The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

JennyBurke101 wrote: »

Hey I actually have a quick question, I have NEVER met up with a guy from online before, been talking to a guy and it turns out we have mutual friends and we have a laugh on facebook chat and text each other...the first night we where chatting we got on pretty great and he asked me for drinks and outta nerves and not really knowing him I said nope ...but I am afraid now that ....we are getting on well that if we meet up with might not get on ...if that makes any sense ...like we know a bit about each other without having met face-to-face what if its awkward when we meet up!!! We havent put each other in the friends zone ...but I dunno if I am ready to meet up with him (I am painfully shy) but I dont want to miss a chance with him either cause he seems nice ...so basically what would you do??

Fricken ey it's only a quick date! Go out with the lad!!!!

JennyBurke101 wrote: »

Hey I actually have a quick question, I have NEVER met up with a guy from online before, been talking to a guy and it turns out we have mutual friends and we have a laugh on facebook chat and text each other...the first night we where chatting we got on pretty great and he asked me for drinks and outta nerves and not really knowing him I said nope ...but I am afraid now that ....we are getting on well that if we meet up with might not get on ...if that makes any sense ...like we know a bit about each other without having met face-to-face what if its awkward when we meet up!!! We havent put each other in the friends zone ...but I dunno if I am ready to meet up with him (I am painfully shy) but I dont want to miss a chance with him either cause he seems nice ...so basically what would you do??

Galvasean wrote: »

Fricken ey it's only a quick date! Go out with the lad!!!!

Actually, perhaps some clarification is in order. I was in a very similar situation to yourself before. We went on the date anyway. Nothing romantic came of it, but we both had great fun and are good friends now. It was totally worth doing.

'Open relationship' is often code for 'cheating' on these things sadly. Not that I've anything against people in real open relationships. just not for me really.

Dovies wrote: »

Have exchanged a couple of mails with someone so decided to re-read his profile. He is in an 'open relationship' - move along buddy I don't share!

Note to self - read profiles properly!

Maybe he added/changed that bit later after you initially read the profile. These internet daters can be a sneaky lot. One woman has just reduced her age by 10 years on her profile

KTRIC wrote: »

Either you're reading it wrong or I wrote it wrong. We got on great (I would think) and had arranged to meet tomorrow even after the misunderstanding. I won't post messages from her to reenforce my point but in the brightness of a new day I think I dodged a bullet.

Well I doubt if she is that bad & using such phrases is hardly going to endear you to anyone else who might be reading this - you never know who or when

The point that I was making is that loads of potential relationship can end at base one because of simple misunderstandings especially when people are being naturally guarded.

Talking on the phone minimises this & if you can have an enjoyable chat then it bodes well for a face to face meeting.

hmmmmm I am not sure maybe I will see how our next chat goes and maybe suggest something .....like I dunno .....ugh decisions .....ah sure ill just see what happens! Thanks for the advice though!

boneyarsebogman wrote: »

The past few dates I've had have gone that way - "I'm not in the right place" - I'm sorry, get off a dating site then.

People change during their time on a site & maybe because people want to avoid being hurtful. We go on dating site to find women & then we complain when they act like women

Discodog wrote: »

We go on dating site to find women & then we complain when they act like women

haha! Quoted for great truth!

KTRIC wrote: »

I think you and your self righteous advice should give it a rest.

Well every comment that you have made, including this one, suggests that she was the one who "dodged a bullet". As for me taking a rest, I am just as entitled to be here as you are. You were the one who decided to make, what should of been private conversations, public & you got caught out. Who knows instead of dodging a bullet you may of missed a gem.

Folks, calm the jets a wee bit. This thread is for discussing online dating, if ye want to discuss something futher, take it to PM.

DerekDGoldfish wrote: »

only for your eyes to bleed in agony as you try to read thier profile.

That's a wonderful phrase - I am going to have to work that one into a song

But you are so right. A friend of mine arrange an internet date with an attractive girl. Apparently she had an amazing skill of being able to drink, smoke & chew gum simultaneously !

billyhead wrote: »

Right folks for anyone here with experience of rejecting a date online. I got chatting to someone on POF and it turns out we have a lot in common and she seems really nice. She has just asked if we could meet up but the thing is and I have nothing really against girls with red hair but she has and I am more a brunette person. How do I reject the offer nicely?

While I can understand a perference for a hair colur (I prefer redheads myself) rulling out someone who you otherwise like and have lots in common with due to thier hair colur seems insane.

So just tell her you are insane and that will get you off the hook.

Samich wrote: »

won't be getting accepted, 50% absolutely not and then the beautiful and no's split. I'm at the bottom of the scale, can't go any further down it so won't be getting in

Wow that does wonders for one's self esteem

I wouldn't date a beautiful woman from that site on principle.

Hey all

I had a date with someone on Valentines day, we got on great, had a snog and talked of meeting up again...but here comes the but, I really liked him and I am not into all that game playing stuff, so anyhow I sent him a mail a couple of days later saying I had a great time, he replied stating likewise, then I sent a mail back stating when I was free to meet again, not sure if this was too eager beaver and I should add on the date he told me he had hid his profile which he had, I did after the date but I did not hear back from him and when I checked his profile tonight he is back online and searching, I have to admit I felt a bit deflated as I thought we would meet again but the lack of contact for a few days kind of was a warning. I am not sure if I was too eager and this was off putting but it is disappointing all the same. I decided to put my profile back on visibility.