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Throwing away the chance that you had but didn't want...

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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    Boom_Bap wrote: »
    Looks like you'll need to change jobs, i'd even suggest moving to a new country just to be sure you don't bump into her again.
    Burning down the place of work is a given though.

    That'd probably have nothing to do with the situation...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    Bobblehats wrote: »
    This can also occur if we get our priorities wrong in trying to fend off what we perceive as a threat. Its a bit Like the lad who goes down under the feintest of challenges, instead retaining his focus and taking on the opportunity that was hand. And to make matters worse he didn’t even go down in the box

    Sorry, you're going to have to re-word that a bit, as I can't understand it...


  • Registered Users Posts: 939 ✭✭✭bitofabind


    jesus talk about making a mountain out of a molehill.

    Maybe she was interested or maybe she's one of those over-bearing types that has no sense of personal space. Either way she probably had five seconds of "where did that bloke feck off to" before moving on with her night.

    christ you're like a 13 year old who's never conducted a conversation with less experienced a bit of attention from the opposite sex OP. Has a woman ever hit on you before or is this your first rodeo?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    bitofabind wrote: »
    jesus talk about making a mountain out of a molehill.

    Maybe she was interested or maybe she's one of those over-bearing types that has no sense of personal space. Either way she probably had five seconds of "where did that bloke feck off to" before moving on with her night.

    christ you're like a 13 year old who's never conducted a conversation with less experienced a bit of attention from the opposite sex OP. Has a woman ever hit on you before or is this your first rodeo?

    Yeh, people have hit on me before. Usually I'm not long telling them to fcuk off though.

    The last time something similar happened was when some random girl said that she's taking me back to a house party with her. I just said to her "I know what that means". What I said after that I can't really remember but it was enough to make her actively avoid me for the rest of the night...


  • Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Yeh, people have hit on me before. Usually I'm not long telling them to fcuk off though.

    The last time something similar happened was when some random girl said that she's taking me back to a house party with her. I just said to her "I know what that means". What I said after that I can't really remember but it was enough to make her actively avoid me for the rest of the night...
    it didn't mean what you think it meant

    You realize men and women can be just friends right? that talking can be just that?


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    it didn't mean what you think it meant

    Actually, it did, because one of her friends confronted me over it and asked me why would I verbally assault someone who wanted to bring me home for tang tang.

    Another time (before that, so I got wise to it) I actually let someone come home with me who apparently wanted to listen to some LPs. I assumed that they wanted to do just that. But it wasn't the case. She disappeared for a few minutes and was then leaning up against a doorframe, bollock naked. I threw a half-full beer can at the wall and then ordered her to leave the house "right now" and don't even think of coming back here. I talked about this to a friend of mine (a girl, as it happens) the following day. The conversation went something like this:

    - "Well, what did you think she meant?"
    "I thought she meant just that. Listen to music".
    -*dead silence & funny looks...


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    it didn't mean what you think it meant

    You realize men and women can be just friends right? that talking can be just that?

    Yes, I do know that. In fact most of my closest friends are girls...


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,426 ✭✭✭italodisco


    You've no interest in her, grand. If she approaches you again in work just tell her you're up to your eyes, and use that excuse every time until she gets the hint

    Or alternatively you get a room together and break the bed, break break it real good


  • Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Yes, I do know that. In fact most of my closest friends are girls...


    Are you a girl yourself?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    Are you a girl yourself?

    No I'm a guy


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  • Registered Users Posts: 1,426 ✭✭✭italodisco


    No I'm a guy

    Ask a doctor to run a full male hormone blood panel, I've a feeling your testosterone is very low and estrogen very high


  • Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    No I'm a guy


    I find you highly lacking in credibility.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    italodisco wrote: »
    You've no interest in her, grand. If she approaches you again in work just tell her you're up to your eyes, and use that excuse every time until she gets the hint

    Or alternatively you get a room together and break the bed, break break it real good

    Like I said, I don't dislike her per se, I just think it would be better for both of us if we interacted as little as possible. I try to avoid walking past her area in work from now on, but I won't be downright mean to her like I usually am with others who I encountered in similar situations...

    btw good username, I love that kind of music


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,426 ✭✭✭italodisco


    Seriously get your testosterone levels checked, I'm not being funny


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    italodisco wrote: »
    Seriously get your testosterone levels checked, I'm not being funny

    Won't. And why?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    I find you highly lacking in credibility.

