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Eternal Wonderer wrote: »

You heard mixed reviews on internet dating, yet you still tried it, so why can't you try a gay club?

Don't listen to what others say, everyone has their own opinions. Go and experience it for yourself and make your own mind up.

That really is the best advise. People warned me off both but I found I enjoyed both (for a while). Like everything else in life, you get out of it what you put into it, keep an open mind and if all else fails, get blind drunk ^_^

crayolastereo wrote: »

They're generally fairly ****, its always 100% men and everyone is a weird sex crazed maniac looking for cam shows. I would stick to something like facebook or tagged or something, because then the people there are going to be there for friends as well as anything else. The GYC isn't bad though.

After getting the best advice from the previous poster, thats the worst advice! :rolleyes:

Its complete bull that everyone is a "weird sex crazed maniac" have you even been on a gay dating website? Even gaydar isnt 100% like that and it seems to have the worst reputation!

To the original poster, you're going to get mixed views and Im not sure about bars but internet dating is definitely something you have to find out for yourself. Ive had 2 boyfriends as a result of internet dating and also had a few dates who turned into friends.

My advice is dont believe the hype that everyone wants sex. Yes there can be a lot who may seem sleezy but in my experience its not the vast majority unlike common belief.

Bars can be good fun if you go with mates, its another way to possibly meet someone. Speed dating is also a great way to meet lots of guys be that a potential boyfriend or just friends. Again its not everyones taste but I did it twice and had a lot of fun

Craigslist maybe? I don't know how active the Irish one is though.

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which sites are good for meeting people for dates? I tried gaire and queerid and gaydar but none of them really worked - any others?

despite the name manhunt is an alright site! ive actually met some nice guys from that site

I find the stereotype that everyone on them is looking for sex to be pretty accurate.

Even guys who say in their profiles that they are "looking for a serious relationship" or "friends first" and the ever popular "not interested in one-nighters" tend to ignore you entirely if you're not looking to jump in bed at 2am on a Friday night.

Nobody seems to bother taking time to chat with others & try to get to know them.. at least not with the likes of me. (I wish I knew why.)

I try to be personable, and try to make it known that I'm looking for friends.. and yet all I get are propositions for sex.. and if I'm feeling randy & accept one.. I generally get stood up.

If anyone knows of ways to actually meet other gay men, in person, in settings that are not sexually charged.. please let me know what some of them are!