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25-04-2021, 22:26   #1
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Were You In Love Or Did You Just Settle For What You Had?

Hi. For those of you who are married or engaged.......were/are you in love with your partner or did you just settle for what you had (time was running out regarding children or you didn't want to spend your life alone for example) ??

I'm just curious.
I'm not married myself just so you know.
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26-04-2021, 15:36   #3
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My missus, who sometimes picks up my phone, is also dearly beloved.
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26-04-2021, 15:46   #4
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I know a couple who met in college, didn't fall madly in love but instead became very good friends. They decided that if neither were married by the time they were 30, they would marry each other.

They're probably the happiest married couple I know.
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26-04-2021, 15:50   #5
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*Reads thread title*

*Checks username*

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27-04-2021, 14:41   #6
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Let's be honest. Most people are settling.

Women are taking risks if they want to have children after 35, and once they've sown their wild oats, financial and lifestyle stability matters more than looks.

Men, similarly, don't want to end up dying alone having their corpse eaten by their cat or dog.

If this pandemic has proven anything, it's that most people can't handle being alone.

The only thing that's open is the supermarket and the streets are still filled with traffic from 9 to 6 every day!

It's honestly hilarious how much people hate to be alone with their thoughts. Read a book or something for **** sake!
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27-04-2021, 14:52   #7
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If this pandemic has proven anything, it's that most people can't handle being alone.
I don't think anyone has proved that. In the 2016 Census 400,000 adults were living on their own, with no pandemic to influence their choice.

Some 400,000 people were living alone, while 41.1 per cent of the Irish population aged 15 and over, accounting for 1,544,862 people, were single.
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27-04-2021, 14:54   #8
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Got married because I became pregnant. It was the done thing back in the day and absolutely expected by both families. I thought I loved him but who knows really.
We stayed together 16 years all the same before he said he never really loved me and left. I felt sad for myself but also for him. I never blamed him for leaving. I can't forgive him not being part of his children's lives though.

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27-04-2021, 14:58   #9
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Got married because I became pregnant. It was the done thing back in the day and absolutely expected by both families. I thought I loved him but who knows really.
We stayed together 16 years all the same before he said he never really loved me and left. I felt sad for myself but never blamed him for leaving. I can't forgive him not being part of his children's lives though.

My mother got pregnant as a teenager and was browbeaten into marrying my father.


I blame my grandmother for me being born.


At the same time, if we're being honest, that kind of story isn't unique in this country.
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Love her but wouldn't be my first choice physically, doubt I'm unique
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27-04-2021, 15:03   #11
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My mother got pregnant as a teenager and was browbeaten into marrying my father.


I blame my grandmother for me being born.


At the same time, if we're being honest, that kind of story isn't unique in this country.
You were born because your parents had sex. I doubt it was your grandmother's fault?

It's not at all unique, it's not even awful. Just saying what happened to me when I settled.
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I married for love.












She married for money.
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27-04-2021, 15:05   #13
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We celebrated 25 years together last month and we are still in love. I still get goosebumps when I see him
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27-04-2021, 15:08   #14
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Definite love match here - first time I was in a relationship that felt equal, as in we both felt the same way about each other. Together 16 years and married 4. Sure there are times when we want to slap each other but there is a great foundation that we both know is worth a lot. We have very similar tastes in everything so we really do enjoy hanging out with each other. Just as well cos we haven't had much choice this year!
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As the saying goes around here... She/He walked up the isle with nothing.... Walked back down with half the farm. Not unusual around these parts anyway....
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