    Nothing I can do about that. But I am a guy


  • Registered Users Posts: 1,426 ✭✭✭italodisco


    Won't. And why?

    You're clearly suffering from testosterone deficiency.
    Look at what you've posted


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    italodisco wrote: »
    You're clearly suffering from testosterone deficiency.
    Look at what you've posted

    In what way???


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 957 ✭✭✭ Sara Rotten Zeppelin


    Yeh, people have hit on me before. Usually I'm not long telling them to fcuk off though.

    The last time something similar happened was when some random girl said that she's taking me back to a house party with her. I just said to her "I know what that means". What I said after that I can't really remember but it was enough to make her actively avoid me for the rest of the night...
    if you liiked them would youtell them f off? and would you call it hitting on. i knew someone who when she liked someone would say he chatted her up but if she didn't would say he was coming o0n to her


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 234 ✭✭Shady Grady


    In what way???

    So a woman was interested in you and instead of being upfront with her, you ran away out the back door like a b!tch?Come on man be real.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 957 ✭✭✭ Sara Rotten Zeppelin


    So a woman was interested in you and instead of being upfront with her, you ran away out the back door like a b!tch?Come on man be real.
    What is the point if he was not into her


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 234 ✭✭Shady Grady


    What is the point if he was not into her

    Point being he should of been upfront honest with her from the get-go and not do her in such a sh!tty way IMO.And I can't believe I had to explain that.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 957 ✭✭✭ Sara Rotten Zeppelin


    Point being he should of been upfront honest with her from the get-go and not do her in such a sh!tty way IMO.And I can't believe I had to explain that.
    have


    Why would he have any obligation to her?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 234 ✭✭Shady Grady


    have


    Why would he have any obligation to her?

    Had because once it was explained, it became past tense.

    And it's called having morals.

    Anything else you want to nitpick about?


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 957 ✭✭✭ Sara Rotten Zeppelin


    Had because once it was explained, it became past tense.

    And it's called having morals.

    Anything else you want to nitpick about?
    have had actually. your morals do not apply to everyone


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 234 ✭✭Shady Grady


    have had actually. your morals do not apply to everyone

    That's true enough, morals have steadily decayed as the years go by, I'll give you that Still just had.


  • Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,027 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Had because once it was explained, it became past tense.
    I think they're referencing the "should of", it's "should have". I'm no grammar autist SG, but yeah tbh that one is a bit irritating alright.

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    if you liiked them would youtell them f off? and would you call it hitting on. i knew someone who when she liked someone would say he chatted her up but if she didn't would say he was coming o0n to her

    I don't chat up women at all anymore. If I'm talking to a woman, usually the only reason is because she's a friend. The girl I mentioned in my OP, I didn't tell her to fcuk off. She was nice, in every sense of the word, but leggit was the only thing to do at the time that made sense...


  • Registered Users Posts: 27 StolenKrone


    OP i wholeheartedly stand by your decision you made and find much of the responses to this situation quite the opposite to what I had expected to read. Nobody has an obligation to play along with someones desire just to be nice, I made this mistake 7 days ago.


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 59 ✭✭FSO_Polonez


    OP i wholeheartedly stand by your decision you made and find much of the responses to this situation quite the opposite to what I had expected to read. Nobody has an obligation to play along with someones desire just to be nice, I made this mistake 7 days ago.

    I agree. I have met so many people who initially seem nice but actually aren't nice at all...


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