One nights stands

Brian from Bray · 20-09-2015 10:28am #1

Whats your thought on ONS. Have you had one ? If not would you ?

I myself have never had one in fear of picking up an STI or getting someone pregnant. Also not to mention the awkwardness the following morning.

The_Valeyard · 20-09-2015 10:30am

Going to hump, cover the stump

Fleawuss · 20-09-2015 10:31am

A description of a most excellent virgin.

20-09-2015 10:33am

Wouldn't have one, married. Have married friends who regularly have them so wouldn't be that judgemental either. Each to their own. As for single friends who do it, good for them. Have a couple of friends that have them pretty much every other weekend, and they seem to escape without the STD or pregnancy thing. So not sure I'd worry too much about those aspects if I was inclined to go for it.

Brian from Bray · 20-09-2015 10:34am

Fleawuss wrote: »

A description of a most excellent virgin.

I'm asking for a friend :pac:

Seriously though I was in a relationship for just under a year, just never had ONS.

Fleawuss · 20-09-2015 10:34am

The_Valeyard wrote: »

Going to hump, cover the stump

Ahem....stump? I'm sorry for your troubles.

Sunnyisland · 20-09-2015 10:37am

I had a one night stand before, it was very tiring especially on the legs :-)

dan1895 · 20-09-2015 10:37am

I'd much rather two night stands, one either side of the bed for symmetry.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 20-09-2015 10:39am

I've had a couple one night stands, but drift off then before things get awkward the next morning. If you've just met them, don't know them, I don't see what's to be gained sleeping next to them the entire night. Do the deed and go home before he wakes up.

The only time I ever ended up staying over was one night about 2 weeks after I lost my dad, went out, wrote myself off, woke up about 6am still absolutely plastered and fell over when I was trying to get dressed. At that point I was so unsteady on my feet and so drunk I had to get back into bed. It was about 4pm before I was sober enough to make a move, and by then I was so sick I wasn't able. to be fair to him, it wasn't as awkward as I expected a ons to be the next day and he took really good care of me in my delicate state.

ElleEm · 20-09-2015 10:41am

Brian from Bray wrote: »

Also not to mention the awkwardness the following morning.

Anyone with any sense bolts after they're done. No awkwardness! "Eh, thanks for that. See ya.".

NachoBusiness · 20-09-2015 10:43am

ONS are like Lucky Bags.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy · 20-09-2015 10:45am

It's only awkward if you're a social retard.

"Morning! Making coffee, would you like one?"

20mins later..

I'm just gonna go brush my teeth then I'll drop you home."

Job done.

frostyjacks · 20-09-2015 10:46am

Wouldn't have one. A girl prepared to put out after only meeting a guy is most likely carrying or has carried an STI.

Aint Eazy Being Cheezy · 20-09-2015 10:47am

frostyjacks wrote: »

Wouldn't have one. A girl prepared to put out after only meeting a guy is most likely carrying or has carried an STI.

If only there was a way of avoiding STIs...

One eyed Jack · 20-09-2015 10:49am

Brian from Bray wrote: »

Whats your thought on ONS. Have you had one ? If not would you ?

I myself have never had one in fear of picking up an STI or getting someone pregnant. Also not to mention the awkwardness the following morning.

I've had... ehh, one or two :pac:

If they're not your thing OP, they're not your thing. I've never experienced any awkwardness the following morning though - we've just had sex, it doesn't get any more intimate than that

eviltwin · 20-09-2015 10:49am

If I was single I would, don't see anything wrong with them once you use condoms.

One eyed Jack · 20-09-2015 10:53am

frostyjacks wrote: »

Wouldn't have one. A girl prepared to put out after only meeting a guy is most likely carrying or has carried an STI.

And the guy prepared to put out after only meeting a girl?

The thing with STI's is that even if a person were carrying an STI, they may not be aware of it themselves, and six months dating down the line when they decide to have sex is the same as if they'd had sex on the first night.

It's best to encourage people to be responsible for their own sexual health rather than spreading idiotic myths about sex and sexuality.

Kev W · 20-09-2015 10:56am

One eyed Jack wrote: »

And the guy prepared to put out after only meeting a girl?

Morally unassailable and a stone cold stud to boot.

High five, bro!

