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04-05-2021, 16:56   #61
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Well, don't you sound like a catch!
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I married based on compatibility instead of looks.

Looks and sex take a back seat to kids and life so you better like the person getting into bed beside you a lot more than you fancy them
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Ok I see now what you mean.
You hardly resent being born though. Are you not glad?
On the plus side, myself and a lot of people my age had children we never planned and it was not unknown for women to be upset to be pregnant again. But that was just a reaction at the time and those children were loved and cherished the same as those who were planned.
I really hope that was the case with you.

It's all to do with genetics - if your parents don't have children, it's unlikely that you'll have any either.
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Many people are very happy being single
This is true, and I agree with an earlier comment that you need to be happy by yourself/with your own company, before you can be happy with someone else.

The biggest issue about being single though is Irish society is biased towards couples/marriage - things like mortgages/home ownership, taxation, child access/rights for single fathers etc
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04-05-2021, 17:46   #65
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This is why most married people have bad sex lives.
Well it's called being a grown up parent really.

Studies have shown that married people actually have more sex
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...most married people have bad sex lives.
Do they?
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04-05-2021, 18:49   #67
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This is true, and I agree with an earlier comment that you need to be happy by yourself/with your own company, before you can be happy with someone else.

The biggest issue about being single though is Irish society is biased towards couples/marriage - things like mortgages/home ownership, taxation, child access/rights for single fathers etc
I don't know if the mortgage issue is necessarily a "society" issue rather than just a financial one. The housing market has just gone so bananas that it's impossible to buy on one salary, whereas previous generations could.

I agree with you on the other points.
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It's all to do with genetics - if your parents don't have children, it's unlikely that you'll have any either.
This deserves more credit
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What about poor Melinda & Bill ... settle ?

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...Studies have shown that married people actually have more sex*
* - not necessarily at the same time ?
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I'd like to see the details of those studies and if all factors are considered. Also, quality is more important than quality in my opinion. I'd prefer to have passionate sex once a month than routine starfish sex 10 times per month.
Ah in fairness the suction cups are kinky.
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I love my husband. I'm either mad about him, or mad at him.
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What about poor Melinda & Bill ... settle ?



* - not necessarily at the same time ?
Or with the same person?
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my standards have risen as I got older, because I prefer being single, it will want to be a fantastic woman to get me to change my mind.
This tbh.

And the longer I go on, the more I prefer paddling my own canoe.
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This is true, and I agree with an earlier comment that you need to be happy by yourself/with your own company, before you can be happy with someone else.

The biggest issue about being single though is Irish society is biased towards couples/marriage - things like mortgages/home ownership, taxation, child access/rights for single fathers etc
100%.

Another thing to consider here is that Irish culture is hard-wired towards marriage and family life. For all the media commentary about modernity and individualism, the fact remains that Irish society is still pretty conservative.

People who remain single after a certain age are seen as vaguely eccentric. It’s very different in some of continental Europe, where being single in your 30s, 40s or older is entirely unremarkable.

I love living in Ireland and I love being married. However, if I was single at my age (late 30s), I’d seriously consider relocating to London or Berlin for a more vibrant social life as a single man.
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Marry for love in your 20's..............

Marry for financial security, social status, 3 holidays and a new car every year... in your 30's
I WANT IT ALL!

TBH i just want TRUE love ..the real deal.

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