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Princess Peach wrote: »I'd just like maybe one friend I could talk with!
I think you have a whole thread full of them here
I think I had a panic attack a few months ago and it was a bit scary if I'm honest. I tried to remember the other day what got me so worked up and I couldn't even remember, but I know it was something completely trivial and stupid. I eventually remembered what it was and even now, it seems stupid to have got so worked up over it.
Anyway this thing happened and I started to feel massively angry. And I mean really angry. I couldn't let go of this and I started to feel very tense and uptight. By the time it came to go to bed, I was still wound up like a coil and feeling worse. I felt sick, I felt like my heart was racing and I started to have a freak out in my head. It got so bad I was asking myself if I needed to go to the hospital and get them to give me something to calm down, or should I just wait and go to the GP as soon as I could.
I eventually calmed down after a few hours and after making myself be sick in the hope that would get rick of the "sick" feeling I was having. And during the night I eventually fell asleep but only got a few hours sleep. I got up the next morning and took the day off work sick. I went to the shops to get some herbal stuff to try and calm me down the next time it happened. But I felt very weird that day. I felt like I'd been through some strange event and everyone was looking at me.
The next night I slept ok-ish and was back to normal then the next day.
But even now, I still get these mad freak outs in my head. The last time I was home I could hear a house alarm ringing about 1am. My aunt lives across the road and her house is the only one I know of that has an alarm. I knew she and her husband were away on holiday but that her children/my cousins may be there or could be out (they're in their 20's). But of course I started to freak out and couldn't sleep. All this stuff started going through my head "Should I go over and check on things? Should I call the police? Should I wake my parents and ask them what to do? What happens if the place gets burgled? What happens if it gets burgled and I could have stopped it had I just done something? What happens if it gets burgled and my aunt finds out I heard the alarm ringing and did nothing about it, she will blame me for their house getting cleared out"
This was all rushing through my head. Again, after about 2 hours I finally calmed down and was able to go to sleep. I used to freak out about things the odd time but it would be something big like the few times I emmigrated to another country, but even then the freak out feeling would only last about 10 seconds. Now, these things just seem to come on and I can't seem to stop them. I sometimes try to think about other things but the anxiety is so overpowering, it's a bit like trying to stop a runaway train. I often just have to let it run it's course.
I sometimes get all nervous and fidgety at work out of the blue and I'm not sure why. I can't sit still and it's like I have to keep moving to stay awake or stay "in reality" or something. At lunch I get uptight and can't drink liquids without having to almost force them down my throat. This started after one time I was having lunch and went to drink and I wasn't ready to swallow my drink or something and it was like my brain ceased up and I've been tense about it ever since. I know it's all in my head as when I'm elsewhere and not thinking about it, it never happens.
Any kind of little twinge or pain I get, I automatically start to think the absolute worst.
I'm not sure why this has started to happen over the last year or so. But I think my job is a big part of it. I was always a worrier but it was never this bad until about a year or a year and a half ago and I think it was my job driving me insane that has tipped me over the edge.
I have a doctors appointment tomorrrow morning about something else and I'm going to ask him about the anxiety thing when I'm there. To be honest, I'd say both things could be related, but lets see.0 -
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what good will dropping out of college do? how are you going to be able to go next year? you need to face this problem now and the first step is your gp for most people
my advice is go running 3 times a week, go swimming 2 times a week, take a vitamin d3 supplement, take rhodiola rosea and see how you feel in a month. much better i would say
Thanks for your response. I probably should have mentioned in my first post that this is an ongoing problem. I've been to my GP, psychiatrists and a psychologist and have been taking different medication and receiving different types of therapy for about three years.
I also try to take very good care of my physical health as I think it's directly related to mental health. It's hard to maintain a good exercise regime with depression but it's pretty much my main priority above everything else each day to make sure that I get some exercise, get to sleep on time, and eat proper meals. I've never heard of rhodiola rosea, I'll definitely look into it, thank you
My logic behind dropping out was that if I fail this year I wouldn't get into the degree program I want. Whereas if I take a year out to "improve" I could start again next year with a clean slate. Dropping out would be a last resort though, in that it would be pretty depressing in itself to have to drop out basically at the start of first year...0 -
Thanks for your response. I probably should have mentioned in my first post that this is an ongoing problem. I've been to my GP, psychiatrists and a psychologist and have been taking different medication and receiving different types of therapy for about three years.
