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When not to take advice.

  • 19-05-2019 6:13pm
    #1
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭


    In what circumstances would you ignore advice from a trusted friend?

    E.g..yesterday I was trying on an outfit for a wedding next month My friend said after outfit number 4 it's a good colour and fit but it makes your boobs look big (they are not big in real life for people thinking anything else.)

    I said thanks for advice, tried on 3 more and left empty handed. Thinking of going back tomorrow to buy dress number 4.

    When would you ignore advice?


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  • #2
    MissShihTzu
    Registered Users Posts: 1,080 ✭✭✭MissShihTzu


    When you feel like it! If you like dress 4 then buy it and ignore the friend. It was advice and not an edict :pac:


  • #3
    Edgware
    Registered Users Posts: 5,875 ✭✭✭Edgware


    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    In what circumstances would you ignore advice from a trusted friend?

    E.g..yesterday I was trying on an outfit for a wedding next month My friend said after outfit number 4 it's a good colour and fit but it makes your boobs look big (they are not big in real life for people thinking anything else.)

    I said thanks for advice, tried on 3 more and left empty handed. Thinking of going back tomorrow to buy dress number 4.

    When would you ignore advice?
    "A good colour and fit but it makes your boobs look big"

    Whats the " but" about?


  • #4
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    Edgware wrote: »
    "A good colour and fit but it makes your boobs look big"

    Whats the " but" about?

    My age. Too old to show boobs. Also big boobs makes you look fatter.


  • #5
    mad muffin
    Registered Users Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭mad muffin


    I like big boobs.


  • #6
    MissShihTzu
    Registered Users Posts: 1,080 ✭✭✭MissShihTzu


    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    My age. Too old to show boobs. Also big boobs makes you look fatter.


    Who the fcuk told you that?? What a load of boll*x!!! Age has nothing to do with it! I follow one simple rule. You show either cleavage or legs - never the two together.

    Is the dress low cut? If it is, then swerve it as it's not suitable for a wedding.


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  • #7
    Cee-Jay-Cee
    Registered Users Posts: 12,235 ✭✭✭✭Cee-Jay-Cee


    Show us a picture of your boobs and we’ll tell you if they’re big or not. Maybe they are big but you don’t realise it so post the picture and let us decide.


  • #8
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    MissShihTzu wrote: »
    Who the fcuk told you that?? What a load of boll*x!!! Age has nothing to do with it! I follow one simple rule. You show either cleavage or legs - never the two together.

    Is the dress low cut? If it is, then swerve it as it's not suitable for a wedding.

    Low cut? Yeah shows cleavage if that's what you are asking. Cleavage is not ok for a wedding. Never heard that before. Thanks.


  • #9
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    Cee-Jay-Cee wrote: »
    Show us a picture of your boobs and we’ll tell you if they’re big or not. Maybe they are big but you don’t realise it so post the picture and let us decide.

    Also worried my nose is too big. Will I start with that pic?


  • #10
    Charles Ingles
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,181 ✭✭✭Charles Ingles


    Never ignore advice from a trusted friend.
    Trust your friends advice why would she stear you wrong.


  • #11
    ToddyDoody
    Registered Users Posts: 4,421 ✭✭✭ToddyDoody


    2 times spring to mind.

    When it's been wrong in the past.
    When there's an agenda being pushed.


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  • #12
    Strumms
    Registered Users Posts: 24,800 ✭✭✭✭Strumms


    Charles Ingles wrote: »
    Never ignore advice from a trusted friend.
    Trust your friends advice why would she stear you wrong.


    She might not be attempting to stear her wrong. She is likely trying to advise with the best of intentions.

    However, I can give what I might intend to be helpful and good advice to someone and be wrong. It might be off the cuff advice not thought out to any proper degree, it might be advice that people don’t want or need to hear where I or whoever just are trying to help.


  • #13
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    Charles Ingles wrote: »
    Never ignore advice from a trusted friend.
    Trust your friends advice why would she stear you wrong.

    She wouldn't. Thank you for this. She has no agenda except my back.


  • #14
    corner of hells
    Registered Users Posts: 8,354 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    She wouldn't. Thank you for this. She has no agenda except my back.

    I'm available, I can bring you to the wedding.
    You're welcome , it's no problem.
    I'll stay sober till at least 3pm.


  • #15
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    corner of hells wrote: »
    I'm available, I can bring you to the wedding.
    You're welcome , it's no problem.
    I'll stay sober till at least 3pm.

    The wedding is at 2pm. At 3 we will probably still be in the church.: D


  • #16
    corner of hells
    Registered Users Posts: 8,354 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    The wedding is at 2pm. At 3 we will probably still be in the church.: D

    Church ?


  • #17
    Charles Ingles
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 1,181 ✭✭✭Charles Ingles


    corner of hells wrote: »
    Church ?

    It's a wedding of course it's in a church


  • #18
    Immortal Starlight
    Registered Users Posts: 2,074 ✭✭✭Immortal Starlight


    Maybe buy the dress and bring it home and try it on with a couple of different bras. Take your time and take some photos too because I think it helps to get a better idea of how something looks. If you still think it makes your boobs look too big you can always return it again. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Have a great time at the wedding :)


  • #19
    corner of hells
    Registered Users Posts: 8,354 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Charles Ingles wrote: »
    It's a wedding of course it's in a church

    I just dropped my monocle.
    It coulda been a humanistic wedding or civil.. sans church.


