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How do people feel about being called love?

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  • #92
    Peter Denham
    Closed Accounts Posts: 181 ✭✭Peter Denham


    BBFAN wrote: »
    I'm so happy that you feel able to be treated like an a slave. However ,I'm not, I'm the boss in this case.

    Doesn't sound like it, your employee doesn't seem to take you too seriously anyway.


  • #93
    BBFAN
    Registered Users Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭BBFAN


    Surreptitious wrote: »
    I remember doing a group project placement in a place where we had to share the toilets with men, there were only two of us females there. On a Monday morning you'd be subject to a feed of farts and scutter and grunts. They had page three gals stuck to the walls there covered in sperm and what about it? People are too PC these days.

    Hmm, yes, it's PC to not put up with this disgusting crap just to make a daily wage.

    I feel sorry for you Surrepitious that you think putting up with this crap is the only way to make to a living. Fortunately I'm not so desperate.


  • #94
    vectorvictor
    Registered Users Posts: 745 ✭✭✭vectorvictor


    The biggest problem with this thread is employers needing to tell everyone they are on the SMT to avoid churn.

    Most directors know that the SMT is the paygrade above bin changer but strangely it works enough for the snowflakes who need to feel "valued"


  • #95
    Omackeral
    Registered Users Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭Omackeral


    BBFAN wrote: »
    Well take I it I'm one of the "suits upstairs", as you call them. Do you still call them love?

    I read that as ''sluts upstairs''. What an interesting workplace that would be!


  • #96
    Surreptitious
    Registered Users Posts: 8,130 ✭✭✭Surreptitious


    BBFAN wrote: »
    Hmm, yes, it's PC to not put up with this disgusting crap just to make a daily wage.

    I feel sorry for you Surrepitious that you think putting up with this crap is the only way to make to a living. Fortunately I'm not so desperate.

    I actually sweep roads for a living, didn't finish school and only have one leg. Peace out.


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  • #97
    BBFAN
    Registered Users Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭BBFAN


    vectorvictor wrote: »
    The biggest problem with this thread is employers needing to tell everyone they are on the SMT to avoid churn.

    Most directors know that the SMT is the paygrade above bin changer but strangely enough it works enough for the snowflakes who need to feel "valued"

    What are you on about now hun?


  • #98
    yabadabado
    Registered Users Posts: 16,520 ✭✭✭✭yabadabado


    Call him boy from now on.Should sort it all out .


  • #99
    Pac1Man
    Registered Users Posts: 4,394 ✭✭✭Pac1Man


    I'm the boss. I'm the gaffer. The book stops with me.


  • #100
    BBFAN
    Registered Users Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭BBFAN


    yabadabado wrote: »
    Call him boy from now on.Should sort it all out .

    It's actually a great idea, think I will.


  • #101
    vectorvictor
    Registered Users Posts: 745 ✭✭✭vectorvictor


    BBFAN wrote: »
    What are you on about now hun?

    That you're a little pleb in a big pond or possibly vice versa


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  • #102
    eviltwin
    Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    BBFAN wrote: »
    Hmm, yes, it's PC to not put up with this disgusting crap just to make a daily wage.

    I feel sorry for you Surrepitious that you think putting up with this crap is the only way to make to a living. Fortunately I'm not so desperate.

    I'd say you're great craic on the office nights out......


  • #103
    Peter Denham
    Closed Accounts Posts: 181 ✭✭Peter Denham


    BBFAN wrote: »
    What are you on about now hun?

    How come you're not able to provide a reason why you feel it's appropriate for a lecturer to call adult students love, but between colleagues it's disgusting?


  • #104
    BBFAN
    Registered Users Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭BBFAN


    Surreptitious wrote: »
    I actually sweep roads for a living, didn't finish school and only have one leg. Peace out.

    Alright son.


  • #105
    Zorya
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,194 ✭✭✭Zorya


    BBFAN wrote: »
    I'm so happy that you feel able to be treated like an a slave. However ,I'm not, I'm the boss in this case.

    They are not being treated like a slave. People just get into habits - I don't say pet or love or dear but I've a few pals who say such things completely unconsciously. I like being addressed randomly with endearments. If I really had a problem with it I would come up with some response that would both bring the event into sharp relief and maintain good humour. It's just so not worth getting worked up about given the actual real unbearable suffering many people face day in day out.


  • #106
    Omackeral
    Registered Users Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭Omackeral


    BBFAN wrote: »
    From someone who doesn't think it's any problem that people refer to them as babe I'm not a bit worried about your opinion.

    You're coming off as very defensive there, horsebox.


  • #107
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,065 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    BBFAN wrote: »
    It's hilarious in here. Yeah I did post in the wrong forum. I'll move to work problems to get opinions from people who actually work.
    :D

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    grindle wrote: »
    Counterpoint - with the knowledge that we're living in an epoch of safety, people who're getting ped off about the minutae of daily interactions are actually testing boundaries to see where the balance should lie. Bringing about a new stage of intellectual development where we all become the most boring bastards ever back-and-forthing inane "doesn't-really-matter" horseshon a niche website populated by drunk/drugged/lonely/pathetic/bored/fidgety Irish citizens.

