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11-07-2019, 13:53   #31
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I feel worse for you OP, this recycled rinse and repeat crap pops up regularly like a bad TV repeat.

Have you nothing better to be doing with your time than trying to push this bull**** Agenda.

Maybe take up a hobby or do something positive like Volunteering.
Woah. What do you mean?
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11-07-2019, 13:55   #32
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Christ I hate this attitude - life has a purpose without procreating. How patronising to say otherwise. Maybe your life has nothing in it before kids, thankfully its not that way for others.

A lot of people dedicate their lives to themselves and that is perfectly fine. They want to travel, see the world, have money to have a comfortable standard of living and that is ok.

Each to their own but the patronising crap from some parents needs to stop. Wrecks my head.

Chill out there it’s just my own opinion.

I don’t speak for others

I have got great joy from being a parent and couldn’t imagine it any other way.

Me thinks thou doth protest too much

You are now on my list of enemies :-)
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11-07-2019, 13:56   #33
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I find it mad that so many people end up having kids tbh. I mean isn't it just easier not to have them? I think lots of people have them because they're in a relationship and that's what they're supposed to do. Doubt I'll be having any but my brother just had one at 43 (an accident) so at least that keeps my mother happy and gets me off the hook.
I also think if you need kids to be happy you're not very interesting and don't know how to enjoy life properly.
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11-07-2019, 14:02   #34
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One thing I particularly noticed about census data from the past is the number of people who didn't have kids. It seemed to either be married with 7 kids or not married at all.

I think a lot more people have kids nowadays, just not as many.

You don't need to have children to feel fulfilled in life. But there is the big biological clock in the room that nobody is allowed talk about.
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I find it mad that so many people end up having kids tbh. I mean isn't it just easier not to have them? I think lots of people have them because they're in a relationship and that's what they're supposed to do. Doubt I'll be having any but my brother just had one at 43 (an accident) so at least that keeps my mother happy and gets me off the hook.
I also think if you need kids to be happy you're not very interesting and don't know how to enjoy life properly.
Nonsense.

People want kids because they like kids and want their own kids, just like people want pets because they love dogs/cats and want them. People also don't want kids for plenty of reasons (I'm sort of torn, myself) and that's fine too.

Why does one side or the other have to be better? It seems people without kids can't accept that having kids can be a really good thing, and likewise people with kids seem to often look down on those without them. There's no wrong decision, either way.

Let people do whatever the f*ck they want and stop making sweeping generalizations, basically.
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I just think lots of people have them because they don't know what else to do. We all have an existential crisis at some stage.
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One thing I particularly noticed about census data from the past is the number of people who didn't have kids. It seemed to either be married with 7 kids or not married at all.

I think a lot more people have kids nowadays, just not as many.

You don't need to have children to feel fulfilled in life. But there is the big biological clock in the room that nobody is allowed talk about.
Nobody is allowed to talk about it? News to me.
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Women who want kids, unfortunately for them, need to make serious plans about getting on with it as they hit 30, especially if they are single.

This modern image of a woman being a high flying corporate type doesn't tend to tag along the caveat that, should she want kids, she can't wait for forever.
Waheeeeey, you got it in there.

Hardly just 30. Loads of women are having healthy babies in their 30s now - and you know this.

There's always at least one person who thinks women are idiots, and that they don't know their fertile years have a limit.
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I have no children and my life is full of purpose. I'm very lucky
Reality TV doesn't count as a purpose.
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Nobody is allowed to talk about it? News to me.
The massive biological differences between men and women of child bearing years.

I don't see it talked about nearly enough.
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Reality TV doesn't count as a purpose.
Well neither does raising a kid. Nothing really counts as a purpose. Existence is pointless really and then you vanish forever.
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Well neither does raising a kid. Nothing really counts as a purpose. Existence is pointless really and then you vanish forever.
We are programmed to procreate to keep our successful variation of genes going to the next generation.
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We are programmed to procreate to keep our successful variation of genes going to the next generation.
Well it's bad programming if you ask me because there are far too many of us. Plus the programming didn't work for all of us I've no desire to be anywhere near any children!
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Women who want kids, unfortunately for them, need to make serious plans about getting on with it as they hit 30, especially if they are single.

This modern image of a woman being a high flying corporate type doesn't tend to tag along the caveat that, should she want kids, she can't wait for forever.
I always find this image of the high flying corporate career woman to be amusing because I genuinely have never come across anyone IRL who fits that description.

I certainly know some women who are career orientated, but I don't know any would would put off meeting someone or sacrifice having any kind of romantic relationship for over a decade (12 years, if you count ages 18-30) to focus on that career.

Most people who find themselves single at that age are in that position because the relationship(s) they were in throughout their 20's didn't work out, not because they spent the previous 12 years being a cut throat corporate career woman living out of a briefcase.
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