  • #20
    EmmetSpiceland
    Registered Users Posts: 10,526 ✭✭✭✭EmmetSpiceland


    It’s advice, not an order. Take it on board but if you think you like the dress then you should go for it.

    Or go back with someone else and get a second opinion. But, at the end of the day, it’s your call.

    The tide is turning…



  • #21
    corner of hells
    Registered Users Posts: 8,354 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Immortal Starlight wrote: »
    Maybe buy the dress and bring it home and try it on with a couple of different bras. Take your time and take some photos too because I think it helps to get a better idea of how something looks. If you still think it makes your boobs look too big you can always return it again. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Have a great time at the wedding :)

    Very sensible person.


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  • #22
    KathleenGrant
    Registered Users Posts: 3,777 ✭✭✭KathleenGrant


    Immortal Starlight wrote: »
    Maybe buy the dress and bring it home and try it on with a couple of different bras. Take your time and take some photos too because I think it helps to get a better idea of how something looks. If you still think it makes your boobs look too big you can always return it again. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Have a great time at the wedding :)

    Thank you so much. Great advice.


  • #23
    Mrsmum
    Registered Users Posts: 1,860 ✭✭✭Mrsmum


    I think if you trust that she has your back plus she has a good sense of style herself, then give her opinion a high rating. I mean if she is a rubbish dresser herself, her opinion doesn't matter.


  • #24
    Fr_Dougal
    Registered Users Posts: 9,167 ✭✭✭Fr_Dougal


    Mrsmum wrote: »
    I think if you trust that she has your back plus she has a good sense of style herself, then give her opinion a high rating. I mean if she is a rubbish dresser herself, her opinion doesn't matter.

    A lot of fashion designers are rubbish dressers but know what looks good on other people.


  • #25
    Mrsmum
    Registered Users Posts: 1,860 ✭✭✭Mrsmum


    Fr_Dougal wrote: »
    A lot of fashion designers are rubbish dressers but know what looks good on other people.


    Yeah that's true alright. Still not sure I'd personally take advice from a friend if I routinely thought I had better clothes sense than her myself. But I take your point.


  • #26
    Blaizes
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Blaizes


    Trust your own sense of fashion too. I shop on my own and think I get it fairly right. A long mirror in your bedroom will help you see the fit of your outfit with the shoes you are going to wear on the day. Bring it home try it on with shoes, hair similar to how you are going to wear it on the day, have a look in the mirror and see how the whole thing sits together. But honestly I think people don’t even notice too much and we women are far too hard on ourselves. Nice hair, spray of perfume you love, being comfortable in your own skin and that means being comfortable in fabric you are wearing too. Had communion and confirmation this year wore dresses I loved that I bought last year, bought in sales but loved them both so didn’t even bother buying anything new. Knew they suited me so was sorted. As I say we are far too hard on ourselves.


  • #27
    lawred2
    Registered Users Posts: 24,266 ✭✭✭✭lawred2


    Advice from friends is in general worthless.

    Usually it's not much more people telling you what they know you want to hear. Even if they would think the exact opposite were they in the situation you're seeking advice about.

    The only advice I ever seek is of a professional nature.


  • #28
    Blaizes
    Closed Accounts Posts: 809 ✭✭✭Blaizes


    The other thing I was going to say is that you could get a scarf, pashmina, cloak or blazer to cover your cleavage then ditch it when you get to the reception. Unless you are an extremely big busted woman which as you say you aren’t no one will take a blind bit of notice. As I say we women are far too hard on ourselves, been to loads of weddings and so much nonsense and pressure. Older I get less I care about fashion trends or what other people think, if it’s comfy, looks ok that’s fine.


  • #29
    dxhound2005
    Registered Users Posts: 20,474 ✭✭✭✭dxhound2005


    KathleenGrant wrote: »
    In what circumstances would you ignore advice from a trusted friend?

    E.g..yesterday I was trying on an outfit for a wedding next month My friend said after outfit number 4 it's a good colour and fit but it makes your boobs look big (they are not big in real life for people thinking anything else.)

    I said thanks for advice, tried on 3 more and left empty handed. Thinking of going back tomorrow to buy dress number 4.

    When would you ignore advice?

    If I am reading this right you tried on 7 different dresses? Did he/she not offer any advice on the other 6?


  • #30
    Ficheall
    Registered Users Posts: 9,018 ✭✭✭Ficheall


    Immortal Starlight wrote: »
    Maybe buy the dress and bring it home and try it on with a couple of different bras. Take your time and take some photos too because I think it helps to get a better idea of how something looks. If you still think it makes your boobs look too big you can always return it again. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Have a great time at the wedding :)
    This starts out with so much potential, but I have read it four times now, and can still see no mention of furnishing the good denizens of AH with the photos :(


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  • #31
    BeerWolf
    Registered Users Posts: 4,122 ✭✭✭BeerWolf


    Here's some advice, don't listen to me.


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