Originally Posted by seamus
I can only go from what I've seen, but a majority of women I know have thought about what kind of wedding they would have (big/small/church/registry), what their wedding dress would look like, who their bridesmaids would be, and little details like colour schemes, since at least early adolescence.
And maybe that's because one friend is really into it, so the rest just go along with the discussion.
Nah, I still think that is bullsh1t. Maybe most of us assume that getting married is something we will do someday when we’re grown up, much as we assume that someday we will have a house and a job, but that is not the same thing as planning all the details since we were children. Sure, six-year-old me expected to get married someday, but I also aspired to be a magician.
In my case, if you had asked me as a child what kind of wedding dress I would one day wear I probably would have said something like a Barbie wedding dress
. Fashions change; a wedding dress from five years ago wouldn’t necessarily be in fashion now, let alone one from 20-30 years ago. As for knowing who my bridesmaids would be – I am having four bridesmaids, three of whom I didn’t meet until after I had finished school (the other one is my sister). I don’t even know what my colour scheme will be at this stage, just over a year before my wedding, and I certainly didn’t have it planned since childhood/early adolescence.
I think this is just a lazy trope spouted by men who see weddings as ‘women’s stuff’.