Asking work colleague for money for giving lift to work

I did it once for a few months and never get myself into such an arrangement again. There’s nothing like finishing a shift and getting into the car by yourself, listening to shlte on the radio, talking to yourself, fart if you need to, whatever! Bringing someone home from work just prolongs the social charade of the day when you want to switch off and have peace.

OP if I were you I’d just say it’s not something you can commit to anymore. Don’t get tangled up in excuses or lies, you don’t even owe him a reason. You were very good to do what you did for four months and if you don’t want to do it anymore then that’s okay.

retro:electro wrote: »

I did it once for a few months and never get myself into such an arrangement again. There’s nothing like finishing a shift and getting into the car by yourself, listening to shlte on the radio, talking to yourself, fart if you need to, whatever! Bringing someone home from work just prolongs the social charade of the day when you want to switch off and have peace.

OP if I were you I’d just say it’s not something you can commit to anymore. Don’t get tangled up in excuses or lies, you don’t even owe him a reason. You were very good to do what you did for four months and if you don’t want to do it anymore then that’s okay.

This - all of this. No chance I'd be having to hang around waiting on someone, or alternatively feeling under pressure to get out to meet them - ESPECIALLY if they weren't paying a cent towards the costs.

But on that last point.. I think it might impact on insurance in the event of an accident if you were taking money too as technically it's no longer "social domestic and pleasure" but more like a cab for hire.

I could be wrong of course, but the downsides seem not worth the hassle on several fronts.

wonski wrote: »

Just pointing it out that you are allowed to take a payment, as long as it is just to cover the expenses, so you don't make it for profit, or God forbid, living

In the event of the accident I would be more worried about a chance of personal injury claim if you were at fault, but that's really outside the scope of the thread anyway.

might be outside the scope of the thread but it would certainly turn an outside of insurance - 500 euro prang (regardless of fault) into something a lot more out of your own hands

frozenfrozen wrote: »

might be outside the scope of the thread but it would certainly turn an outside of insurance - 500 euro prang (regardless of fault) into something a lot more out of your own hands

I know very little about car insurance, are you saying the driver would have a liability issue as a result of carrying his colleague as a passenger (and potentially taking payment)? Other posters seem sure it isn't an issue

tedpan wrote: »

The additional weight of the person will add up over a year and the costs are pretty significant when calculated.

Must add thousands to the annual costs alright.

These sort of situations never get resolved by dropping hints or passive aggressiveness or making the car wet/stinky/uncomfortable. You have three options here.
1. Continue as you are, getting more and more annoyed at the tight fcker who's enjoying the convenience of being ferried to and from work free of charge
2. Ask for money towards the petrol (How much exactly are we talking about here?)
3. Tell them you're not going to pick them up any more. Don't be apologetic about it but state it as a fact.

Naos wrote: »

4 months and hasn't offered anything?

Joke - not a hope I'd have given them a lift past the seond week because if I was them (I don't know the distance), I'd be throwing a courteous 20e a week at the least. They're getting taxi service 10 times a week.

Also, I'd be very reluctant to get into any arrangement like this. Having to explain to someone that you need to go somewhere else after work or feeling guilty because you're late in the morning for whatever reason... no chance.

I just can’t understand how people get into these arrangements and can’t seem to get out of them. Users like the lift spongers have a homing instinct for soft touches like the OP and know they’ll be get away with it.
As they say if you want to be treated like a doormat you will be treated like a doormat

road_high wrote: »

I just can’t understand how people get into these arrangements and can’t seem to get out of them. Users like the lift spongers have a homing instinct for soft touches like the OP and know they’ll be get away with it.
As they say if you want to be treated like a doormat you will be treated like a doormat

Agreed but then, maybe some people are just nicer than us

I'm looking at this from the otherside though, I cannot understand how someone can get into this arrangment as the lift taker and not want to pay.

Two examples :

I've taken a lift from Dublin - Galway for a stag/weekend away from a matesand have either contributed for petrol or bought the first couple of pints for them.

I've had a work colleague give me a lift and I arranged to meet them at a garage closest to me and met them with a coffee in hand.

road_high wrote: »

Just because it wasn’t asked for doesn’t mean you shouldn’t offer. It’s common decency to pay your way especially if a regular thing

Exactly, the driver of the car doesn't get these things for free and €20 a week would still be cheaper according to the driver than getting public transport, why are people so greedy and inconsiderate, pay your way in life.

i remember when I got my first graduate job in Dublin, I was ringing around places to rent. some ar$ehole who lived in a big house, probably worth a fortune, wanted to know if I would drop him at work every day, fcuk off, needless to say I looked elsewhere.

I used to give a guy a lift to work years ago. He was on my route , I lived about 25 miles from work, carried him for the last 10. Anyway he lived down a lane way and I’d often have to wait maybe a minute, I’d see him running up the lane. Never offered a penny towards petrol even though I’d stopped numerous times to fill up. Was getting sick of it so I suggested one Friday we go for a pint after work. Didn’t buy me one drink, needless to say the lifts stopped the next Monday. People that use a continuous favour and show no appreciation deserve nothing, not even good will.

it can work both ways though. I remember a friend of mine years ago who didnt drive, college student, single mother. this older guy who was in her class at college gave her a lift to college most days, charged her 60 euro a week for petrol, as my friend didnt know how much it cost to run a car. he was easily making a profit from her the miserable prick, off a single mother who didnt work.

Naos wrote: »

I've had a work colleague give me a lift and I arranged to meet them at a garage closest to me and met them with a coffee in hand.

Would you not have got them one too?!?

When I had to get lifts, when my car broke down or the bus was too unreliable,I always made an offer to pay for petrol.Most timesit was turned down,but when I got regular lifts from a friend,I paid for petrol. the lifts saved me a lotof bother and when I got backinto reliablemotoring, I always returned the favour.