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    #32
    Moonbeam
    Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 18,952 Mod ✭✭✭✭Moonbeam


    Hollister11 wrote: »
    Parents/god parents €100.
    Aunt/Uncle €50
    anyone else €20

    That is crazy.
    Why would you give your kids money for their communion? it costs you enough.
    I thought godparents traditionally gave a present?


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    #33
    Moonbeam
    Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 18,952 Mod ✭✭✭✭Moonbeam


    I made mine along time ago and I got £86.
    Neighbors gave about 50p
    I do remember the beautiful jewellery I got from my auntie and the present from another.


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    #34
    challengemaster
    Registered Users Posts: 16,931 ✭✭✭✭challengemaster


    Hollister11 wrote: »
    People don't really make it for the religious aspect anymore. They make it for the day out, new clothes, and of course the money.

    I made €500+ at mine in 2004
    LeinsterDub wrote: »
    Nothing like a couple of hundred euro to help bribe a other child into the 'faith'



    Got >£1000 out of it back in the day. And now I'm atheist.

    latest?cb=20140512015844

    For anyone wondering, I put the majority in a savings account and spent the rest.


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    #35
    Ms2011
    Registered Users Posts: 3,119 ✭✭✭Ms2011


    For an acquaintance I'd give €20, family or close friend I'd give €50


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    #36
    cruizer101
    Registered Users Posts: 3,205 ✭✭✭cruizer101


    Jaysus some crazy amounts in here. I'm godfather to my niece who is making communion soon.
    Tbh I wish I had declined being godfather at the time as I have no time for the church.
    I think 20 and a pressie will be it and even that is just to conform I would rather not take part at all in any celebration for it, but at the end of the day I'll go along with it for the sake of child.


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    #37
    LordSutch
    Closed Accounts Posts: 12,078 ✭✭✭✭LordSutch


    bubblypop wrote: »
    Should be from everyone.
    I made my communion in England & there's no such thing as giving children loads of money for a religious ceremony.

    Same in Ireland too (outside the RC Church). We're C of I and weve never encountered money 'as a gift' for our young (14/15 year old) Communicants. It is after all a relgious ceremony as you say . . .


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    #38
    Tombo2001
    Registered Users Posts: 6,469 ✭✭✭Tombo2001


    bubblypop wrote: »
    My best friend's son is getting communion in may.
    I've told them both I won't be giving him any money.
    Probably won't even go to the ceremony.

    Reason being that I'm not a hypocrite, parents are not religious, child doesn't go to mass. Was just christened because ' that's what you do'
    If I do send him anything it will be a prayer book & rosary beads. Because that's what communion is about, right?

    So where do you (personally) stop with that?

    Not give Christmas presents? Not eat Easter eggs? Not take days off from work because after all they are religious holidays and you don't recognise the religion.

    Don't think people need to be slammed about being hypocrites. A lot of people enjoy a big day out, and the religious part they don't care about. A communion serves a lot of purposes that has nothing to do with Religion.....Its a big day out for the family. Its a time for parents to take stock of how much their child has grown. Its a chance for the child to take on a responsibility, and to be the centre of attention for a day.

    Look, overall I agree with you. But I'm not going to call anyone a hypocrite about it. You just have to say you don't believe in it.


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    #39
    [Deleted User]
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    Tombo2001 wrote: »
    So where do you (personally) stop with that?

    Not give Christmas presents? Not eat Easter eggs? Not take days off from work because after all they are religious holidays and you don't recognise the religion.

    Don't think people need to be slammed about being hypocrites. A lot of people enjoy a big day out, and the religious part they don't care about. A communion serves a lot of purposes that has nothing to do with Religion.....Its a big day out for the family. Its a time for parents to take stock of how much their child has grown. Its a chance for the child to take on a responsibility, and to be the centre of attention for a day.

    Look, overall I agree with you. But I'm not going to call anyone a hypocrite about it. You just have to say you don't believe in it.

    Er no, it's not that I won't go because I don't practice the religion.
    I go to weddings, funerals, and I have been to communions of other friends kids.
    The parents in this case are being hypocrites.

    Did you seriously say, communion serves a lot of purposes that has nothing to do with religion? It's a big day out for the family?
    Seriously?
    That's the whole issue, communion IS a religious ceremony, if people want a big day out where their child is centre of attention, then why not do it on the child's birthday?
    And that religious ceremony shouldn't be about money either.


