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Are women as desperate for sex?

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  • #62
    ArchXStanton
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,912 ✭✭✭ArchXStanton


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    I don't need validation from men to feel good about myself. As I said - I am totally fine with or wthout sex. Nobody owes me sex. And nobody died from not having sex

    This is what I see the problem with men is - they are constantly looking for validation from other people to feel good about themselves . When they need to learn to make themselves happy.


    Ehhh

    Have you used social media at all?


  • #63
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    ArchXStanton wrote: »
    Ehhh

    Have you used social media at all?

    No, I do not use instagram or facebook or any of them. They are a waste of time


  • #64
    Deebles McBeebles
    Registered Users Posts: 5,745 ✭✭✭Deebles McBeebles


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    This is what I see the problem with men is - they are constantly looking for validation from other people to feel good about themselves. When they need to learn to make themselves happy.

    Thats a massive generalisation and has nothing to do with gender. Some people are like that, others aren't.


  • #65
    Tacitus Kilgore
    Registered Users Posts: 2,128 ✭✭✭Tacitus Kilgore


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    Nobody has answered this yet:

    "Why do men place so much of their happiness and self value in sex"?

    You are putting all of your happiness in the actions of another person.

    You really need to depend on yourself for your own happiness



    Ok, on the above - says who?


  • #66
    pgj2015
    Registered Users Posts: 8,837 ✭✭✭pgj2015


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    No, women are not as desperate for sex: it is a simple case supply and demand. How could I possibly be desperate for something, when it is so easily available to me. If I go to a nightclub - Many men ask me to go home with them.

    I logged onto a dating app for one day toa ee what it was like, and I had 100 men asking me for sex over the course of two days.

    Do men not know that this happens to women? That we are constantly bombarded by men looking for sex.

    So, when I have so many men asking me for sex - I am only going to choose the best for me. But I could also be totally happy going without sex tor a long while. I am happy with myself.

    The real question is why are men so absolutely desperate for sex?



    Are men so unhappy in themselves, that they can only feel worth something, when they are in a woman, when they accepted by a woman? They never seem to be happy by themselves.

    It says alot about the self esteem of men.




    I am very happy without women, I am single by choice, I meet a lot of women doing the job I do, I get a lot of texts from them asking me out etc I rarely take them up on their offer.


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  • #67
    Tacitus Kilgore
    Registered Users Posts: 2,128 ✭✭✭Tacitus Kilgore


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    No, I do not use instagram or facebook or any of them. They are a waste of time

    You're a waste of time, gtfo


  • #68
    Raconteuse
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Raconteuse


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    Do men not know that this happens to women? That we are constantly bombarded by men looking for sex.
    Some here never shut up about it.
    The real question is why are men so absolutely desperate for sex?

    Are men so unhappy in themselves, that they can only feel worth something, when they are in a woman, when they accepted by a woman? They never seem to be happy by themselves.

    It says alot about the self esteem of men.
    It's just a physical need - you're over thinking it with the above.
    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    I think that men are desperate for sex due to these reasons in today's society:

    1) They are told by other men that their worth is directly linked to how many women they have had sex with.
    So there is sex shame and pressure from their friends. My male friend is a teacher - he teaches male teenagers. He said that even he is bored of all their sex talk. It is constantly "who had it the most" , and showing off. And lies, due to the peer pressure from each other.

    2) very Low self esteem in men, so they only feel good about themselves when they have been sexually accepted by women.

    3) Porn gives men a very skewed sense of sexuality. It is very domineering, aggressive and violent.

    4) In Ireland - men have been taught for a long time that women are worth less than them, are there to serve them, and are "just for sex". I remember a man in Dublin saying this to me, that he was taught that women were "just for sex".

    This all adds up to bad attitudes from men to women. This society needs to change
    There's definitely truth to the first one in relation to younger lads but I would question the others (not a fan of that kind of porn either but I don't think it makes men desperate for sex - if anything the concern is that it's leading to the opposite).


  • #69
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    Tacitus Kilgore wrote: »
    You're a waste of time, gtfo

    Oh how totally immature you are.


  • #70
    IAMAMORON
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,078 ✭✭✭IAMAMORON


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    Nobody has answered this yet:

    "Why do men place so much of their happiness and self value in sex"?

    You are putting all of your happiness in the actions of another person.

    You really need to depend on yourself for your own happiness

    I will happily answer it if you tell me your favourite position ?