I also try to take very good care of my physical health as I think it's directly related to mental health. It's hard to maintain a good exercise regime with depression but it's pretty much my main priority above everything else each day to make sure that I get some exercise, get to sleep on time, and eat proper meals. I've never heard of rhodiola rosea, I'll definitely look into it, thank you
My logic behind dropping out was that if I fail this year I wouldn't get into the degree program I want. Whereas if I take a year out to "improve" I could start again next year with a clean slate. Dropping out would be a last resort though, in that it would be pretty depressing in itself to have to drop out basically at the start of first year...
dropping out will only put your life on hold and make you feel like you failed. you have to stick it out. you say you "could" start next year again, life is not all about could have, should have , might have etc. live in the here and now and stop thinking about tomorrow
read this http://www.aetw.org/reiki_gokai2.htm0 -
Thanks for your response. I probably should have mentioned in my first post that this is an ongoing problem. I've been to my GP, psychiatrists and a psychologist and have been taking different medication and receiving different types of therapy for about three years.
I also try to take very good care of my physical health as I think it's directly related to mental health. It's hard to maintain a good exercise regime with depression but it's pretty much my main priority above everything else each day to make sure that I get some exercise, get to sleep on time, and eat proper meals. I've never heard of rhodiola rosea, I'll definitely look into it, thank you
My logic behind dropping out was that if I fail this year I wouldn't get into the degree program I want. Whereas if I take a year out to "improve" I could start again next year with a clean slate. Dropping out would be a last resort though, in that it would be pretty depressing in itself to have to drop out basically at the start of first year...
I would say, go to your lectures. If you can. Just do your best to get into a routine of getting up in the morning and going in to college. It's never as bad as you expect. I know it's very hard and it's easily said but i think once something becomes routine then it stops being an issue. I mean i manage to go into work every morning because I've been doing it for years. But I know if i had to start a new job i'd find it very hard to go in. Or if i have to go somewhere i'm not in the routine of going it's almost impossible for me. Once your routine is created it will hopefully get easier. Good luck. Steal the Nike logo. "Just do it"0 -
I think you have a whole thread full of them here
I think I had a panic attack a few months ago and it was a bit scary if I'm honest. I tried to remember the other day what got me so worked up and I couldn't even remember, but I know it was something completely trivial and stupid. I eventually remembered what it was and even now, it seems stupid to have got so worked up over it.
Anyway this thing happened and I started to feel massively angry. And I mean really angry. I couldn't let go of this and I started to feel very tense and uptight. By the time it came to go to bed, I was still wound up like a coil and feeling worse. I felt sick, I felt like my heart was racing and I started to have a freak out in my head. It got so bad I was asking myself if I needed to go to the hospital and get them to give me something to calm down, or should I just wait and go to the GP as soon as I could.
I eventually calmed down after a few hours and after making myself be sick in the hope that would get rick of the "sick" feeling I was having. And during the night I eventually fell asleep but only got a few hours sleep. I got up the next morning and took the day off work sick. I went to the shops to get some herbal stuff to try and calm me down the next time it happened. But I felt very weird that day. I felt like I'd been through some strange event and everyone was looking at me.
The next night I slept ok-ish and was back to normal then the next day.
But even now, I still get these mad freak outs in my head. The last time I was home I could hear a house alarm ringing about 1am. My aunt lives across the road and her house is the only one I know of that has an alarm. I knew she and her husband were away on holiday but that her children/my cousins may be there or could be out (they're in their 20's). But of course I started to freak out and couldn't sleep. All this stuff started going through my head "Should I go over and check on things? Should I call the police? Should I wake my parents and ask them what to do? What happens if the place gets burgled? What happens if it gets burgled and I could have stopped it had I just done something? What happens if it gets burgled and my aunt finds out I heard the alarm ringing and did nothing about it, she will blame me for their house getting cleared out"
This was all rushing through my head. Again, after about 2 hours I finally calmed down and was able to go to sleep. I used to freak out about things the odd time but it would be something big like the few times I emmigrated to another country, but even then the freak out feeling would only last about 10 seconds. Now, these things just seem to come on and I can't seem to stop them. I sometimes try to think about other things but the anxiety is so overpowering, it's a bit like trying to stop a runaway train. I often just have to let it run it's course.
