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26-04-2021, 18:09   #46
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Feel bad for the OP here too but what the OP should do is chalk it down as a valuable life lesson in this vapid age where a lot of people are running from one thing to another in a very short space of time with no consideration or even recollection of the last thing they were using beforehand. Never put anybody or anything else up on a pedestal or you will ultimately be disappointed somewhere down the line. Look after yourself and try get into different mindset where this craic doesn't affect you. You'll meet somebody better in person utilising this sort of mindset as it will give you better charisma in the real world, not online.
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I cannot think of a better place for the OP to have posted. This is the only forum where people can respond freely instead of oozing faux Compassion.
Why do you automatically think the compassion is "faux"? That's a popular enough expression but without being able to read minds it doesn't really mean anything. I feel awful for the OP out of empathy, as I've been there.
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women have all the power in online dating (but still they're never happy, what's up with that?).
Women do not have "all" the power in online dating.

Women aren't "never" happy.

Good bit of resentment here.

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26-04-2021, 18:13   #48
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All the freaks will start coming out of the woodwork now.
Fat women, women hate men, women don't date short guys.
Women are ugly but can have any man, pick up artist videos, negging, treat em mean keep em keen.

Then you will have the guys who are 'do you even lift bro'
These men have their pick but they aren't interested.
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26-04-2021, 18:17   #49
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Why do people keep saying this is an online thing?

He met her 3 or 4 times, sounds like the online bit did its job and was over.
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Maybe if yous weren't intimate that's why she stopped texting. Of course it could be the opposite.
Maybe she's met someone else. Of course maybe not.

There's no point in worrying. Block her, delete the number and match and just move on with your life.
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26-04-2021, 18:21   #51
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Women do not have "all" the power in online dating.

Women aren't "never" happy.

Good bit of resentment here.

no resentment at all, just stating facts. Maybe 'women never happy' is open to debate lol but women definitely have the power on online dating.

I met my GF of 3 years on Tinder, if you keep working at it, you'll get a result.
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When it comes to getting laid, there's no doubt that women have it easier, but that says more about men than women, IMO. Most young lads on a night out just want to score.

This was true before Tinder, it will be true after Tinder.
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Women don't have all the power in online dating.

Good looking guy isn't gonna pick a plain woman.
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Why do people keep saying this is an online thing?

He met her 3 or 4 times, sounds like the online bit did its job and was over.
Waited too long to meet up = hesitation, doesn’t give her the impression he is head over heels.
You want to swoop in early and make her think she is the best thing since sliced bread and also secure (in cases where there is baggage). OP missed his chance to apply emotional bonding traps
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When it comes to getting laid, there's no doubt that women have it easier, but that says more about men than women, IMO. Most young lads on a night out just want to score.

This was true before Tinder, it will be true after Tinder.
Yeah women usually want more than just a one-night stand, so it's not a huge privilege just to be matched for a one-night encounter (emphasis "usually" - I know there are women who just want a shag, and men who want more than that).
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Why do people keep saying this is an online thing?

He met her 3 or 4 times, sounds like the online bit did its job and was over.
People stay on these online dating sites to see if something else comes along. Nothing wrong with that, but some people can become kind of addicted to the notion that something better might come along continuously if they stay on these dating sites and keep swiping or whatever it is.
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Waited too long to meet up = hesitation, doesn’t give her the impression he is head over heels.
You want to swoop in early and make her think she is the best thing since sliced bread and also secure (in cases where there is baggage). OP missed his chance to apply emotional bonding traps
Traps?

But anyway, seems like things went really well for the time that they were in contact - both online and in person. Then she just did a u-turn because of a change in circumstances. It happens and it sucks but you're better off OP.
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Traps?

But anyway, seems like things went really well for the time that they were in contact - both online and in person. Then she just did a u-turn because of a change in circumstances. It happens and it sucks but you're better off OP.
Trap, binding, whatever
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Maybe she didn't respond because ye're officially doing a line together now so there was no reply necessary.
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Maybe you should go with the average looking girls with interesting personalities rather than bitching that the good looking ones can pick who they like - that’s life.
You see so many smelly dirty boring lazy men complaining that super models arent chasing them, turning their noses down at pretty or average looking!
In fairness that's not what he really was saying as he was talking about the apps rather than IRL. In the apps it's exactly like he said with girls 'dating up' having more choice etc. It's totally different to real life IME (pulling power not so bad in real life, apps I barely get a response most times even with women who matched.)

On the apps it's the opposite of what you say in the last paragraph. It's the women who are expecting George Clooney or Ryan Gosling to swipe on them. Lots of bitter well past their prime single mothers complaining there are no good men, no real men, too many creeps, long checklists of what they think they should be getting in a partner, etc.

OP don't try and contact her any more, in fact just block her right back and move on. Why are you even thinking 'oh I'd let her back into my life.' Women don't block dudes they still want in their life, it's done.
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