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    #40
    eviltwin
    Registered Users Posts: 17,495 ✭✭✭✭eviltwin


    I wouldn't go to a communion personally. I do go to weddings and funerals because they are significant events. Communion is a minor day out imo, it's value for the majority is a party and a day out. Nothing wrong with that but I find it tacky.


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    #41
    ectoraige
    Registered Users Posts: 2,100 ✭✭✭ectoraige


    Tombo2001 wrote: »
    Don't think people need to be slammed about being hypocrites. A lot of people enjoy a big day out, and the religious part they don't care about. A communion serves a lot of purposes that has nothing to do with Religion.....Its a big day out for the family. Its a time for parents to take stock of how much their child has grown. Its a chance for the child to take on a responsibility, and to be the centre of attention for a day

    The problem with communion is the children spend huge chunks of school time in preparation instead of learning other things, and the eventual lesson is it's easy to get retarded by going along with whatever you're told. There's far less hypocritical ways for parents to celebrate their child's development.


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    #42
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users Posts: 30,183 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    When I got my Communion we still had pounds.
    Friends out my class gave £5 or £10.
    Family friends gave £20.
    Uncles and Aunts gave around £40.
    We moved on to Euro's for my conformation.
    School fiends have €10.
    Parents friend/people who hears I got my conformation gave €20.
    Aunts/Uncles gave €50.
    From speaking to people and from family communions this seems to be the amount given.


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    #43
    Broken Hearted Road
    Closed Accounts Posts: 694 ✭✭✭Broken Hearted Road


    I'm a carer/childminder and working for a family for some years now and would be very close. There's a child doing a communion this year. For such a young person she's been through so much and in and out of hospitals. I'd like to mark the day with something special and I found something lovely but I didn't buy it yet, if I do. It's such a beautiful and unique thing and would be kept for a long time. It comes with a bit of a hefty price tag though at 130 euro. Would this be acceptable for a gift or a no go area?


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    #44
    Moonbeam
    Moderators, Education Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 18,952 Mod ✭✭✭✭Moonbeam


    It depends on your relationship with the family tbh
    If the child has had a rough time and it is a keepsake and you are close then why not get it for their birthday?


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    #45
    Cabaal
    Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators, Regional South East Moderators Posts: 28,462 Mod ✭✭✭✭Cabaal


    ectoraige wrote: »
    The problem with communion is the children spend huge chunks of school time in preparation instead of learning other things, and the eventual lesson is it's easy to get retarded by going along with whatever you're told. There's far less hypocritical ways for parents to celebrate their child's development.

    10% of primary school time is spent on religion based on previous OECD numbers, that's as much time as students spent on english!

    By all means if people want to have a day out then do, but valuable school time shouldn't be wasted on preoperative for that day, it would be far more beneficial to cut religion time in school down to 5/6% make it inclusive to all religions and not just catholic and then spend the remaining time on PE for the health of the child.


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    #46
    ectoraige
    Registered Users Posts: 2,100 ✭✭✭ectoraige


    Cabaal wrote: »
    10% of primary school time is spent on religion based on previous OECD numbers, that's as much time as students spent on english!

    By all means if people want to have a day out then do, but valuable school time shouldn't be wasted on preoperative for that day, it would be far more beneficial to cut religion time in school down to 5/6% make it inclusive to all religions and not just catholic and then spend the remaining time on PE for the health of the child.

    The minimum time set out in the curriculum is thirty minutes per day, but during communion year far more time than this is spent on preparation for the two sacraments.


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    #47
    deisemum
    Registered Users Posts: 5,573 ✭✭✭deisemum


    So much of the communion and confirmation school years are taken up with religion, art classes become religious themes, music is spent on hymns etc plus the regular religion classes daily. As it gets nearer the day hours are spent in the church rehearsing.

    I got 50p when I made my communion back in 1970


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    #48
    Cabaal
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    ectoraige wrote: »
    The minimum time set out in the curriculum is thirty minutes per day, but during communion year far more time than this is spent on preparation for the two sacraments.

