Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

Feisar · 30-01-2020 12:54pm

Assetbacked wrote: »

I'm out of the game so don't worry. Besides iron sharpens iron no harm in competition, keeps us all sharp.

Assetbacked · 30-01-2020 12:58pm

Feisar wrote: »

I'm out of the game so don't worry. Besides iron sharpens iron no harm in competition, keeps us all sharp.

I'm also out of the game but if I ever go back, girls with daddy issues are a treasure trove as a lot of men just see psycho and crazy, without appreciating the positives.

con___manx1 · 30-01-2020 1:01pm

Good/Average looking women on dating apps with a list of dislikes on there page.

optogirl · 30-01-2020 1:02pm

Motivator wrote: »

Hairy box.

Waxing your balls yourself are you?

tjhook · 30-01-2020 1:05pm

For me, the deal-breaker is somebody with "a cause". They're on a crusade. It might be a great cause, and well done for taking a position and following up, but living with it constantly gets weary. I even get fed up of RTE spending more than a few days frowning about a single issue.

nkl12xtw5goz70 · 30-01-2020 1:11pm

tjhook wrote: »

For me, the deal-breaker is somebody with "a cause". They're on a crusade. It might be a great cause, and well done for taking a position and following up, but living with it constantly gets weary. I even get fed up of RTE spending more than a few days frowning about a single issue.

Yeah, add "climate activist" to my list. Global warming is a serious problem but I don't want to be hectored constantly about driving, flying, lighting the fire, etc.

H3llR4iser · 30-01-2020 1:19pm

Pretty much everything I'd consider a dealbreaker has been mentioned in this thread - primarily lack of interests, obsession about TV/celebrities, clingyness, lack of independence.

I've recently ran into a new one, which I don't know how to define at all - and I'm not sure if I can even explain it well; basically, "lack of style in daily life": essentially women who look absolutely fine when going out/on a date - and when I mean "fine", I mean they really know how to style themselves, not some cheap&tacky "fake tan and eyelashes" job - but completely drab and frumpy if say you met them during the day. Like there's no middle way, if I give the idea.

Obvious Desperate Breakfasts wrote: »

I can’t drive and hubs is never my taximan. I always use public transport if it’s just me going somewhere. If we moved to a rural location, I’d learn.

Yes, especially in Dublin it is indeed possible that someone might not need a driving license at all; Plus you're clearly stating you'd learn if necessary.

However, I've known plenty of women who have the "somebody will give me a lift, I don't need to drive" mentality - it's a very tricky one to figure out, just like the following one about drinking. Usually, it takes a few months of "free taxi driver" work before you realize what's going on :mad:

Higgins5473 wrote: »

I worked with a girl who said its fairly common for a non-drinker to a be a red flag/warning sign for girls if they meet a lad (purely speaking about those that did drink and don't anymore).

Problem is, people here ASSUME you to be a former ferocious alcoholic when they learn you don't drink. Experiencing it first-hand for the last 11 years. No amount of explanation that I never actually drank will suffice - and I'm not even Irish, I don't even want to imagine how bad it must be for an Irish-born on drinker.

Turquoise Hexagon Sun · 30-01-2020 1:20pm

People that have politicize everything. OK, so you don't like that stand-up comic because he's perhaps un-PC, he's not recruiting you in to his cult, he's not standing for election, he's telling jokes and people aren't idiots for liking it, we can separate the man from the jokes. Stop taking jokes litterally. Gets angry if you have a more nuanced view to social and political issues. Basically people that are millitant in their beliefs and can't get why you don't follow their exact stance on everything.

Another red flag would be if she was on her phone a lot. Or if we swapped Instagrams and all her photos are just her.

I would be very obliging to pay on a first date but if she didn't at least offer (just offer) or said something like "you paid for the meal, let me get the drinks" or something to that effect.

Other red flag is someone who will happliy answer a million questions about themselves but doesn't ask you a question in return.

Too much make-up, or any amount fake-tan. Maybe not a deal-breaker but would I would just be thinking of how this is going to smell? Is it all coagjulating on her knuckles. Is she insecure about herself? If she's in to fake tan, what else is she going to be in to.

Yeah and as other's mentioned. Into celeb culture and reality TV. No thanks.

Or doesn't have any hobbies. (And shopping isn't a hobby) or doesn't appreciate art in any form.

Most people are usually grand.

Sober Crappy Chemis · 30-01-2020 1:27pm

People with tattoos that say stuff like ‘Only God can judge me’ and think that makes them as clever and insightful as Aristotle or Plato.

Monkey2019 · 30-01-2020 1:35pm

A guy sending unsolicited dick pics after a couple of text exchanges.

Is there any need

Leg End Reject · 30-01-2020 1:37pm

What, may I ask, are acceptable hobbies? They're mentioned a lot.

Sober Crappy Chemis · 30-01-2020 1:37pm

Monkey2019 wrote: »

A guy sending unsolicited dick pics after a couple of text exchanges.

Is there any need

PM sent.

Turquoise Hexagon Sun · 30-01-2020 1:41pm

Leg End Reject wrote: »

What, may I ask, are acceptable hobbies? They're mentioned a lot.

I mentioned hobbies. I just think anyone with a hobby shows passion for something in life. It shows that someone has taken the initative to learn some skill or to occupy their time in a productive or fun way.

