How late is it acceptable for the bride to arrive at the church?

facehugger99 · 23-11-2019 8:57pm #1

Any more than 20 minutes is taking the piss in my view.

I'm tied of waiting at churches for 40 or 50 minutes for the bride to arrive.

Lisha · 23-11-2019 8:58pm

I’d have said 15 mins. Once waited 65mins total piss take imho

Hoboo · 23-11-2019 9:15pm

No amount of time is acceptable. It's now considered normal, it's almost expected. You hear people ask was the bride on time, to her own wedding! I don't get it.

Subacio · 23-11-2019 9:37pm

My wife was 35 minutes late for ours.

Twas a good job too. My family got lost on the way to the church and were 25 minutes late themselves.

the_syco · 23-11-2019 9:47pm

facehugger99 wrote: »

I'm tied of waiting at churches for 40 or 50 minutes for the bride to arrive.

I arrive early. But I know they'll be late.

I think I was in a church for close to 90 minutes before the thing started!

GingerLily · 23-11-2019 10:39pm

I know a lot of punctual brides who were forced to arrive late because the guests were all late, lots because the added traffic to the church. Its not always the brides fault if there's a delay.

Also, it's easy to be delayed on your wedding day, you'll know by what the bride and groom put out at the reception if they're considerate hosts IMO.

I've better things to be worried about then a late bride

Sonny noggs · 23-11-2019 10:44pm

I usually get up and leave if left waiting for more than 15 minutes past the posted start time. I also knock EUR 50 off the gift for the inconvenience caused.

missmatty · 23-11-2019 10:44pm

We had our wedding in one venue and I was delayed going downstairs for the ceremony for nearly half an hour while they dug people out of the bar, I thought it was funny and didn't mind at all. I remember waiting for one cousin's bride for nearly an hour and traffic wasn't an issue, I think being late is really rude to your guests.

23-11-2019 10:46pm

One minute late is too much. Courtesy dictates a timely arrival. Imagine being the next couple??!!

lazygal · 24-11-2019 11:59am

We waited in a freezing church for 50 mins once. And another time I waited 45 mins while heavily pregnant even though the ceremony was in the same venue as the reception. No idea why anyone thinks that's OK.
We had our ceremony time on our invites at 3pm. I walked up the aisle at 3.01pm. I told everyone I would be on time.

baby and crumble · 24-11-2019 12:20pm

We were determined to be bang on time for ours, we ended up 15 minutes late because nobody told us everyone was seated. We told our bridal party to text us when we could come down from our room, nobody did, we ended up ringing them to see what was wrong and they were like “nothing we were just waiting for you!” Raging we were, we were sitting upstairs ready and raring to go!!!

GDK_11 · 24-11-2019 12:33pm

Can’t quite understand anyone deliberately turning up late to their own wedding (traffic, photographers running late etc, no issue). When I got married the wife arrived at the scheduled time, she knew I was nervous enough anyway without standing up the aisle like a plank for half an hour. Shows a pretty poor attitude to the groom and the guests.

Heres Johnny · 24-11-2019 12:43pm

It's an absolute pain in the hole waiting. It's so narcissistic on the brides part. It's my day, I'm going to make you all wait and build suspense. I'm getting married next year and if she tries that **** and isn't there on time I'm going for a few pints with my brother and friends and age can wait on me.
Disclaimer :Probably won't happen but I don't see the difference apart from some rubbish old tradition.

The Nal · 24-11-2019 12:48pm

Waited an hour once and then the ceremony was 90 minutes. Was in the church for well over three hours all in.

I think its inconsiderate to have long ceremonies in in churches. So boring and I find the whole thing really weird.

woodchuck · 24-11-2019 12:49pm

10 minutes. That is the only acceptable length of time for anyone to be late in ANY situation (baring exceptional circumstances of course). You don't get a pass because it's your wedding day :P

I'll be telling everyone that I'll be bang on time on my day!! If anyone else is late, I'll be going ahead without them. No sneaking in once it's started, see you at the reception.

Toots · 24-11-2019 12:57pm

I've only been to one wedding where the bride was more than about 10 mins late. In all those instances (bar the one) the "lateness" was them sitting outside the church in the wedding car, waiting for the last few stragglers to take their seats.

I was bang on time to mine - told everyone beforehand I didn't care if they were ready or not, I wasn't hanging round. Once my husband and parents were there that was good enough for me.

One bride kept us waiting well over an hour, in a roasting Greek church in the middle of August. There was no air conditioning and one of the aunties fainted and had to be carried out. We all assumed there had been some crisis because the church was literally across the road from the hotel, so it's not like they had a car and the driver got lost or stuck in traffic. No crisis, just sitting up in the room drinking champagne while her guests all died of heat stroke and her groom almost had an anxiety attack.

Faith · 24-11-2019 3:45pm

I remember the driver of my wedding car being horrified that I was ready to go on time because he thought I should be late. I think we ended up arriving on time, but there were still a few stragglers arriving so we took some pictures outside first. I think I probably walked down the aisle about 10 minutes late in the end.

