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Forum for Singles over 40

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    #62
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    +1


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    #63
    quickbeam
    Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 16,287 Mod ✭✭✭✭quickbeam


    Cherry Blossom wrote: »
    I for one don’t want to be receiving unsolicited pms and ‘dick pics’ on the back of posting something perfectly innocent and non dating related on a forum for single people.

    Neither would I, of course. But that is an extreme case. Could it not be used for dating and any inappropriate PMs get reported as they would now regardless?

    Eg, one person posts "I'm over 40 and love the single life" - clearly not in it for dating.

    Another posts: "I'm over 40 and longing for a partner. I like long walks on the beach and French food." Would it really be inappropriate for someone else to read that, and post a reply on thread, or via PM (in a respectful manner) saying that maybe they have something in common, let's start something and see how it goes.

    Edit: could even be limited to just one thread in the forum.


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    #64
    Purple Mountain
    Registered Users Posts: 13,004 ✭✭✭✭Purple Mountain


    I thought of the idea on the back of the Childfree by Choice forum.
    That seems like a nice, safe space to talk about and trash out things that are common to a certain age group.
    The demographic who I'd imagine would be posting in the proposed thread here, I'd hope would be more mature than to send unsolicited dick pics and maybe just want to debate things like getting a mortgage without a spouse, who to choose as next of kin, who to invite to a wedding as a plus one, where to socialise as a single person alone etc.

    To thine own self be true



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    #65
    Cherry Blossom
    Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 6,928 Mod ✭✭✭✭Cherry Blossom


    Ok, maybe it could work. I would just foresee problems with policing it especially since forum mods have no control over moderating pms.


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    #66
    Cherry Blossom
    Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 6,928 Mod ✭✭✭✭Cherry Blossom


    It’s just that I know a lady in the real world who tried to set up a social group for over 40s to meet at the pub or cinema etc. She had a few women and couples interested but was inundated with queries from married men thinking it was a group that would facilitate them having extramarital affairs and hook ups. So much so that she scrapped the idea completely.


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    #67
    quickbeam
    Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators Posts: 16,287 Mod ✭✭✭✭quickbeam


    Purple Mountain wrote: »
    I thought of the idea on the back of the Childfree by Choice forum.
    That seems like a nice, safe space to talk about and trash out things that are common to a certain age group.
    The demographic who I'd imagine would be posting in the proposed thread here, I'd hope would be more mature than to send unsolicited dick pics and maybe just want to debate things like getting a mortgage without a spouse, who to choose as next of kin, who to invite to a wedding as a plus one, where to socialise as a single person alone etc.

    Absolutely. I'd like the forum to be mostly about those things - all good topics. But I just thought that dating shouldn't be banned outright from the forum either.


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    #68
    Mam of 4
    Registered Users Posts: 21,822 ✭✭✭✭Mam of 4


    +1 from me , great idea PM :)


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    #69
    K.Flyer
    Registered Users Posts: 8,565 ✭✭✭K.Flyer


    Yeah + 1.


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    #70
    Whestsidestory
    Registered Users Posts: 134 ✭✭Whestsidestory


    +1


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    #71
    Purple Mountain
    Registered Users Posts: 13,004 ✭✭✭✭Purple Mountain


    The Online Dating Forum here is a forum that explicitly states it's for discussion around online dating and not looking for dating requests.
    So, if that works OK, I would hope this suggested forum would too.

    To thine own self be true



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    #72
    howamidifferent
    Registered Users Posts: 1,817 ✭✭✭howamidifferent


    +1


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    #73
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    A +1 from me too.


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    #74
    Pintman Paddy Losty
    Registered Users Posts: 1,913 ✭✭✭Pintman Paddy Losty


    Cherry Blossom wrote: »
    I’m going to say +1, so long as people don’t think it’s a dating or hook-up forum. I think it needs to be carefully named.

    +1 from me for the idea.

    How about The Last Chance Saloon as a name?