I sometimes get all nervous and fidgety at work out of the blue and I'm not sure why. I can't sit still and it's like I have to keep moving to stay awake or stay "in reality" or something. At lunch I get uptight and can't drink liquids without having to almost force them down my throat. This started after one time I was having lunch and went to drink and I wasn't ready to swallow my drink or something and it was like my brain ceased up and I've been tense about it ever since. I know it's all in my head as when I'm elsewhere and not thinking about it, it never happens.
Any kind of little twinge or pain I get, I automatically start to think the absolute worst.
I'm not sure why this has started to happen over the last year or so. But I think my job is a big part of it. I was always a worrier but it was never this bad until about a year or a year and a half ago and I think it was my job driving me insane that has tipped me over the edge.
I have a doctors appointment tomorrrow morning about something else and I'm going to ask him about the anxiety thing when I'm there. To be honest, I'd say both things could be related, but lets see.
Hey Goingur,
Thats very similar to what happens to me- have had the choking feeling on a number of occasions and have become particularly bad for suddenly panicking in work of late. In the last few weeks I have had to leave work on a number of occasions and walk around for 20-30 mins to calm myself down! I too have always been a worrier but I began having panic attacks about 4 years ago.
The only advise i would give is to ask your doctor about counselling and maybe get some self help books. I have just got a new one which im finding really really helpful (my counsellor recommended it). Its called "The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook". I got it on amazon. It gives alot of advise on how to improve your negative self talk, what exercise is good for anxiety, what to eat etc.
Also I have started taking 20 mins everyday to just relax ( I listen to a Paul McKenna hynotherapy cd to reduce stress- but there are other ways of doing this too) and force myself out of the house for a half hour walk every eve. This has really started to help me even just doing it for a week or so. My panic attacks have become less intense over the last week. (Have been going through a bad period of late!)
Anyways, hope that helps.
On the friend issue, I find that there is an awful lot of people out there in very similar positions to me who I can talk with. Maybe its my age (28) but at least 5 or 6 of my close friends have experienced a panic attack and I would talk about it very openly with most of my friends (I find making light of it helps me quite a bit with them). Some can be very stupid about it but most others are very understanding if you do open up to them.0 -
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Originally Posted by Princess Peach
I'd just like maybe one friend I could talk with!
I think you have a whole thread full of them here
I concur with this statement, you've a whole thread of friends here.
I really enjoy your posts and the insight and advice you give.
Keep chatting to your online friends and hopefully an offline friend you can talk to will come along eventually...0 -
thrilledskinny wrote: »Originally Posted by Princess Peach
I'd just like maybe one friend I could talk with!
I think you have a whole thread full of them here
I concur with this statement, you've a whole thread of friends here.
I really enjoy your posts and the insight and advice you give.
Keep chatting to your online friends and hopefully an offline friend you can talk to will come along eventually...
Aw thats nice!
I feel I've done some damage with some of my friends because of this not talking to them. I was pretty down for some of August and September, and I didn't really talk to some of my friends, and one friend had organised a few nights out that I didn't feel up to going on, so I just kept telling her I was sick. I think she thought I was just being rude, and now she won't really talk to me, and makes excuses for all my attempts to meet up with her. Maybe the same for the girl she is best friends with, you know how girls gang together. But I don't know if I can tell her the truth about why I was so distant, I just don't really know how, but I dont think I can magically bring back our friendship.
I feel like I'm losing friends too often!0 -
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I know what you're saying Princess Peach, I always felt with my friends if I talked too much about things they didn't want to listen to or had no idea about, they'd just go silent. Ya, you could try to be happier around them, or only see them when you're feeling up to it, but then how is that really a good friendship. I'm not saying I've the answer, I'm just saying I know how you feel.