For me, any hobby is acceptable so long as it's doesn't interfere greatly with someones to the point they're too unavailable, or other parts of of their life is greatly lacking due to an overinvestment in their hobby.

But, if I met a girl who had a hobby like, painting, writing, photography, blogging, fashion design, hiking, surfing, playing an instrument, or health and fitness or anything like that, I would definitely more instantly attracted to her.

BASHIR · 30-01-2020 1:43pm

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Feisar · 30-01-2020 1:50pm

Monkey2019 wrote: »

A guy sending unsolicited dick pics after a couple of text exchanges.

Is there any need

There is never a need, like what's a lad expecting, she'll keel over and start writhing on the floor, frothing with desire?

Qrt · 30-01-2020 1:53pm

Living with their Ex

theguzman · 30-01-2020 1:56pm

Women who turn the lights off or want to have sex in darkness, had an incident last year where I was on a first date which went great and we went back to the hotel (Happened abroad) anyway despite my best efforts she totally blank refused to do it with even a bit of light shining out the bathroom door.

I was thinking she must have some nasty STD she is hiding and I don't know nothing about her, she was very attractive with a great body so being able to see her with light would have been a major bonus. Anyway it was just for a few nights but I couldn't handle that level of controlling in a relationship and the lights must be turned on. Around 5 years ago hooked up with a girl who insisted on covering the mirror in the bedroom with a towel before shenanigans started, apparently mirrors reflect your soul and she didn't want her soul to see what we would do!

Alot of posts here criticizing religious people or those who are into religion but some of the best sex I've had has been with the real religious conservative zealot type women and they really get a thrill out of "misbehaving" and "sinning" in their mind. Getting dragged along to mass after a nights passion is a downer but worth it. One woman who was totally anti-abortion refused to allow me to use a Condom, win for me!

I have dated a few feminist leftwing types and one was incredible in bed but the majority were as painful as a root canal and you might expect to get laid 6 months later.

Deebles McBeebles · 30-01-2020 2:08pm

theguzman wrote: »

One woman who was totally anti-abortion refused to allow me to use a Condom, win for me!

Eh....congratulations, daddy!

dinorebel · 30-01-2020 2:15pm

Monkey2019 wrote: »

A guy sending unsolicited dick pics after a couple of text exchanges.

Is there any need

Someone beat me to it

Tell me how · 30-01-2020 2:32pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

psycho ex who she has a kid or kids with

religious

if she dislikes the police

if she is the type to protest or campaign for causes like the homeless

pessimistic

unorganized

no ambition

two faced

a snob

selfish

no sense of humor

How did both of these appear on the same list?

30-01-2020 2:57pm

Captain Flaps wrote: »

This list explains a lot

Such as?

Jim Root · 30-01-2020 3:00pm

Feisar wrote: »

There is never a need, like what's a lad expecting, she'll keel over and start writhing on the floor, frothing with desire?

that would be ideal.

KathleenGrant · 30-01-2020 3:10pm

pgj2015 wrote: »

if she dislikes the police

She has to like the same bands??

1o059k7ewrqj3n · 30-01-2020 3:16pm

KathleenGrant wrote: »

She has to like the same bands??

I think he means the Guards

KathleenGrant · 30-01-2020 3:28pm

Steyr 556 wrote: »

I think he means the Guards

Oops.... Is low IQ a deal-breaker?

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5 · 30-01-2020 3:58pm

Feisar wrote: »

There is never a need, like what's a lad expecting, she'll keel over and start writhing on the floor, frothing with desire?

It's like the ones who roar or whistle at women on the street.

Either: it worked for someone, at some point, and they keep plugging away, or; it's the fact that they've made a woman angry or upset or disgusted that they get off on.

I have one friend who if possible looks at their socials, finds a female relative and threatens to send her the screenshots. The dick piccers all seem to feel very strongly that this is poor form

I don't think she's ever actually followed through.

1o059k7ewrqj3n · 30-01-2020 4:04pm

KathleenGrant wrote: »

Oops.... Is low IQ a deal-breaker?

Sense of humour definitely is.

Assetbacked · 30-01-2020 4:16pm

Journee Odd Pensioner wrote: »

It's like the ones who roar or whistle at women on the street.

Either: it worked for someone, at some point, and they keep plugging away, or; it's the fact that they've made a woman angry or upset or disgusted that they get off on.

I have one friend who if possible looks at their socials, finds a female relative and threatens to send her the screenshots. The dick piccers all seem to feel very strongly that this is poor form

I don't think she's ever actually followed through.

That female friend must have some serious men hang ups.

While dick pics are lowest common denominator males, the women who get vindictive about them betray something not quite right with themselves.

CrankyHaus · 30-01-2020 4:17pm

Assetbacked wrote: »

That female friend must have some serious men hang ups.

While dick pics are lowest common denominator males, the women who get vindictive about them betray something not quite right with themselves.

Or simply refuse to be treated with disrespect.

Feisar · 30-01-2020 4:22pm

Journee Odd Pensioner wrote: »

It's like the ones who roar or whistle at women on the street.

Either: it worked for someone, at some point, and they keep plugging away, or; it's the fact that they've made a woman angry or upset or disgusted that they get off on.

I have one friend who if possible looks at their socials, finds a female relative and threatens to send her the screenshots. The dick piccers all seem to feel very strongly that this is poor form

I don't think she's ever actually followed through.

Deal breakers and turn-off's in dating!

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