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    #75
    NewRed2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 999 ✭✭✭NewRed2


    Pintman Paddy Losty wrote: »
    How about The Last Chance Saloon as a name?

    aye the Pintman venturing into the saloon daily, that'd work alright! :pac:


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    #76
    Cherry Blossom
    Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Regional North West Moderators Posts: 6,928 Mod ✭✭✭✭Cherry Blossom


    Pintman Paddy Losty wrote: »
    +1 from me for the idea.

    How about The Last Chance Saloon as a name?

    I’m single by choice, not because I’ve been ‘left on the shelf’. The name you propose says to me that it’s a forum for people who have failed relationships behind them and are a little bit desperate for love. None of this describes me and I think it’s a little bit degrading to people in general who may want to post in a forum for single people.


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    #77
    Beasty
    Administrators, Social & Fun Moderators, Sports Moderators Posts: 75,285 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭Beasty


    A number of posts deleted

    Please not you must have been registered on the site for 3 months or more and have made 50 or more posts to vote in a Forum Request thread


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    #78
    Barna77
    Registered Users Posts: 3,271 ✭✭✭Barna77


    +1


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    #79
    Vestiapx
    Registered Users Posts: 985 ✭✭✭Vestiapx


    Irishphotodesk wrote: »
    Will add my +1 (I'm over 40 and married, not interested in using the forum, but would understand the need/want for it)

    I'm of the same mind. +1


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    #80
    sully123
    Registered Users Posts: 1,014 ✭✭✭sully123


    +1


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    #81
    Purple Mountain
    Registered Users Posts: 13,004 ✭✭✭✭Purple Mountain


    I'm bumping this to see what the update/progress is and what is the next step (if any?).

    To thine own self be true



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    #82
    Dial Hard
    Registered Users Posts: 13,378 ✭✭✭✭Dial Hard


    I can't see it having the traffic, tbh. The online dating forum is like a ghost town and this one would ostensibly have an even narrower remit.


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    #83
    Segotias
    Registered Users Posts: 232 ✭✭Segotias


    +1


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    #84
    eviltwin
    Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    Dial Hard wrote: »
    I can't see it having the traffic, tbh. The online dating forum is like a ghost town and this one would ostensibly have an even narrower remit.

    This wouldn't be an online dating forum...its not limited to people looking to date, its for single people over 40 and I think there are quite a few of those on this site

    +1


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    #85
    ChannelNo5
    Registered Users Posts: 779 ✭✭✭ChannelNo5


    Great idea. i'm in.


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    #86
    Poochie05
    Registered Users Posts: 4,203 ✭✭✭Poochie05


    +1


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    #87
    milli milli
    Registered Users Posts: 1,247 ✭✭✭milli milli


    Cherry Blossom wrote: »
    I’m single by choice, not because I’ve been ‘left on the shelf’. The name you propose says to me that it’s a forum for people who have failed relationships behind them and are a little bit desperate for love. None of this describes me and I think it’s a little bit degrading to people in general who may want to post in a forum for single people.

    +1 for the forum but I agree with the above. Please don’t call it ‘Last Chance Saloon’ - it’s desperate and defeatist. Like Cherry Blossom, I’m single by choice until I’ve met the right person, not desperate. I wouldn’t post in a forum called ‘Last Chance Saloon’.


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    #88
    NewRed2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 999 ✭✭✭NewRed2


    milli milli wrote: »
    +1 for the forum but I agree with the above. Please don’t call it ‘Last Chance Saloon’ - it’s desperate and defeatist. Like Cherry Blossom, I’m single by choice until I’ve met the right person, not desperate. I wouldn’t post in a forum called ‘Last Chance Saloon’.

    I don't think any of us would! :D
    Pretty sure he was just kidding about the name. Looking forward to seeing the forum up and running


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    #89
    xhomelezz
    Registered Users Posts: 2,970 ✭✭✭xhomelezz


    +1


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    #90
    Moyglish
    Registered Users Posts: 725 ✭✭✭Moyglish


    Love to see this forum take place


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    #91
    K.Flyer
    Registered Users Posts: 8,565 ✭✭✭K.Flyer


    Bumping this in case it fell through the cracks during the changeovers...

    Maybe the relevant mods can give an update on the progress of the request.


    TIA,

    K.F.



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