I’ve been a bridesmaid for a wedding where we were about 30 minutes late, but there was a really long drive from the bride’s house and she wanted to get ready at home but change into her dress at the venue rather than sit in it for the whole drive, and I think it took her way longer to get into it than she had planned. That whole day ran really late, because they also had SO MANY really long speeches, and we’d all run out of booze by the end of the first one :rolleyes:. I think it was close to 11pm when they finally had their first dance.

But I too have sat in cold, drafty uncomfortable churches for an hour while we waited for a bride to arrive, and it’s bloody infuriating. Especially, as others have said, you’re then forced to sit through a long and boring mass. I remember a friend of mine getting so bored waiting for a bride that he was just sitting there on Tinder!

BDI · 24-11-2019 3:48pm

How many weddings do you people attend?

I feel trapped in a church. I don’t want to be in there for one moment more than I have to be. I’d probably leave if the bride was ten minutes late and sometimes I sneak out at the end if nobody will notice.

I also sometimes turn up at funerals, greet the family and give cards or flowers then when everybody follows the coffin into the church slow to the back of the que and jump in the car and head off.

corks finest · 24-11-2019 3:49pm

TBH wish to f**k my wan never arrived

Plumbthedepths · 24-11-2019 3:51pm

Excepting guests to be happy for you to be fashionable late is one of the reasons I refuse to attend the church part of a wedding.

elperello · 24-11-2019 3:59pm

You might show some consideration for the celebrant, servers and sacristan.
The wedding party are there for the day out but they have other things to attend to.

ldy4mxonucwsq6 · 24-11-2019 4:01pm

I have been at a few weddings where the bride was over an hour late but have found the norm is about 45 mins (most the ceremony was in the venue so no excuse really she was already in the building).

I arrived 5 minutes late for my own, had to ask everyone standing outside talking to go in ahead of me. I should have kept driving........

I hate getting wedding invitations these days and have declined three in the last year. They are an expensive pain in the a*se, couldn't be bothered unless it's someone close.

tiredblondie · 25-11-2019 12:56pm

Mine was at 3.30 in the hotel (i was staying there the night before too)
It was 3.40 when i walked up the aisle - i was ready at 3 and pacing up and down waiting for the coordinator to call me down.
Turns out, the celebrant was late, he didn't show up until 3.30 on the dot and there had been some panic going on as to where he was!
No one told me about it (thank god!) but i hated being late!!

tiredblondie · 25-11-2019 12:57pm

elperello wrote: »

You might show some consideration for the celebrant, servers and sacristan.
The wedding party are there for the day out but they have other things to attend to.

My celebrant was the reason i was late!!

dubbrin · 25-11-2019 1:19pm

elperello wrote: »

You might show some consideration for the celebrant, servers and sacristan.
The wedding party are there for the day out but they have other things to attend to.

Drove my friend to the church for her wedding. The priest said that if she was late he'd leave and there would be no wedding. I think he gave a 5 minute tolerance, but was quite serious about it. I was on the ball with everything and we were 3/4mins late, not noticeable.

Great result, the church is the boring bit anyway!

GingerLily · 25-11-2019 1:24pm

tiredblondie wrote: »

My celebrant was the reason i was late!!

I don't think that poster cares who is responsible, I think they just want to blame 'Bridezillas', very common on Boards!

The Nal · 25-11-2019 1:24pm

BDI wrote: »

I also sometimes turn up at funerals, greet the family and give cards or flowers then when everybody follows the coffin into the church slow to the back of the que and jump in the car and head off.

Excellent strategy sir.

bladespin · 25-11-2019 1:29pm

My wife arrived early, caught us a little off guard, esp the priest, her parents live about 1/4 miles away from the church so they could have walked up and been on-time, I do know one local priest who tells couples during the walk-through that anything more than 20 mins and it'll be called off until any other business has been attended to, be it wedding, funeral etc, I like his style.

Digs · 25-11-2019 1:32pm

The general seems to be 10/15 mins. Think I was 10 mins late for my own. I was at the church on time but the photographer was faffing about.

I waited for a bride for 1hr10 mins on Stephens Day in an absolutely Baltic church and everyone was extremely miffed, not least the priest but the poor groom was really getting antsy. Set an odd tone for the day. It was very unfair. She was coming from her parents house five mins away aswell.

partyguinness · 25-11-2019 1:33pm

I remember intentionally arriving late to the church as a guest- a good 20 mins. The bridal party pulled up at the exact same time and we were desperately trying to hide from the cameras etc while walking in at the same time.

The church service is boring as fcuk anyway- it's an ordeal. Nobody likes it and anyone who says otherwise is a big fat hairy liar.

victor8600 · 25-11-2019 1:40pm

I think 10-15 minutes late would be ideal. Gives some time for the groom to stand comically alone and for late comers to find their places. After that people start chatting too loudly and get bored.

How late is it acceptable for the bride to arrive at the church?

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