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Reacting vs Responding

  • 30-10-2015 1:25am
    #1
    Robsweezie
    Registered Users Posts: 3,434 ✭✭✭


    in everyday situations, are you the type to react or respond? if someone did something really bad on you, would you leave them an abusive voicemail/text or just accept they're no good and move on?

    someone's trying to start a row with you, do you rise to it and lose the run of yourself or refuse to even entertain the whole thing?

    when im pissed off ive been known to slam doors the odd time, storm out instead of staying and talking things through properly. im the type who wont start shouting, i'll just walk out. so im not the perfect ''response' type. its too easy to just snap and act on emotion.


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  • #2
    Gatling
    Registered Users Posts: 40,291 ✭✭✭✭Gatling


    Sit back and smile works every time ,
    Works even better on here actually when you see the desperate measures trolls go to just to get bit of attention
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  • #3
    KingBrian2
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,363 ✭✭✭KingBrian2


    I've been known to overreact at times, have to keep my emotions in check. Hassle, frustration and abuse best to ignore and walk away then jumping into an awful outrage.


  • #4
    miss tickle
    Registered Users Posts: 242 ✭✭miss tickle


    Robsweezie wrote: »
    in everyday situations, are you the type to react or respond? if someone did something really bad on you, would you leave them an abusive voicemail/text or just accept they're no good and move on?

    someone's trying to start a row with you, do you rise to it and lose the run of yourself or refuse to even entertain the whole thing?

    when im pissed off ive been known to slam doors the odd time, storm out instead of staying and talking things through properly. im the type who wont start shouting, i'll just walk out. so im not the perfect ''response' type. its too easy to just snap and act on emotion.

    I've been looking at this recently, I think it was bob proctor who said there is a minuscule window wherein you decide to be a reactor or a responder to a situation presented to you, but you can train yourself, or be trained either way.


  • #5
    HalloweenJack
    Registered Users Posts: 7,055 ✭✭✭HalloweenJack


    Depends on the situation.

    If it's something I care about, I'll react. If it's something I don't care about, I'll respond.


  • #6
    La Fenetre
    Registered Users Posts: 736 ✭✭✭La Fenetre


    What's the difference between reacting and responding ?


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  • #7
    punisher5112
    Registered Users Posts: 24,647 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    A little from column A and a kittle from column B


  • #8
    TheLastMohican
    Registered Users Posts: 1,837 ✭✭✭TheLastMohican


    Robsweezie wrote: »
    in everyday situations, are you the type to react or respond? if someone did something really bad on you, would you leave them an abusive voicemail/text or just accept they're no good and move on?

    someone's trying to start a row with you, do you rise to it and lose the run of yourself or refuse to even entertain the whole thing?

    when im pissed off ive been known to slam doors the odd time, storm out instead of staying and talking things through properly. im the type who wont start shouting, i'll just walk out. so im not the perfect ''response' type. its too easy to just snap and act on emotion.

    It depends on whether it's me or my alter-ego.


  • #9
    colossus-x
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,202 ✭✭✭colossus-x


    La Fenetre wrote: »
    What's the difference between reacting and responding ?

    Erm reacting is more knee jerk thoughtless reply where responding is more considered.

    So for example your question was reacting and my reply to you was responding :D


  • #10
    sonny.knowles
    Closed Accounts Posts: 607 ✭✭✭sonny.knowles


    I prefer to reply rather than react or respond.


  • #11
    La Fenetre
    Registered Users Posts: 736 ✭✭✭La Fenetre


    colossus-x wrote: »
    Erm reacting is more knee jerk thoughtless reply where responding is more considered.

    So for example your question was reacting and my reply to you was responding :D

    My question . . . is just a question . . I think you've over-reacted.


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  • #12
    miss tickle
    Registered Users Posts: 242 ✭✭miss tickle


    punisher5112 wrote: »
    A little from column A and a kittle from column B

    You miss-quoted there, it's a little from column A and a kitten from column B, because when you are making an argument, you always need a cute kitten to distract your opposers and hammer home your argument.


  • #13
    Ruu
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,622 ✭✭✭Ruu


    I am trying to be better about but in the 'fight or flight' response, it is instinct to go into survival mode and attack. Had a customer who loves to argue about every little thing and was dismissive about the solutions and my explanation of the matter, start to hear my voice shake. Very hard to deal with people who just want to argue, working on it.:o


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