I haven't really got any friends now and it's probably down to something like that. I know I fobbed people off a few years back and they gave up on me (I didn't like them much anyway, and hadn't been diagnosed at the time). So I'd be inclined to say make an effort with them, but at the same time there's a certain amount they have to accept you for the way you are if they want to be friends with you.
It's hard to know what to do for the best. But you can always talk to us lot. And you could PM me if you like. I'm on this so feckin much :rolleyes: it'd hardly be long before I got back to you anyway 0 -
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I originally posted this in the G.A.D. thread but as this one gets more traffic I think I'll post an abridged version here even if it is just as a form of therapy for myself to have an anonymous rant.
I was diagnosed with GAD at the start of my second year of college.I think I was suffering from it a lot longer (for example found the L.C. and J.C. exams incredibly hard). What brought about the diagnosis was simply a complete and utter freak out on the morning of my first Christmas exam that year and the campus doc was quick to see that I had a history of this and that previous visits with GPs hadn't properly addressed the problem. I had to be given Xanax just to let me be able to get through those exams. I started seeing the doctor regularly and tried CBT but the "demon" in my head seemed to be too strong to be overcome by that alone so I started on anti-depressants. I've been taking them since, now three years on. Sometimes I wonder if they are having any effect. I hate taking them but too afraid to stop.
The thing is, I have some exams to take over the next two weeks...they are exams I had to postpone because I had a major panic episode on the morning of the first one back in the summer. I'm utterly convinced I'm going to fail. Nobody seems to understand the pure panic that is in my head, the horrible racing thoughts, the mental block, the inability to recall anything I spent so long trying to learn. I used to be a very good student, used to get A's or B's. Now I'm even just praying to pass. It horrifies me really because I feel I've devoted so much of my time to learning that the piece of paper I'll get on graduating won't reflect that.
To add to this, all this talk of recession, recession and the "smart economy"...I know I don't have a hope of getting a job and that I'll have to drag my ass back to do a Master's....that thought sickens me. I just can't handle it. I feel that I've stressed and struggled this far and it has nearly cost me my sanity.
Anxiety is taking over my life. I can't/don't want to accept that every time I do something new or face a challenge (be it work, academic, relationship) I'll not be able to rise to the challenge because of this anxiety. It's a sort of "once bitten, twice shy" type of situation. I'm anxious now about being anxious.I have great friends and family who understand and encourage me...but I'm tired of putting them through this and of always having to be reassured. I hate that I have to live with this and that I have had to reduce my dreams/expectations of myself accordingly. I want to just be like everyone else (or what it appears to me) and just be able to cope, you know?
I just want to know am I ever going to get over this? I'm at the end of my tether. Where do I go from here?? What strategies have others implemented to help them through? Do other people suffer from this complete inability to perform in exams? I have enriched my life over the last few years with hobbies which has helped but every time that things get tough I always find myself back at square one. Right now I can't eat or sleep, or I will sleep too much. I feel awful most of the time. 0 -
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Hi MUSEIST and everyone.
This thread is a really great idea and ranting on here has helped me with a rough time recently. Those who've read my earlier posts will know I have been resitting college exams over the past few weeks. Finished up on Thurs. Waiting for results now. Quite anxious over one in particular as it was really awful on the day but there's not much I can do except wait. I've found family support over the past two weeks immensely helpful. I really couldn't have asked for better.
The challenge that faces me now is getting myself back on the rails and using my time to really try and work on my anxiety (I know from experience that when the time of crisis eases I tend to brush the problem under the carpet but i REALLY can't afford to do that anymore). MUSEIST I'd be interested to know how you dealt with the fallout of dropping out of your course...having had to defer my exams I know I felt so crap and inadequate and spent a lot of time wondering why the hell I wasn't able to get through when everyone around me was gettin on so good. It was a really disheartening and confusing time and I totally alienated myself from my friends at college over the summer cos I couldn't hack that they were all graduating and I was not. I still feel a little that way but I'm trying to focus on the future..my OWN future, not anyone else's and I find this is helping me on the way.
I have a long way to go yet. But I'm talking tomorrow one day at a time....kinda like what this guy says:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jTU92m_JEx8&feature=related
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