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Thank you cards

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  • 05-06-2019 1:06pm
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    fergiesfav
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    Would you send a thank you card to someone that attended your wedding but never gave you a wedding card?


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    theteal
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    If you're sending them, send them to all. Not sure what difference a wedding card makes.


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    DavyD_83
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    Did they give you a present?

    Either way, I'm pretty sure you'll think about it way more than they will


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    fergiesfav
    Registered Users Posts: 142 ✭✭fergiesfav


    theteal wrote: »
    If you're sending them, send them to all. Not sure what difference a wedding card makes.


    We kinda feel we'd be making them feel awkward if anything.


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    is_that_so
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    Simplest approach is to send them to whoever you invited and who showed up. It's your thank you to them.


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    theteal
    Registered Users Posts: 7,593 ✭✭✭theteal


    fergiesfav wrote: »
    We kinda feel we'd be making them feel awkward if anything.

    :confused: You're just saying thanks for coming to your party.


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    is_that_so
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    fergiesfav wrote: »
    We kinda feel we'd be making them feel awkward if anything.
    Nah, you are not responsible for other people. If you want to do this then go right ahead.


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    B-D-P--
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    Is thank you for your gift printed on the card (Bit presumptuous if it is)
    Or Thank you for coming?

    If the second then send


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    Scarinae
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    We're planning to send thank you cards to everyone, whether they give us a card/gift or not. Ideally we'd like to personalise them rather than using a blanket phrase.


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    splinter65
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    fergiesfav wrote: »
    Would you send a thank you card to someone that attended your wedding but never gave you a wedding card?

    Of course. It was very kind of them to come and make your day memorable. How those people feel about not bringing a present is not for ye to be worried about.


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    pwurple
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    Yes. Absolutely. Cards go missing, or may not have gotten to you yet. I thanked everyone who made the effort to come to our wedding.


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    Neyite
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    I know of too many weddings where cards have been pocketed (and emptied) by the groom or a groomsman and the person -usually the bride- who is the one thinking of the thank-you cards is none the wiser. Some was just genuinely mislaid, or handed to someone in the bridal party and put in a handbag and forgotten about after the day, others were actually intentionally stolen by family members.



    Once the absence of mentioning the gift in the thank-you card made me realise that they never got our card. A quick text to the bride to confirm they didn't get it and between us we tracked it down via the mammy of a groomsman who found itin the lining of his suit - small card and a big hole in his pocket lining!


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