    Which averages at 10% of school time overall at primary level,
    As pointed out by deisemum, religion doesn't just start and end with religion class. It leaks into music, art, english etc

    Not to mention trips to the church and visits from the priest

    At secondary level its far more defined with religion for the most part being limited to just the religion class in most cases.

    Got a few hundred IR£ back in the day for my communion, I honestly see 8 years of age as too young to understand the ramifications of what you are doing and it would be better for communion to be done when kids are much older for example at 16 years of age. If religion is important to them at that age then they'll have no problem going to mass etc before hand.

    I can honestly say I did my confirmation purely for the money as by that age I don't believe a word of the teachings.


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    #49
    ectoraige
    Registered Users Posts: 2,100 ✭✭✭ectoraige


    ectoraige wrote: »
    The problem with communion is the children spend huge chunks of school time in preparation instead of learning other things, and the eventual lesson is it's easy to get retarded by going along with whatever you're told. There's far less hypocritical ways for parents to celebrate their child's development.

    Ahem. That should, of course, have read 'rewarded'. Freudian slip? :o


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    #50
    Sunrise_Sunset
    Registered Users Posts: 1,211 ✭✭✭Sunrise_Sunset


    How much for a godchild?
    I'm invited out for a meal with them too, my hubby and kids are not.


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    #51
    Spanish Eyes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,865 ✭✭✭✭Spanish Eyes


    Sorry now but it is 50 squids minimum these days. More if you happen to be the godparent, etc, but that is an individual choice I think.

    What the heck anyway, we all got money on our significant so called RELIGIOUS rites of passage back in the day. Otherwise why do people say of certain people of a certain age that "they still have their Communion Money" ha ha.

    It is custom and go with it for now.


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    #52
    lbc2019
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,291 ✭✭✭lbc2019


    €3.50


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    #53
    devlinio
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 172 ✭✭devlinio


    My parents gave me 150, relatives 50.

    One aunt gave me a fiver. She should have kept it. Embarrassing.


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    #54
    Sunrise_Sunset
    Registered Users Posts: 1,211 ✭✭✭Sunrise_Sunset


    Spanish Eyes wrote: »
    Sorry now but it is 50 squids minimum these days. More if you happen to be the godparent, etc, but that is an individual choice I think.

    I was thinking along the lines of 50 for my godchild. Is that too little? I also have my other godchild's confirmation the same week, so another 50 quid there?


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    #55
    miamee
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    Sunrise_Sunset wrote: »
    I was thinking along the lines of 50 for my godchild. Is that too little? I also have my other godchild's confirmation the same week, so another 50 quid there?

    €50 is an absolute fortune for a 7 or 8 year old so I'd say that it is more than generous and would probably give less cash but with a gift. For my own goddaughter I bought her some diamond stud earrings and gave her €20 in a card as far as I remember. For the Confirmation €50 would also be more than generous, imo.


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    #56
    PhilOssophy
    Registered Users Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭PhilOssophy


    devlinio wrote: »
    My parents gave me 150, relatives 50.

    One aunt gave me a fiver. She should have kept it. Embarrassing.

    Wow, maybe that was all she felt you deserved....I can see why


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    #57
    PokeHerKing
    Registered Users Posts: 4,224 ✭✭✭PokeHerKing


    Sheesh since when is 20e loads of money??

    I bought a playstation with my communion money if memory serves me. Saved the folks from having to buy it for me.

    Lotta stingy bitter people on this thread.


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    #58
    Defunkd
    Registered Users Posts: 408 ✭✭Defunkd


    I got £20 total, of which 15 was put in my "savings account" despite me not having one...and i never saw again.
    €20 is plenty for an 8yr old from one person, no matter your connection to them.


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    #59
    Bilboss
    Registered Users Posts: 25 ✭Bilboss


    I gave €50 in a card to a close relative last year, only for her to open it up straight away in front of me and ask ‘is that all?’ Safe to say I was VERY close to asking for it back!


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    #60
    PhilOssophy
    Registered Users Posts: 2,114 ✭✭✭PhilOssophy


    One of the only topics on here which doesn't end up in church bashing is how much everybody is going to give my kid for their holy communion!!


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    #61
    devlinio
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 172 ✭✭devlinio


    PhilOssophy wrote: »
    Wow, maybe that was all she felt you deserved....I can see why

    To an 8 year old. It says more about her, as my parents have her daughter 50 the year before.


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