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  • #32
    Ironicname
    Registered Users Posts: 1,177 ✭✭✭Ironicname


    I was actually speaking about when you humoured her by telling her your sexual preference





    Erm... Nope.





    Or you could have been polite and refused to answer and say something along the lines of "I'm sorry, I don't really feel comfortable discussing this with a stranger"





    How is it mysoginistic? Because a man said it to you?


  • #33
    JackTaylorFan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,452 ✭✭✭JackTaylorFan


    Ironicname wrote: »
    I was actually speaking about when you humoured her by telling her your sexual preference

    ...

    Or you could have been polite and refused to answer and say something along the lines of "I'm sorry, I don't really feel comfortable discussing this with a stranger"

    Have you ever been put on the spot like that? It's something that used to happen to me in school. You sometimes have a reflex reaction to things. It doesn't mean I was all that comfortable with it. And, quite honestly, that line you suggested sounds like something you'd hear a telephone machine saying.








    Ironicname wrote: »
    How is it mysoginistic? Because a man said it to you?

    Women can be misogynistic too. But, yeah, in this particular thread, it seems to be two or three guys trying to convince me into thinking this behaviour is just fine when directed at people who are not open to it. In fact, my dating profile specifically says no unicorn hunters and no polys - as I'm monogamous - but that don't stop them messaging me anyway


  • #34
    Ironicname
    Registered Users Posts: 1,177 ✭✭✭Ironicname


    JackTaylorFan wrote:
    Have you ever been put on the spot like that? It's something that used to happen to me in school. You sometimes have a reflex reaction to things. It doesn't mean I was all that comfortable with it. And, quite honestly, that line you suggested sounds like something you'd hear a telephone machine saying.

    Yes. I have. I have been propositioned and asked sexual questions that I didn't want to answer.

    My reflex reaction is never to divulge information I was uncomfortable with divulging and then complaining about it after the fact.

    How can you expect someone to know any advance (which by your story, didn't happen as you weren't propositioned) would be unwelcome if they were willfully engaging in a conversation which involved sexual preferences?
    JackTaylorFan wrote:
    Women can be misogyonistic too.

    Yes. But telling someone that a person asking or attempting to chat them up isn't a bad thing isn't mysoginistic. In any way.


  • #35
    JackTaylorFan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,452 ✭✭✭JackTaylorFan


    Ironicname wrote: »
    How can you expect someone to know any advance (which by your story, didn't happen as you weren't propositioned) would be unwelcome if they were willfully engaging in a conversation which involved sexual preferences?

    I was there, you were not. I know how I was made to feel by the end of the conversation - when I did decide it was time to get away from them. I speak to lots of people everyday who don't make me feel like that. Instincts are something I listen to.


  • #36
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭[Deleted User]


    JackTaylorFan wrote: »
    Women can be misogynistic too. But, yeah, in this particular thread, it seems to be two or three guys trying to convince me into thinking this behaviour is just fine when directed at people who are not open to it. In fact, my dating profile specifically says no unicorn hunters and no polys - as I'm monogamous - but that don't stop them messaging me anyway

    Two or three PEOPLE have not tried to convince you of anything.

    From my reading, the only thing that this person did that was in any way unacceptable was to ask your sexual preference. You answered that question so the not unreasonable presumption was that you may have been comfortable in continuing the conversation.

    You assumed you were being propositioned and people have explained that as there seemed to be a level of engagement from yourself, it may not have been clear it was unwanted and therefore rather than being offended, you should look at is as a positive. You gave no indication that you would not be interested.

    Your attempt to brand this as misogyny (the hatred or prejudice against women) is baffling. Where the hell did anyone even indicate that thinking?

    Anyway, bizarre choice of words, bizarre story in general.


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  • #37
    Goodshape
    Registered Users Posts: 8,488 ✭✭✭Goodshape


    MOD:: Okay, I think we're done here.

    The OP had asked "If anyone else has experience of this kind of crap, you're welcome to share." – and in 35 responses, not a single person has.

    JTF – I'm sorry you had a bad experience with that couple but this forum is not your personal blog. Aside from that closing remark, there was precious little that was open to discussion in your opening post. And this is a discussion forum. Please don't post a rant like this again.

    Everyone – stop picking apart and questioning people's experiences. Not responding is always an option.


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