  • #71
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    IAMAMORON wrote: »
    I will happily answer it if you tell me your favourite position ?

    The immaturity level is rising....


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  • #72
    Tacitus Kilgore
    Registered Users Posts: 2,128 ✭✭✭Tacitus Kilgore


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    Oh how totally immature you are.

    Sexually mature though


  • #73
    ArchXStanton
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,912 ✭✭✭ArchXStanton


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    No, I do not use instagram or facebook or any of them. They are a waste of time

    Well I salute you for that,

    There's a lot of women that post pictures of themselves done up to the nines, hand on hip, usually against the backdrop of a door, patiently waiting for the likes and comments to roll in.

    Let the "thanks hun!" "says you!" commence...

    Empty attention as I like to call it


  • #74
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    IAMAMORON wrote: »
    I will happily answer it if you tell me your favourite position ?

    You could say that this a perfect example of you

    "Showing off to the lads on here to look sexually cool, and to diminish women, by referring to them as sexual beings only"

    You have absolutely proved my point. Well done!


  • #75
    Raconteuse
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Raconteuse


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    Yes but men are putting THEMSELVES in a scarcity mentality. Which is them thinking "because I am not having sex, I feel terrible about myself".

    As I said, I can go without sex for ages and be perfectly happy, there are so many other things to do , painting , walks on the beach.

    Why do men tie up so much of their happiness and self value in sex?
    Because it's more of an urgent physical need for them.

    What's the point in comparing yourself to men when you are a woman?


  • #76
    Deebles McBeebles
    Registered Users Posts: 5,745 ✭✭✭Deebles McBeebles


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    The immaturity level is rising....


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  • #77
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Some here never shut up about it.

    It's just a physical need - you're over thinking it with the above.

    There's definitely truth to the first one in relation to younger lads but I would question the others (not a fan of that kind of porn either but I don't think it makes men desperate for sex - if anything the concern is that it's leading to the opposite).

    Yes - younger lads do put each other under way too much pressure. Hopefully that will change in the future


  • #78
    Tacitus Kilgore
    Registered Users Posts: 2,128 ✭✭✭Tacitus Kilgore


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    I think that men are desperate for sex due to these reasons in today's society:

    1) They are told by other men that their worth is directly linked to how many women they have had sex with.
    So there is sex shame and pressure from their friends. My male friend is a teacher - he teaches male teenagers. He said that even he is bored of all their sex talk. It is constantly "who had it the most" , and showing off. And lies, due to the peer pressure from each other.

    2) very Low self esteem in men, so they only feel good about themselves when they have been sexually accepted by women.

    3) Porn gives men a very skewed sense of sexuality. It is very domineering, aggressive and violent.

    4) In Ireland - men have been taught for a long time that women are worth less than them, are there to serve them, and are "just for sex". I remember a man in Dublin saying this to me, that he was taught that women were "just for sex".

    This all adds up to bad attitudes from men to women. This society needs to change

    Is this the female version of an Incel rant? :confused:


  • #79
    Reviews and Books Galore
    Closed Accounts Posts: 964 ✭✭✭Reviews and Books Galore


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    Yes - younger lads do put each other under way too much pressure. Hopefully that will change in the future


    Boys will be boys and girls will be girls. Let both enjoy life ffs.


  • #80
    Reviews and Books Galore
    Closed Accounts Posts: 964 ✭✭✭Reviews and Books Galore


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Because it's more of an urgent physical need for them.

    What's the point in comparing yourself to men when you are a woman?


    Hmmmm, is it? ;) You'd be suprised.


  • #81
    IAMAMORON
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,078 ✭✭✭IAMAMORON


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    You could say that this a perfect example of you

    "Showing off to the lads on here to look sexually cool, and to diminish women, by referring to them as sexual beings only"

    You have absolutely proved my point. Well done!

    So your really just a re reg posting for a bit of attention?

    How sad.

    It is very straightforward answer. If you were genuine about discussing the ops' topic you would give some sort of an answer.

    But posting tripe looking for a reaction is poor enough.

    What is your point ?


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  • #82
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    Raconteuse wrote: »
    Because it's more of an urgent physical need for them.

    What's the point in comparing yourself to men when you are a woman?

    Because women also suffer hugely from this current attitude of men.

    Every woman that I know, including myself has been raped.

    I do not agree that men have a more urgent physical urge. I think that they have more disrespect for women, and more lack of empathy for women. Right now.