Rachiee · 20-09-2015 10:58am

I don't have ONS but it's just because I need to trust someone before I can relax enough to enjoy sex. I'm in my early 30s the vast majority of my friends do have them do engage in ONS though. I don't see the problem in two consenting adults enjoying each others company. Re: STI's I don't see it a particularly riskier other than you are increasing you're number, really unless you see someone else's results in black and white, you don't know what the other person has so waiting a month and to get to know them a bit before sex doesn't mean they are going to be STI free !

Medusa22 · 20-09-2015 11:22am

Ah I had a few alright when I was single, and I never felt awkward the next day either. Usually I was still a bit drunk and talking shyte

With regards to STDs, just use a condom. To be honest though, I don't think I ever had really good sex with a ONS, relationship sex is the best

Kev W · 20-09-2015 11:24am

Medusa22 wrote: »

Ah I had a few alright when I was single, and I never felt awkward the next day either. Usually I was still a bit drunk and talking shyte

With regards to STDs, just use a condom. To be honest though, I don't think I ever had really good sex with a ONS, relationship sex is the best

+1

Fat Christy · 20-09-2015 11:30am

Jaysus Brian, you're some man for the threads.

Had a ONS once, never again!! I was deceived!! I thought your wan was a beaut and the next morning I noticed her face was on the pillow. Makeup, the great deceiver. I wont be doing that again.

Mantis Toboggan · 20-09-2015 11:34am

I've had a lot of one night stands, especially in the last 3 years. Can't beat sex with a stranger.

Also I'd just like to take this opportunity to thank shows like desperate housewives and sex in the city for allowing women to feel the need to be complete hoors. Sex has gotten so much better in the last 10 years and also so much easier, thank you very much.

Brian from Bray · 20-09-2015 11:41am

Fat Christy wrote: »

Jaysus Brian, you're some man for the threads.

Had a ONS once, never again!! I was deceived!! I thought your wan was a beaut and the next morning I noticed her face was on the pillow. Makeup, the great deceiver. I wont be doing that again.

Someone has to keep the forum alive :pac:

speedboatchase · 20-09-2015 11:44am

I had two a couple of years ago, within a fairly short span of each other, and in both cases I was back at the girl's place.

Personally I always enjoy the thrill of the conquest and the fact that you can go from strangers, to finding someone attractive, them finding you attractive, and then ending up in bed - all within a few hours - is a bit of a rush.

However, both occasions did feel kinda empty. You're essentially just providing a service. There's no real intimacy and whenever I'm been in a relationship I really enjoying the aspect of cuddling, napping and or relaxing afterwards, rather than getting out of there either instantly or a few hours later.

Whitewinged · 20-09-2015 11:49am

Fat Christy wrote: »

Jaysus Brian, you're some man for the threads.

Had a ONS once, never again!! I was deceived!! I thought your wan was a beaut and the next morning I noticed her face was on the pillow. Makeup, the great deceiver. I wont be doing that again.

Ah dont let it get you down, you just had a bad case of something that was explained to me another thread. Its called "buyers regret"

20-09-2015 11:53am

Did it once. Wasn't for me, didn't like the emptiness of it all. I remembered feeling dirty too.

qo2cj1dsne8y4k · 20-09-2015 11:54am

Feeling dirty after sex is a plus, no?

20-09-2015 11:56am

LexieOnRale wrote: »

Feeling dirty after sex is a plus, no?

Maybe I was too immature to appreciate it! :pac: I was 20 but had a very sheltered upbringing.

ALiasEX · 20-09-2015 11:58am

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Wouldn't have one, married. Have married friends who regularly have them so wouldn't be that judgemental either. Each to their own. As for single friends who do it, good for them. Have a couple of friends that have them pretty much every other weekend, and they seem to escape without the STD or pregnancy thing. So not sure I'd worry too much about those aspects if I was inclined to go for it.

That they know of. How is a girl supposed to know/remember who/where every guy she slept with around the time of conceiving in order to contact them all for a paternity test?

Most of the time there may be only 1 possible father but if she was too drunk to remember, they went back to hers and she only knows his first name, etc.

If you have a ons you should start leaving calling cards.

One eyed Jack · 20-09-2015 12:03pm

ALiasEX wrote: »

That they know of. How is a girl supposed to know/remember who/where every guy she slept with around the time of conceiving in order to contact them all for a paternity test?

Most of the time there may be only 1 possible father but if she was too drunk to remember, they went back to hers and she only knows his first name, etc.

If you have a ons you should start leaving calling cards.

Perhaps they reduced their risk, or even avoided conceiving in the first place, with contraception?

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