Originally Posted by FintanMcluskey
People change drastically over the course of marriages.
Also getting a mortgage is a massive amount of stress for most couples
Often heard it said, when debt comes in the door, love flies out the window
Absolutely. Best comment here so far - "people change drastically over the course of marriages".
I know this might be controversial, but it's so true from what I have seen - when a woman has kids, it has a psychological impact. It obviously varies from mother to mother, but towards the extreme end - one minute you could be married to someone and having a fun loving relationship. Next minute she could be roaring at you for not putting on the lid of the toothpaste properly.
So basically, for the marriage to survive, the question is does the man live with this new scenario. And in most cases they will, because there is very little choice. There is a kid involved, and the law favours the wife.
So my advice is definitely don't get married. But even if you don't, and a kid or 2 comes along, you're still stuck between a rock and a hard place when things go tits up between the husband and wife.
Watch Marriage Story. Great movie. Cuts so close to the bone.