11-07-2019, 14:30 | #46 |
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On the other hand the material possessions are unlikely to sneeze directly on your eyeball, follow you into the bathroom and quiz you on what's going on between your arse and the bowl, and then progress onto things like telling you you look fat when you stretch, masturbating with your electric toothbrush and stealing your fags, so...swings and roundabouts I'd say.
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11-07-2019, 14:30 | #47 |
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I never had bio kids as there are many educational/learning/processing issues in my family(at least 3 generations back and 2 beyond me), the endless fight for equality or even tiny supports in education, alongside the seemingly unabated acceptance of taking advantages of ppl with these issues, made me feel that any children I would have would just be ignored, discriminated against or taken advantage of until they are at the end of their sanity.
Didn't and still doesn't seem like a fair deal to hand a child, especially those who would have the higher than avg IQ that also runs in the family. I see the bio nieces and nephews struggle with these issues and feel I made the right decision for me, I dont miss not having bio children at all. |
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Spread across the planet in every environment. It's just that other species have their population kept under control via predation, disease, lack of food/water, environment and habitat issues. Humans have cheated that mechanism. Quote:
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11-07-2019, 14:32 | #51 | |
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Well you know where you can shove your pity, because I, my wife, and all those other people who don’t have, or won’t have children don’t need it, we’re doing just fine without it thank you very much. |
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11-07-2019, 14:36 | #52 |
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I love children and babies. Being around them comes naturally to me and I instinctively know what to do. But. To be a parent is in my eyes one of the biggest roles a person can take on. Sometimes I wish I had more of a "sure time is running out and we'll give it a go" attitude. I just can't though. Children must have their needs put first. Your life needs to change hugely in order to be a loving and competent parent.
I love being free and feeling that I can go anywhere, do anything. That's so important to me. Right now I am sitting in Insomnia at a service station with no pressure or expectation. Maybe I'll pop in to Kildare village or maybe I won't. If I was a parent my child would change that and I don't want that to happen. |
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Why intentionally jump into a thread about it. Don't think people intentionally give anyone pity unless they care about them. One of my sisters is married and still child bearing age, but various factors mean it's not ideal to start now. They get a passing thought now and again, more good wishes that things work out. |
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11-07-2019, 14:59 | #59 | |
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I'm mid-40s, single, not at all career-driven but with a decent job, and a mortgage paid off two years ago. I never particularly wanted kids but I probably would have been open to it, but I'm not bothered that it hasn't happened. I get to do my own thing, but see my family too, including my nieces and nephews, so I can be the 'cool uncle' for a bit and then go back to my everyday life. That might be other people's version of Hell, or at least might seem a bit pitiful, but it suits me just fine. |
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11-07-2019, 15:03 | #60 |
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I just don't get anger towards people who don't have children. It's become extremely fashionable now thanks to mgtow etc. Of course we all know when I say "people", I mean "women".
![]() Men get a bit of grief for it too, but the insults are usually reserved for women - cat lady, unattractive, crazy, etc. And it's mostly FROM men too. They seem like men who aren't getting laid themselves though. Happy men in relationships/with children don't tend to talk like that. So a fair bit of projection I'd say. There's a meme about the age women settle down nowadays - and it shows an old woman. Um... who are these women settling down with? ![]() But they should forget about what Gavin McInnes (a guy I don't always disagree with btw) or whatever YouTuber says, and think for themselves: there are several reasons why people don't have children, and it's not always because of the two reasons that are popular to churn out over and over (she's a high flying career bitch/she's unattractive and a "low quality" person). Some people just don't want to have children too. And they don't have to. It is not a life that seems appealing to everyone. Babies are divine, but after that... And they know they won't have people to look after them when they're old. So be it. And if they have a partner, friends, siblings, cousins, nieces and nephews, godchildren, stepchildren... how is their life empty? Some people seem to think it's children or nothing. There was a time when people had children because they had no choice. And some people really were not fit to be parents. Some still aren't. Isn't it better now that only the people who want to be parents can be? I dislike when people are sneered at for HAVING children too though. And they don't all act smug. None of my friends do in the least. Just accept people's choices in this regard - no need for anger over what others do/don't do when it has zero effect on you. Last edited by Gimme A Pound; 11-07-2019 at 21:42. |
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