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14-11-2019, 06:49   #16
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Weddings? Rites of passage.
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14-11-2019, 06:50   #17
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Couldn't face spending that money on one
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I think it's down to the couple but I think there are many more options for people now to have far less elaborate weddings and to be fair as others have said I think I've seen far more intimate/nonstandard weddings the past few years than over the top ones.
As others have also said weddings can be complicated by family issues where a lot of the stress comes from.
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Been to 3 family weddings in the past 5 years where it's the other end of the country and is 3 nights in a 4-5 star hotel. As the kids were invited, for 2 of the weddings we had to book 2 rooms @ approx. €300/night/room! With food, drink (my kids are of drinking age and at uni!) and usual extras, it hit us for about €4k per wedding. What pisses me off most though is the fact that in all cases, the couple getting married were local to our area but picked the wedding venues for 'wow' factor.
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Been to 3 family weddings in the past 5 years where it's the other end of the country and is 3 nights in a 4-5 star hotel. As the kids were invited, for 2 of the weddings we had to book 2 rooms @ approx. €300/night/room! With food, drink (my kids are of drinking age and at uni!) and usual extras, it hit us for about €4k per wedding. What pisses me off most though is the fact that in all cases, the couple getting married were local to our area but picked the wedding venues for 'wow' factor.
You must be soft in the head. You booked and paid for €300 per night rooms for your grown up kids as well as everything else. I really drew a short straw with my folks!
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You must be soft in the head. You booked and paid for €300 per night rooms for your grown up kids as well as everything else. I really drew a short straw with my folks!
Why soft in the head? I didn't have any option! We're lucky enough to be able to afford it but I know some of the couples that went had to take out loans!
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Why soft in the head? I didn't have any option! We're lucky enough to be able to afford it but I know some of the couples that went had to take out loans!
They pay for themselves or stay at home- weddings aren’t compulsory or life threatening like say needing brain surgery.
Taking out loans for stuff like this is insanity. So glad I’m not one of these people that has to fit in just because everyone else appears to be doing it

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Work colleague spent €40,000 on the wedding. €40k ffs! The boom is getting boomier
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Work colleague spent €40,000 on the wedding. €40k ffs! The boom is getting boomier
Crazy. No doubt the poor parents will be expected to stump up also. Easy credit and full employment a big factor
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Why soft in the head? I didn't have any option! We're lucky enough to be able to afford it but I know some of the couples that went had to take out loans!
Insanity, If I even have to dip into my savings for a wedding, I'm not going. I'll go to a local wedding and get a taxi home. For close friends, I will stay for one night in a hotel, if its out of town, but none of these 2-day weddings.

Couples expect you to get excited about their big day, but apart from very close friends, normally of the bride, nobody really cares - most would rather not be there.
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They pay for themselves or stay at home- weddings aren’t compulsory or life threatening like say needing brain surgery.
Taking out loans for stuff like this is insanity. So glad I’m not one of these prior that has to fit in just because everyone else appears to be doing it
So why would we leave our kids at home? As I said, we're fortunate enough to be able to afford it, but my point is that there were plenty of other people, close family on both sides, that struggled.
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Insanity, If I even have to dip into my savings for a wedding, I'm not going. I'll go to a local wedding and get a taxi home. For close friends, I will stay for one night in a hotel, if its out of town, but none of these 2-day weddings.

Couples expect you to get excited about their big day, but apart from very close friends, normally of the bride, nobody really cares - most would rather not be there.
100% bang on. It seems that unless the couple put on a mini Electric Picnic then the marriage is doomed to failure!
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I want to throw this out there. People getting married at Christmas. I have two weddings I have been invited to, but I do not know how the hell I can afford to go either of them. Literally right after Christmas when everyone is broke, apart from the lovely couples in question. Why do people do that?
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are ye afraid to say that 99% of the daftness is driven by the women?

ive never heard a single justification for the ****e that goes on and the money that gets spent, it all seems the greatest spoof going to me.

thirty grand for "my big day", jesus its toddler mentality stuff really
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...the reception would be low key but relaxed and classy...
Some people think a classy wedding involves lots of being ostentatious. Some people try to organise a big event which they have to manage and be the star of for the day. So on a pretty significant day in their entire life, they also have to be an event manager.

If you go somewhere like a hotel, the staff will be well able to manage a small wedding without much input on the day. It takes some organisation beforehand but if you have realistic expectations, like knowing things don't always go to plan, then you'll be grand.

Some people see value in being stressed (shows your working hard) others see value in being relaxed and chatting to guests and having a nice time.
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