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Most Pressing Things LGBT people want heterosexuals to know

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  • #52
    Uncle Ruckus
    Registered Users Posts: 203 ✭✭Uncle Ruckus


    I would say the main thing for me is that my gender idenity and sexual orientation are not the sole thngs which define me. I'm an individual first and trans/bi second.


  • #53
    McChubbin
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,080 ✭✭✭McChubbin


    As a bisexual woman, I feel the need to scream at the top of my lungs:
    I DO NOT WANT TO **** EVERYONE! :mad:
    Just because I am sexually attracted to both genders does not mean I am in any way promiscuous or "easy".
    No, I am NOT open to a threesome and no, I'm not confused.
    I've known I was this way since I was twelve. It is not a phase I'm going through. After 14 years of trying to pretend I'm straight, I've had enough of lying to myself but due to the rampant unfair and wholly damaging stereotypes perpetuated by society, I feel I have to live life with one foot in the closet just to have an easy life.
    I make no secret of being bi- my Facebook page shows I'm interested in both men and women, for example- but as of yet, I've never actually come right out and stated it explicitly as I fear being ridiculed and forced to "pick a side" and "stop being greedy".
    It's an open secret in my family and one I'm tired of sweeping under the carpet.
    I really wish bisexuals had more positive portrayals in the media and that the orientation is not used as an excuse to paint someone as slutty, confused or greedy just because they find qualities of both sexes equally attractive.


  • #54
    jobbridge4life
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,759 ✭✭✭jobbridge4life


    Simply that your knowing my homosexuality does not equate to your knowing the totality of my person. There is as much diversity within the homosexual community as there is without. To be fair there are plenty of us homosexers who need to remind themselves of this too.


  • #55
    babysock88
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭babysock88


    I would like if my straight friends took a bit more interest in LGBT issues and also we're more interested in my romantic life as I find they don't know how to deal with it I suppose and are evasive of asking questions about my dates with women but they are coming around to the idea gradually which is positive!


  • #56
    Ash885
    Registered Users Posts: 639 ✭✭✭Ash885


    babysock88 wrote: »
    I would like if my straight friends took a bit more interest in LGBT issues and also we're more interested in my romantic life as I find they don't know how to deal with it I suppose and are evasive of asking questions about my dates with women but they are coming around to the idea gradually which is positive!


    Sometimes I'm the opposite. Because I'm gay sometimes it's the hot topic who I'm seeing (if anyone), what a date was like as if it were some sort of hot gossip. I guess it can work both ways as I don't really like broadcasting that kind of stuff to the nation, and I know it's only amplified due to the fact I'm gay.

    We're all so hard to please :pac:


  • #57
    babysock88
    Registered Users Posts: 24 ✭babysock88


    Ash,

    Yea I guess that would be equally annoying. You're romantic encounters are not or shouldn't be used for entertainment or idle gossip for people I agree. I find that some of my friends think I'm going through a phase and therefore feel as though acknowledging my sexuality by asking questions about dates and so forth would actually be giving the impression they are taking it seriously.

    I think if heterosexuality wasn't presumed always as a default, us queer folks wouldn't have these problems but alas!


  • #58
    BonnieSituation
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,085 ✭✭✭✭BonnieSituation


    McChubbin wrote: »
    As a bisexual woman, I feel the need to scream at the top of my lungs:
    I DO NOT WANT TO **** EVERYONE! :mad:
    Just because I am sexually attracted to both genders does not mean I am in any way promiscuous or "easy".
    No, I am NOT open to a threesome and no, I'm not confused.
    I've known I was this way since I was twelve. It is not a phase I'm going through. After 14 years of trying to pretend I'm straight, I've had enough of lying to myself but due to the rampant unfair and wholly damaging stereotypes perpetuated by society, I feel I have to live life with one foot in the closet just to have an easy life.
    I make no secret of being bi- my Facebook page shows I'm interested in both men and women, for example- but as of yet, I've never actually come right out and stated it explicitly as I fear being ridiculed and forced to "pick a side" and "stop being greedy".
    It's an open secret in my family and one I'm tired of sweeping under the carpet.
    I really wish bisexuals had more positive portrayals in the media and that the orientation is not used as an excuse to paint someone as slutty, confused or greedy just because they find qualities of both sexes equally attractive.

    There's not much more to add to this other than " YES"


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