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14-11-2019, 09:17   #46
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It does add up though:
Night Before Meal
BBQ After
Could never understand this wankology. Bad enough filling people full of food and drink on the day, but the day before and the day after? Ah here.
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It does add up though:

Hotel Food
Rings
Wedding Dress
Brides Maids
Brides Maids Shoes
Groom
Grooms Men
Car
Photographer
Camera Man
Hair & Makeup
Church
Pre Wedding Crap
Priest
Alter Person
Flowers
Band
Invites
Stag
Hen
DJ
Rooms for wedding party
Honeymoon
Wedding Cake
Music in Church
Registration
Night Before Meal
BBQ After
itemisation is not an argument nor a justification!
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Wedding invite = unwelcome bill coming through letterbox.

I usually feign illness or death when I get one.
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14-11-2019, 09:19   #49
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It does add up though:

Hotel Food
Rings
Wedding Dress
Brides Maids
Brides Maids Shoes
Groom
Grooms Men
Car
Photographer
Camera Man
Hair & Makeup
Church
Pre Wedding Crap
Priest
Alter Person
Flowers
Band
Invites
Stag
Hen
DJ
Rooms for wedding party
Honeymoon
Wedding Cake
Music in Church
Registration
Night Before Meal
BBQ After
Sure thing Franc
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nothing worse than a wedding invitation
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14-11-2019, 09:22   #51
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Ugh. And the sexism starts.... Men have families and friends they want to invite. My husband invited about twice the number of people to our wedding than I did.

Some people have absolutely no idea of the cost of things. You're buying dinner for 200 people for a start. How much do you think that costs?

Say you take your family out to a slap up dinner to celebrate something... i dunno, a birthday, an anniversary, some achievement , maybe you won an award. How much do you think that costs? Both sides of your family... mums , dads, siblings and partners. Maybe a couple of aunts or neighbours. Include wine. Let's say 40 people. How much would that cost you? You won't get much change from 4k. Now, maybe you want to add a suit and a nice shirt to that, you nip down the tailors... 500 quid? A new dress, hair, shoes another 500. You're at 5k here already for a dinner out with a small group.

Now, multiply that up by 5 (include suits and dresses for other bridal party members) to get to your 200 people. Look here, you're at 20k on just dinner, drinks and some outfits. None of that is frills.

Think then of everything else that gets added. A wedding cake, wouldn't be outrageous to have one of those would it? Entertainment for hours, maybe music in the ceremony, and music after your dinner? The ceremony itself and registrars, they're not free. A photographer.
All these things are thousands more, and none of this is yet a blingy wedding.
Put yourself, your parents and the bridal party up in the hotel for the night? Another 2k.



Now, you can of course go to the registry office, and then out for a bag of crisps and a pint after. That's fun too, and some couples do it. But if you want to buy dinner for 200 people, you're into big bucks straight away. And you cannot persuade me that every fella in the universe wants the crisps option, and every woman wants to treat her friends.
What you consider a basic wedding is all well over the top, and exactly what the OP was getting at. Why would you need 200 people there? Would you invite 200 people out for drinks on a Saturday night?

What you consider a no-frills wedding ends up costing a guest hundreds - if not more. For the cost of going to one wedding, i could get 5 or 6 great nights out, doing what i want to do. Not sitting in a hotel beside some couple I barely know, listening to some dreary speeches which go on for an hour.
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Could never understand this wankology. Bad enough filling people full of food and drink on the day, but the day before and the day after? Ah here.
We had a few pints down the local the night after. The night before I brought the groomsmen out for dinner, hardly ostentatious.
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Wedding invite = unwelcome bill coming through letterbox.

I usually feign illness or death when I get one.
To the tune of Back to Black....Amy Winehouse

"the wedding invite in the door,
I died a hundred times
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itemisation is not an argument nor a justification!
The items also don't need to go anywhere near €40k, daft amount to be spending. All of those could be done for a fraction of that.
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itemisation is not an argument nor a justification!
I'm not trying to justify anything, we had a fairly plain wedding and it ran to 25K
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I was chatting to this fella who has his own private island (only a tiny thing less than 100m across and only a wooden shack built on it) and he was prepping the place for a wedding. I said to him "ahhh that's great that will save a pile of money on a hotel" he replies it was only for the second day and the first day of it was in a hotel. Crazy carry on. We'll be hearing on the news about how all this carry on was 'unsustainable' in a few years after they quadruple our property tax when the crash comes
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Wedding invite = unwelcome bill coming through letterbox.

I usually feign illness or death when I get one.
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nothing worse than a wedding invitation
Prefer to receive a summons through the door - be cheaper too.
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Night Before Meal
BBQ After
FFS

Such bulsh!t
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"sexism"?

"the lads want it too"!

"what if you took everyone you knew to dinner in a castle, what THEN huh"?

will u shtopppp
Lads want it too me bollox. All the lads have to do is show up, in a clean suit, mostly under duress.

Every wedding fair going is bride centric. A wedding is a woman's way of telling the world she's somehow made it.
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