    I don't personally like getting called "pet", "love", "hun", etc etc - but I'm well aware they don't mean harm and that my annoyance should throw the benefits of my life into sharp relief.

    "This is what I'm pissed off by?"

    Progress tends to slow as it advances, maybe this is the interpersonal side of Moore's Law. We've gotten through the worst struggles and now we as a species have to navigate all the most boring crap (obv. whilst ignoring the mountains of shwe're going to hand to our kids of course).
    I'd agree with that alright G.
    Peter Denham wrote: »
    I offered an example of college lecturer and a shop owner and you dismissed these as not work, but these people were working.... is it just office work you mean? Or is it only an issue when it's between colleagues?
    Offices are more likely to have HR depts P. A department whose sole purpose seems to be scowling. Often at eff all. Gotta justify their budget.
    BBFAN wrote: »
    I'm so happy that you feel able to be treated like an a slave. However ,I'm not, I'm the boss in this case.
    A slave. :D:pac: Jesus BB, unclench. You're his boss? OK, contrary to popular belief a title doesn't(nor shouldn't) automatically engender respect. In many companies titles are often conferred more for longevity than efficiency. Respect is earned. Never mind that this guy most likely does respect your position and you and maybe this is how he shows it. If others under you report the same disquiet, then ramp it up to a second request.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #108
    BBFAN
    Registered Users Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭BBFAN


    Peter Denham wrote: »
    How come you're not able to provide a reason why you feel it's appropriate for a lecturer to call adult students love, but between colleagues it's disgusting?

    I don't think it's appropriate for lecturers to a call students love. When did I say that?


  • #109
    Omackeral
    Registered Users Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭Omackeral


    BBFAN wrote: »
    I don't think it's appropriate for lecturers to a call students love. When did I say that?

    Seriously, relax Chief.


  • #110
    Peter Denham
    Closed Accounts Posts: 181 ✭✭Peter Denham


    BBFAN wrote: »
    I don't think it's appropriate for lecturers to a call students love. When did I say that?

    Earlier on I offered this example and you dismissed it as a social setting.

    I for one love my lecturer, very intelligent woman and really friendly. I don't feel degraded at all when she calls me love.


  • #111
    vectorvictor
    Registered Users Posts: 745 ✭✭✭vectorvictor


    Peter Denham wrote: »
    Earlier on I offered this example and you dismissed it as a social setting.

    I think the op has well demonstrated at this point that she has missed her weekly recovery meeting ...


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  • #112
    Zorya
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,194 ✭✭✭Zorya


    Omackeral wrote: »
    You're coming off as very defensive there, horsebox.

    Hahaha horsebox! Really laughed out loud :D


  • #113
    sydthebeat
    Subscribers Posts: 40,953 ✭✭✭✭sydthebeat


    I got called "mate" by a big burley bloke earlier.... And we've never even had sex!!

    Should I be annoyed??


  • #114
    vectorvictor
    Registered Users Posts: 745 ✭✭✭vectorvictor


    sydthebeat wrote: »
    I got called "mate" by a big burley bloke earlier.... And we've never even had sex!!

    Should I be annoyed??

    How's the beard rash ?


  • #115
    Omackeral
    Registered Users Posts: 32,956 ✭✭✭✭Omackeral


    Zorya wrote: »
    Hahaha horsebox! Really laughed out loud :D

    It's all very this isn't it..?

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zuQK6t2Esng


  • #116
    BBFAN
    Registered Users Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭BBFAN


    Omackeral wrote: »
    You're coming off as very defensive there, horsebox.

    Alright son.


  • #117
    Naos
    Registered Users Posts: 4,728 ✭✭✭Naos


    BBFAN wrote: »
    From someone who doesn't think it's any problem that people refer to them as babe I'm not a bit worried about your opinion.

    So you only take on-board opinions that align to your own?

    I think Big Brother is a pile of ****e. Should I disregard everything you say because you watch Big Brother?


  • #118
    BBFAN
    Registered Users Posts: 2,228 ✭✭✭BBFAN


    Omackeral wrote: »
    Seriously, relax Chief.

    Alright son.


  • #119
    Zorya
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,194 ✭✭✭Zorya


    BBFAN wrote: »
    Alright son.

    It looks like you have found your solution. Ribbing and mocking can be helpful......son.


  • #120
    Peter Denham
    Closed Accounts Posts: 181 ✭✭Peter Denham


    BBFAN wrote: »
    Alright son.

    Do you think my lecturer is "disgusting" for calling me love? Or that I'm a "slave" for allowing her to call me that?

    It's OK to say that it's fine when a woman says it, if that's what you've been avoiding.


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  • #121
    Surreptitious
    Registered Users Posts: 8,130 ✭✭✭Surreptitious


    Peter Denham wrote: »
    Do you think my lecturer is "disgusting" for calling me love? Or that I'm a "slave" for allowing her to call me that?

    It's OK to say that it's fine when a woman says it, if that's what you've been avoiding.

    You're a slave to love man, face up to it :D


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