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Trans 16 year old. Help please

  • 31-05-2021 11:46am
    #1
    piplip87
    Registered Users Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭


    Hey guys,

    Recently my 16 year old stepson has started questioning their gender identity. We where concerned but not at all surprised.

    Can you guys please recommend some reading materials or documentaries which can help us to try and understand a bit more about it please


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  • #2
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭[Deleted User]


    I can't recommend any reading materials but I have a close friend whose teenager identified as trans, and they found the support they received from Transgender Equality Network Ireland (Teni.ie) very helpful.

    There is a support group for family members.


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    Annasopra
    Registered Users Posts: 40,736 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    This is a UK book but some is very relevant here. It should be available in libraries. I saw it today in one.


    https://www.amazon.co.uk/Trans-Teen-Survival-Guide-Fisher/dp/1785923412

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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    Bannasidhe
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 19,219 Mod ✭✭✭✭Bannasidhe


    Don't know where you are based OP but Gender Rebels Cork are a very inclusive, supportive group - they have a good on-line presence too and are great at interacting via alternative means.

    https://www.genderrebelscork.com/?fbclid=IwAR26MTTsFt6QUUVUUrnCpMuRBGXRc68p-E-WhE3fhmjuSTMi2r9eMIdiwg0


  • #5
    Annasopra
    Registered Users Posts: 40,736 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Hope things are going ok OP

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #6
    Ger Roe
    Registered Users Posts: 2,105 ✭✭✭Ger Roe


    Very supportive Irish websites :

    https://www.belongto.org/

    https://spunout.ie/category/lgbti



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  • #7
    piplip87
    Registered Users Posts: 2,102 ✭✭✭piplip87


    Hey guys thanks for your help. Yes everything is going OK. We are encouraging them to take some small steps, like wearing nail varnish, growing out the hair and have changed the pronoun usage around the house.

    Have also booked in for some counselling with a counsellor who specialises with teenagers going through the same thing.

    The only complaint, I have is they seem more excited about the discrimination they think they will face than anything else, like pure joy when speaking about it.

    This really has me doubting the motives behind it, as they in the past have caused so much drama in school and the line " I am the victim" has been constantly said to us for the past 6 years.

    We will be there to support them regardless although we have made it clear that any surgery, medication or therapy will need to be paid for by themselves, as we have literally spent thousands on therapists for many different issues over the years and they just ignore all advice given and default to trying to shock us even more.



  • #8
    Annasopra
    Registered Users Posts: 40,736 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    https://www.boards.ie/discussion/comment/118072797#Comment_118072797

    Sounds good

    Theres more helpful resources here - It might be worthwhile for you to contact some of the parents groups

    Get Started | GenderEd.ie

    Support Services | GenderEd.ie

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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