    But this can change. And it is important to have conversations about it.

    I can have a physical urge. I don't think "it is my right for this physical urge to be satisfied and some one else must do it right now".

    Men have got to get more respect for women


  • #83
    Tacitus Kilgore
    Registered Users Posts: 2,128 ✭✭✭Tacitus Kilgore


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    Because women also suffer hugely from this current attitude of men.

    Every woman that I know, including myself has been raped.

    I do not agree that men have a more urgent physical urge. I think that they have more disrespect for women, and more lack of empathy for women. Right now.

    But this can change. And it is important to have conversations about it.

    I can have a physical urge. I don't think "it is my right for this physical urge to be satisfied and some one else must do it right now".

    Men have got to get more respect for women


    ah come on, get the fuck outta here with this muck.


  • #84
    Jesus effing Christ
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34 ✭Jesus effing Christ


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    No, women are not as desperate for sex: it is a simple case supply and demand. How could I possibly be desperate for something, when it is so easily available to me. If I go to a nightclub - Many men ask me to go home with them.

    I logged onto a dating app for one day toa ee what it was like, and I had 100 men asking me for sex over the course of two days.

    Do men not know that this happens to women? That we are constantly bombarded by men looking for sex.

    So, when I have so many men asking me for sex - I am only going to choose the best for me. But I could also be totally happy going without sex tor a long while. I am happy with myself.

    The real question is why are men so absolutely desperate for sex?

    Are men so unhappy in themselves, that they can only feel worth something, when they are in a woman, when they accepted by a woman? They never seem to be happy by themselves.

    It says alot about the self esteem of men.

    If you were put in the mind of a horny 15 year old male for 5 minutes, you'd see just how clueless you are about all this.
    I say "horny 15 year old" because all males are different.


  • #85
    IAMAMORON
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 9,078 ✭✭✭IAMAMORON


    Sarahdunners wrote: »
    Because women also suffer hugely from this current attitude of men.

    Every woman that I know, including myself has been raped.

    I do not agree that men have a more urgent physical urge. I think that they have more disrespect for women, and more lack of empathy for women. Right now.

    But this can change. And it is important to have conversations about it.

    I can have a physical urge. I don't think "it is my right for this physical urge to be satisfied and some one else must do it right now".

    Men have got to get more respect for women

    Pure trolling.... please stop.


  • #86
    Raconteuse
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,817 ✭✭✭Raconteuse


    Reviews and Books Galore wrote: »
    Hmmmm, is it? ;) You'd be suprised.
    Well as I said already, individual cases can easily be cited, and at certain times of the month we women can have an insatiable appetite. Also if we are with someone whom we are intensely sexually attracted to, etc.

    But if you were to take all the men and all the women in the world and just take the mundane/day-to-day into account (none of the above circumstances for women) overall, men would have a more pressing physical need. All you have to look at is the amount of prostitutes (female or male) selling sex to men versus the opposite.


  • #87
    Jesus effing Christ
    Closed Accounts Posts: 34 ✭Jesus effing Christ


    Sarahdunners wrote: »

    I do not agree that men have a more urgent physical urge. I think that they have more disrespect for women, and more lack of empathy for women. Right now.

    n

    Tell about the time you've been most horny


  • #88
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    Violent porn has a hugely negative effect on society.

    Porn should be allowed, yes, showing sex.

    But why is hardcore violent porn currently available to anyone, let alone young teenagers! It is unbelievable! It has such a terrible effect on society.

    Did you see the murder of Grace Millane in New Zealand. She was a british back packer. An Australian guy strangled her to death. He had watched violent porn just before it.

    Ted Bundy also said that he was heavily into violent porn.

    I really have no idea why it is allowed online for everone to view. Hopefully society will become better in the next couple of years


  • #89
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    Jesus effing Christ wrote: »
    Tell about the time you've been most horny

    I think the time that I have been the absolute least, is right now - talking to you.


  • #90
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    Jesus effing Christ wrote: »
    Tell about the time you've been most horny

    Also, do you think you're funny, seriously? We are talking about rape on this thread. And you are yet again diminishing women. It must feel great to try to look 'big' in front of the lads. Is it?


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  • #91
    Sarahdunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 181 ✭✭Sarahdunners


    IAMAMORON wrote: »
    Pure trolling.... please stop.

    That is not a contribution. When you hink of something clever to say - do come back and join in


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