonowidont.com/newsite.php

other ideas: http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qn4188/is_20040323/ai_n11447208

seamus · 04-07-2008 3:30pm

The problem with this is not that the ring is old - good jewellery doesn't really lose its value over time, it's that jewellers find second-hand engagement rings in particular very difficult to shift for various reasons - superstition, the wish to have a "personal" ring, and so forth.

I'd say Ebay is definitely your best bet.

Gumbyman · 04-07-2008 3:33pm

Hey,

Hard luck mate. A terrible lesson learnt. Ebay the way to go. Some jewellers do second hand gear. There's one at the back of Grafton St I know of. Check them out.

Good luck.

Catari Jaguar · 04-07-2008 4:51pm

Hey man, sorry to hear bout that. You can sell your ring on this site and also have a vent http://www.exboyfriendjewelry.com/

Tim Robbins · 04-07-2008 5:18pm

In ruins2 wrote: »

Hi guys thanks for your msgs....Never thought of ebay, I think the shop has a no return policy.

Jst to be fair on the girl it was my fault the engagement ended I did't the worst thing any guy cud do to the girl he loved, and I dont know why, hindsight is a wonderful thing if only u can have it before!!

She has told me she will never be able to wear the ring again as it is jst a circle of lies and it has lost its sparkle...and so have we

the ring is only 3mths old.....still looks like new - hopefully someone will find some happiness out of it somewhere

If you are sure it's over, yes get rid of it. Whatever you do that, interact via email. If you have to ring and speak to shops, pawn shops, etc and give them the reason why you are selling it, it might be too tough to have to run through the stroy face to face or voice to voice. Do it by e-mail.

If you are not happy with the price, consider donating it to a good charity.

Maybe just put it away for the time being, until you feel up to removing it and are 100% sure it's not going to be.

You have my sympathies.

MagicMarker · 04-07-2008 7:12pm

Sell it and use the money to go away for a few days on holiday and get laid.

Returning Engagement Ring

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