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Would you date someone with a kid?

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  • #52
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    no way, don't like kids, especially some other bloke's kid. Maybe if I was older though it would be different.


  • #53
    CreepingDeath
    Closed Accounts Posts: 8,015 ✭✭✭CreepingDeath


    I always liked Billy Connollys quote...

    "Kids are like farts, you don't mind your own but can't stand anyone elses".


  • #54
    OutlawPete
    Closed Accounts Posts: 17,689 ✭✭✭✭OutlawPete


    stovelid wrote: »
    Where's the option for pretending to like the kid until you get into her pants?

    ;)

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vW95YIpC6Rw


  • #55
    RobbieTheRobber
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,844 ✭✭✭RobbieTheRobber


    wolfpawnat wrote: »
    I am actually quite surpirsed so many people are open minded. From what I saw around home, not many fellas would, then again their mammys would think I would be after the family farm with a bit of road frontage!

    Its different on after hours everyone knows this is the a dublin forum and we have no farms for you to rob :D


  • #56
    piby
    Closed Accounts Posts: 539 ✭✭✭piby


    Well I'm 22 now so in all honestly no I like my damn freedom too much!! But if I was a couple of years older and I really liked the girl than I don't think it would be a problem.


  • #57
    staker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,677 ✭✭✭staker


    Some guys jump at the chance of a ready made family.
    They probably have their own reasons, as well as fancying the lass!!
    I'd not be bothered, just as long as they weren't little brats...


  • #58
    Voodu Child
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,706 ✭✭✭Voodu Child


    I have done and her child wasnt an issue. I think you'd miss out on a lot in life if you made hard and fast rules about who you will/won't date.


  • #59
    Shivers26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 639 ✭✭✭Shivers26


    I have 2 kids. I am just out of a 5 year relationship. Im sure you can imagine the whole dating game is a barrel of fun for me!

    I had 1 child when I got involved in that relationship and it was never a problem for him. We ended up having a child together, he cheated on me (very recently) and fecked off.

    In answer to the question, yes, I would consider dating someone who had a child.


  • #60
    oppenheimer1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,084 ✭✭✭oppenheimer1


    chopperbyrne wrote: »
    My girlfriend has a son. She was very upfront about it and it didn't put me off at all.

    I'm currently setting him up for lifetime of supporting Shamrock Rovers.

    He's already wearing the jersey :)

    why would you be so cruel?


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  • #61
    ryoishin
    Registered Users Posts: 754 ✭✭✭ryoishin


    Im seeing a girl with a kid. Have nt met him yet might be later on, so if anyone has any tips!

    But cant see the kid being a problem but the daddy might.


  • #62
    Shivers26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 639 ✭✭✭Shivers26


    ryoishin wrote: »
    Im seeing a girl with a kid. Have nt met him yet might be later on, so if anyone has any tips!

    But cant see the kid being a problem but the daddy might.

    Depends on the age of the kid tbh. They all like a bit of attention. If the child is old enough to conduct a conversation then just ask questions about what they like etc, if its a younger child sit on the floor and play with them. It will be ok. Dont worry if the behaviour is not the best, I find little kids tend to play up a bit when they have an audience. S/he will settle down once they get used to you.

    Dont worry about the daddy, you the the childs mum deal with him.

    Good luck!


  • #63
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    ryoishin wrote: »
    Im seeing a girl with a kid. Have nt met him yet might be later on, so if anyone has any tips!

    But cant see the kid being a problem but the daddy might.

    tip - gtf out of there


  • #64
    BraziliaNZ
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 5,671 ✭✭✭BraziliaNZ


    Shivers26 wrote: »
    In answer to the question, yes, I would consider dating someone who had a child.

    well beggers can't be choosers!


  • #65
    Shivers26
    Closed Accounts Posts: 639 ✭✭✭Shivers26


    BraziliaNZ wrote: »
    well beggers can't be choosers!

    Nice, real nice


  • #66
    straricco
    Closed Accounts Posts: 56 ✭✭straricco


    I think it depends on what age you are. If your under maybe 26 (ish) well having a kid around prob wouldn't be on the agenda & prob would cramp your style! I'm 31 myself & have a 6 year old. I never would have introduced her to men I was seeing before until last year. Depends on the man, my bf would never have been around kids before meeting mine, she hated him at first, but now they get on great and he genuinely likes being around her. I can get a babysitter anytime, just need a bit of notice, so it doesn't affect our relationship at all. Each to their own, I wouldn't like someone to be around my child if they felt she was in the way, children are human too and deserved to be loved.

    In saying all that, it may be different if the father was still on the scene, having to deal with him too. My childs father died a few years ago so that makes situation easier in ways!


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  • #67
    mr biazzi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 286 ✭✭mr biazzi


    M.I.L.F.
    If you like theperson i dont think it would be such an issue.

    Sorry to here that straricco.


  • #68
    dylano_k
    Registered Users Posts: 809 ✭✭✭dylano_k


    Here's one for ya...

    Would you go out with an ex that has a kid for someone ??

    My current predicament


  • #69
    jenga-jen
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 351 ✭✭jenga-jen


    It wouldn't be a deal breaker for me tbh if he had kid(s).

    It would however be something I'd have to consider since their kid(s) are going to be a huge part of their life and, hopefully, their priority! :) And given that I'm not in a similar position, I'd have to be really sure I liked the person before I got into what can be, in certain setups, a complicated situation.

    Also, having seen it with friends I'd be very wary of getting to know their kid(s) too early on as I'd be wary of mutual upset if it all ended.


  • #70
    KnifeWRENCH
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,148 ✭✭✭✭KnifeWRENCH


    Honestly, I wouldn't do it.
    I don't ever want children of my own, so I have no desire to be a part of raising someone elses child either.


  • #71
    Bard
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,309 ✭✭✭✭Bard


    Been there, done that. They were great kids - fun to be around and a bonus to the relationship, not an issue.


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  • #72
    dylano_k
    Registered Users Posts: 809 ✭✭✭dylano_k


    Listen, you don't want
    no baby-daddy drama.

    Trust me on this one,
    all right?

    For all you know,
    he in prison right now.

    Let's say y'all
    living together.

    Next thing you know,
    you the one going on the
    1st and the 15th...to pick up the
    government check.

    What if he got boys
    that's on the outside...and they stalking you?

    You see what I'm saying?
    You got to think, partner...

    40 year old virgin


  • #73
    Closed ac
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,347 ✭✭✭Closed ac


    I'm dating a kid with someone? Does that count?


  • #74
    DundalkDuffman
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 734 ✭✭✭DundalkDuffman


    straricco wrote: »
    I think it depends on what age you are. If your under maybe 26 (ish) well having a kid around prob wouldn't be on the agenda & prob would cramp your style! I'm 31 myself & have a 6 year old. I never would have introduced her to men I was seeing before until last year.

    Was going to say exactly the same thing re age. I wouldn't have thought much about it til I was back on the dating scene. I am 35 now and given that its late 20somethings/30somethings that I am in the market for then I can't really be expecting singles ie no children in that age category. People have lived their lives and obviously a by product is children. Personally I wouldn't be bothered if there were children on the scene already, a lot of my group of lads have settled with ladies that had children already and it has worked out well, probably very much down to the individual.


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