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19-03-2016, 13:15   #46
 
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I honestly worry about people who won't go to the cinema on their own.
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I'd certainly like to try it as I'm very comfortable with my own company and many people really sell it to you, but I wonder if it's not something more suited to a people person ironically enough!
I wouldn't relish constantly meeting new people and having to do that simply to have another human being to chat to. I've read enough travel books to know that solo adventures can be quite lonely experiences for the more naturally introverted person. Of course it would get you out of your shell and new experiences, new places and all that but I would much prefer to do it with long time friends. The craic would be 100% mightier for me personally. But as for many people just on the wrong side of 30, it's a bit of a pipe dream now.
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I went twice on my own once for 6 months traveling and then back to Australia for a year on my own. Your never alone its easy to meet people and easy to leave them again. I have a friend who has done 7 months in India on his own 23 months in asia on his own and recently 15 months in central America. The upside is you can change your plans on a whim and don't need to justify it.
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op how narrow minded you are to consider people who like travelling alone as losers or imply they have no friends.
with that sort of attitude maybe you should stay put.
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19-03-2016, 13:43   #50
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Love it, great learning experience. Go in to that museum? No, the weathers too nice I'll go this direction instead because it looks interesting. I especially like cities, just blending in and seeing how things operate. Did a whistle-stop tour of Denmark, Germany, Netherlands, Portugal and Spain last Autumn, easy countries to traverse and I met up with friends along the way, but I would happily have kept on going only for work commitments.
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19-03-2016, 14:01   #51
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OP I'm kind of in the same boat as you, as regards wanting to travel but with no one to go with.
I have no experience of travelling, alone or otherwise, but from what I have read online in different forums and websites, including this one, that travelling alone does not mark a person out as being weird or without friends.
I'm a bit apprehensive about going alone as well, but the way in looking at it is, I want to go, I don't have anyone else to go with, so that leaves me with 2 options:
1. Go and give it my best shot and see how it goes, I will either not like it, in which case I can just come home whenever, or, it could be the best thing i ever do and could be the making of me.
or option 2. Don't go and always wonder what might have been if I had just been a little bit braver and taken the plunge.
for me I more or less have made up mind I'm going to go with option no.1.
I'm by no means a very outgoing person, but I try my best to fit in wherever I am and sometimes that means taking a bit of a leap and hoping for the best.
anyway that's my 2 cents worth.
I might have 2 possible candidates to go with but honestly either of those 2 would be very different type of people to me, and I'd rather go I alone than be playing second fiddle to someone else's plans, not to mention it would more than likely put a massive strain on the friendship being around each other 24/7.
Hope this helps
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When youre in your twenties, hostel hopping is great craic. I spent 5 weeks going from the north of Italy down through the heel to Sicily and a couple of weeks doing similar in Spain and also a stint in Netherlands/ Belgium/ Germany.

There are always people in the same boat in hostels who are happy to hang out and join up for a while. You can make good friends.

Now, after 30, im less keen on sharing a bedroom with 10 people. Hostels with private rooms would be a better fit I would think.
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There's also degrees of 'traveling alone'. Just because you get on the plane from Ireland alone, doesn't mean you have to do your whole trip on your own.

New Zealand is a great example. Most backpackers who go there will end up on one of the backpackers' bus tours as it's one of the easiest & cheapest ways to see the country. They're hop-on-hop-off buses that let you travel at your own pace and pick up/drop off at a selection of hostels in each town. So people tend to end up staying in the same place and form natural groups if their schedules coincide. If you end up with a group of people you get on with you can stick together, if not you can do your own thing.

If you want even more of a structured holiday there are plenty of companies that do group tours for solo travelers. A friend of mine goes with Intrepid Travel* when she wants to travel to locations that are a bit off the beaten track and she wouldn't feel confident going on her own.

(*Beware, that sight is pure travel porn and I will not be held responsible for anyone blowing their life savings on a trek through the Sahara )
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1. Go and give it my best shot and see how it goes, I will either not like it, in which case I can just come home whenever, or, it could be the best thing i ever do and could be the making of me.
Do this, but make sure to cutt yourself some slack. Most people, when setting out alone, have a momentary freak out (say after arriving at a destination city): 'what am I doing here' kinda thing.

You need to allow yourself to overcome your fear. Then you will be more confident in yourself and open up to the variety of experiences that await.
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For me I would only go travelling if I was on my own as I am not used to travelling with people.

I am a loner and I enjoy it , i have no interest in having friends, I don't like going to bars and clubs like most people so having friends would be no use to me anyway.

I would like a wife in the future though I am not sure how it would work as I would want to go on holidays on my own and I would get fed up having to spend my evenings with the wife, I would probably be split up within the year.
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I would but I wouldn't want my kids to when they are older. I think you are really risking things when you go travelling on your own. (assuming you are talking about very foreign travel and not just a weekend to Paris)

No one to check if you are missing, etc. I will follow my kids like the fecking golem...
You've been watching too many Liam Neeson films, unless you are in the Australian outback or somewhere I don't think there is a big danger in disappearing
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op how narrow minded you are to consider people who like travelling alone as losers or imply they have no friends.
with that sort of attitude maybe you should stay put.
Shut up pal. You're the only person from 55 who read my post and interpreted what you're suggesting.
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Do this, but make sure to cutt yourself some slack. Most people, when setting out alone, have a momentary freak out (say after arriving at a destination city): 'what am I doing here' kinda thing.

You need to allow yourself to overcome your fear. Then you will be more confident in yourself and open up to the variety of experiences that await.
Sorry ya of course I wouldn't make my mind up after a day, or even a week in a place, you need time to settle in and adjust, what I was trying to say is that its not a prison sentence, just because you're away doesn't mean you have no choice but to stay away, for me there's a comfort in knowing that home will be there for me when I want to return.
I'm sure its different for everyone, depending on experience of travelling and living away from home, but I'd say I will have to allow myself at least a month, before I get comfortable with travelling, maybe I'll need more, maybe less, but I wont know until I'm actually doing it.
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Just make sure you have all your other sh1t together before you go.

If your on a holiday yeah bus tours are a great way to meet people and if it's to live then hostels or sharing a flat/house
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But as for many people just on the wrong side of 30, it's a bit of a pipe dream now.
G'way out of that. I'm well on the "wrong side" of thirty - doesn't stop me living the dream (or occasional nightmare). The only thing that really changes is that you become the really interesting person that someone else meets on the bus/train/road/mountain (just because you've lived longer than them) ...
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