Ive been going out with my gf about 6 months now and if im honest it hasnt been the easiest but generally we get along well, shes lovely, we have a lot in common etc. The only thing is shes really selfish in bed.
When we're in bed together i instigate everything and for the most part she'll just lie there even though when i get things started she really does enjoy it. She doesnt like giving oral sex and has only done it once when i asked and more then that she'll never even touch me unless its something for her i.e once ive gotten her into the mood. I dont think shes ever even rolled over and kissed me, i always do that first too. Im starting to think that if i made no move nothing would ever happen.
I should make two points at this stage, i know she enjoys everything i do for her, if it was an aspect where she just didnt have much of a sex drive that would be absolutely fine, its the fact that by her own admission she does have quite a high sex drive thats baffling me.
Also, im pretty inexperienced and have had performance issues from the start which i only mention because im aware that that might be contributing to her lethargy but she doesnt even try anything to get me going.
Essentially our sex life is her going along with whatever i instigate with no energy or input from her and it makes me feel like a pervert tbh. This continues until shes in the mood too and then shes even less interested in doing anything for me.
I apologise if theres too much info here or if it seems like im blaming her for everything, i honestly dont mean to, im just completely exasperated by the whole scenario. Everything else seems fine but she will literally instigate nothing, try nothing. Its not even that she wont try anything out of her comfort zone she wont try anything at all and its only recently hit me how angry its starting to make me.
I could easily be as much to blame for this, my performance problems obviously must be very irritating for her too but i try at least.
Any advice or comments appreciated and sorry about the stream of consciousness post.