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Are Aces welcome here?

  • 29-08-2019 11:46pm
    #1
    TornadoAli
    Registered Users Posts: 7 ✭


    Actually are there any even here? (Ireland/Dublin - I imagine there must be..) Just moved to town and have gotten confused looks from the few people I dared mention it to.


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  • #2
    pl4ichjgy17zwd
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,053 ✭✭✭pl4ichjgy17zwd


    I would say I'm demi, but I think there's very little understanding of the sexual/asexual spectrum even within the community


  • #3
    JackTaylorFan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,452 ✭✭✭JackTaylorFan


    I run a group of over 5000 aces on FB. You would have better luck on FB than here. Just saying.


  • #4
    _Godot_
    Registered Users Posts: 877 ✭✭✭_Godot_


    You're not alone! Hello!


  • #5
    AllForIt
    Registered Users Posts: 8,268 ✭✭✭AllForIt


    <
    Tennis forum


  • #6
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,240 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    Mod note: There's no need for smart comments.


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  • #7
    Mr.Frame
    Registered Users Posts: 766 ✭✭✭Mr.Frame


    TornadoAli wrote: »
    Actually are there any even here? (Ireland/Dublin - I imagine there must be..) Just moved to town and have gotten confused looks from the few people I dared mention it to.

    Excuse my ignorance , but what are "aces"?


  • #8
    J_E
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,734 ✭✭✭J_E


    Mr.Frame wrote: »
    Excuse my ignorance , but what are "aces"?
    Asexual - no sexual attraction to other people. Does not mean you are antisocial or can't love, you just don't have a sexual drive towards other people.


  • #9
    Fann Linn
    Registered Users Posts: 7,770 ✭✭✭Fann Linn


    Mr.Frame wrote: »
    Excuse my ignorance , but what are "aces"?

    Us old timers!!


  • #10
    JackTaylorFan
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,452 ✭✭✭JackTaylorFan


    J_E wrote: »
    Asexual - no sexual attraction to other people. Does not mean you are antisocial or can't love, you just don't have a sexual drive towards other people.

    It's even more nuanced than that. Gray ace; demi; aro ace, etc.

    Crazy stuff

    All hail Todd


  • #11
    Annasopra
    Registered Users Posts: 40,764 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    JackTaylorFan wrote: »
    It's even more nuanced than that. Gray ace; demi; aro ace, etc.

    Crazy stuff

    All hail Todd

    I think we shouldny assume that everyone knows all the terminology around asexuality. J_E was answering "what is ace" and was trying to to explain it to to people who know very little about the area. It might be helpful if you explained what gray ace, demi and aro ace are

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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  • #12
    Mr.Frame
    Registered Users Posts: 766 ✭✭✭Mr.Frame


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    I think we shouldny assume that everyone knows all the terminology around asexuality. J_E was answering "what is ace" and was trying to to explain it to to people who know very little about the area. It might be helpful if you explained what gray ace, demi and aro ace are

    I agree. I havent heard of any of those names/terms.


  • #13
    L1011
    Moderators, Business & Finance Moderators, Motoring & Transport Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 67,523 Mod ✭✭✭✭L1011


    I've heard of demi but will probably fail to explain it properly - what I interpreted it as is that physical/sexual attraction is only likely to come about after an emotional, non sexual/physical, connection is already made with the other party. And that's almost definitely at least partially wrong!


  • #14
    Annasopra
    Registered Users Posts: 40,764 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Mr.Frame wrote: »
    I agree. I havent heard of any of those names/terms.

    Same here - I found this though

    http://www.whatisasexuality.com/outreach/glossary/

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #15
    skallywag
    Registered Users Posts: 2,981 ✭✭✭skallywag


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    I think we shouldny assume that everyone knows all the terminology around asexuality. J_E was answering "what is ace" and was trying to to explain it to to people who know very little about the area. It might be helpful if you explained what gray ace, demi and aro ace are

    A big +1 to that.

    I'm a straight guy who takes a look at this sub-forum from time to time, but I find it quite intimidating to post because of not knowing the lingo etc, and that does not just go for aces.


  • #16
    L.Jenkins
    Moderators, Computer Games Moderators, Technology & Internet Moderators Posts: 19,240 Mod ✭✭✭✭L.Jenkins


    As you all know, I'm bi and trans, but I'm still pretty unaware of some of the lingo in the aces community. I also feel that everyone is welcome here, as long as we're all willing to learn and respect each other.


  • #17
    TornadoAli
    Registered Users Posts: 7 ✭TornadoAli


    skallywag wrote: »
    A big +1 to that.

    I'm a straight guy who takes a look at this sub-forum from time to time, but I find it quite intimidating to post because of not knowing the lingo etc, and that does not just go for aces.

    I hear you - I get confused about all the different flags!


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