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Stuck in a rut!! How to get out of it?

  • 09-11-2019 11:32pm
    #1
    donnyvegas
    Registered Users Posts: 308 ✭✭


    So...I moved home from abroad last year...now working in a decent job...but finding myself in a routine that isn't healthy. I work during the week and everything is fine, though my work doesn't tend to have many social people.

    On a Friday I usually end up having a drink myself at my apartment, sometimes repeat on a Saturday. Not doing anything exciting or productive at the weekend. Often feeling lonely. I don't have a girlfriend. I am completely in a rut.

    Any tips?
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  • #2
    munster87
    Registered Users Posts: 4,228 ✭✭✭munster87


    Get out and about instead of staying in the apartment


  • #3
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Develop a passion for something.


  • #4
    hurikane
    Registered Users Posts: 688 ✭✭✭hurikane


    Stay in, drink the cheap booze, tear yourself asunder, save a few quid.


  • #5
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    Walk into a bar. Call a pint. Start a conversation with a randomer.


  • #6
    realitykeeper
    Registered Users Posts: 4,138 ✭✭✭realitykeeper


    donnyvegas wrote: »
    So...I moved home from abroad last year...now working in a decent job...but finding myself in a routine that isn't healthy. I work during the week and everything is fine, though my work doesn't tend to have many social people.

    On a Friday I usually end up having a drink myself at my apartment, sometimes repeat on a Saturday. Not doing anything exciting or productive at the weekend. Often feeling lonely. I don't have a girlfriend. I am completely in a rut.

    Any tips?

    Join a hill walking club, they are not all about hill walking you know.


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  • #7
    Panthro
    Registered Users Posts: 14,683 ✭✭✭✭Panthro


    Volunteer


  • #8
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Deleted User wrote: »
    Walk into a bar. Call a pint. Start a conversation with a randomer.
    You find the best people that way. Even if its just the one off chat. :)


  • #9
    wfdrun
    Registered Users Posts: 185 ✭✭wfdrun


    Parkrun


  • #10
    Charles Leclerc
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 98 ✭✭Charles Leclerc


    Book a weekend away before Christmas. It'll give you something to look forward to. Flights are dirt cheap to the UK. Edinburgh, Liverpool, London and Manchester are all great cities with lots to see and do and all have a great nightlife. I've gone to these places alone for weekends and had a ball. I'm not the most out going person but a drink or two will have you chatting to randomers in no time. Belfast is next on my list.


  • #11
    ILoveYourVibes
    Registered Users Posts: 15,176 ✭✭✭✭ILoveYourVibes


    Charles Leclerc wrote: »
    Book a weekend away before Christmas. It'll give you something to look forward to. Flights are dirt cheap to the UK. Edinburgh, Liverpool, London and Manchester are all great cities with lots to see and do and all have a great nightlife. I've gone to these places alone for weekends and had a ball. I'm not the most out going person but a drink or two will have you chatting to randomers in no time. Belfast is next on my list.
    That's a lovely idea. I would suggest somewhere WARM though.


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  • #12
    Church on Tuesday
    Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    During daytime hours at the weekend take up walking then move onto jogging, then make space for that of an evening after work if you can. Maybe move onto beginner weights.

    Physical exercise is great for the body and mind. It's not for everybody but give it a try. It's good discipline.

    Eat healthy.

    Go out by yourself, strike up conversations with people.


  • #13
    perrito caliente
    Closed Accounts Posts: 262 ✭✭perrito caliente


    Recently i did a smoking course, to smoke mackerel and wild salmon with traditional methods, hoping to find a chick, for dating. No luck that time but I'll keep trying. Keep your head up dude.


  • #14
    beejee
    Registered Users Posts: 1,787 ✭✭✭beejee


    Last weekend I adopted a really awkward crab-like posture in a dark room. 5 hours in I thought I had attracted the attention of a lady. May have been a radio outside somewhere. Remained absolutely still for the next 19 hours though, just in case.

    The point is, op, don't do that.


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