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11-01-2019, 11:44   #31
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If it isn't edgy, why did you create this thread?
Certainly not to be edgy.. Jesus Christ, what is it with some posters on here? It's Friday afternoon and I'm a bit bored a work. I started a friendly thread and as always, I'm getting stick of people. I've been called immature, insecure and now edgy

It's just a lighthearted topic and was on my mind so I posted it. No hidden meanings or trying to be anything other than distracted at work! I'm just killing time till I can go home and after hours is a good place to do that albeit a little frosty at times. Cheer the f*ck up you c*nt!
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11-01-2019, 11:46   #32
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OP just ride your friend and be yourself with your BF.
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What age are you, you sound and are acting like a teenage, do you lack confidence in yourself or something?
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Hmmm ..... Are you just insecure , or fishing for other peoples stories?

Either (or neither) way , something strange here .......
Best of luck with your dual persona's
BIG time. I mean of course people act some bit differently around different people - and i do appreciate men tend to find women who aren't ladettes more attractive - but it's never healthy to put on a complete act, particularly with the person you are supposed to be getting closest to.

What are all these terrible things you have to hide anyway? Why are you so uncomfortable with them?

Sorry Porklife, between this and the other thread which contained a lot of seeking approval ("I like to be demure... and agree to get ****ed up the ass when I don't want to" ) - you seem like a good person but you *really* need to work on your self worth.
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I know a guy who puts on a Cork accent when talking to his business partner.

I've only heard him speak to him on the phone twice and each time he did it. I asked him about it and he said he doesn't think he does.

I suspect he did it (subconsciously or otherwise) originally to connect with him better and here he is 3 years later.
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11-01-2019, 11:47   #35
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I have never and would never.. some things are best done in solitude. Do you not think it kinda kills romance? Like couples who p*ss and sh*t in front of each other. I'm all for intimacy but bathroom stuff is definitely my alone time. I don't see how it brings you closer as a couple, if anything it would turn me off my partner, same goes for farting. Do you not find it gross?
Not getting at ya btw, just asking!
So do you run off to another room to release gas?

Nah it doesn't kill romance for me, it just makes us more comfortable in front of each other.

If someone has breath that would knock out a small child, now that would be a turn off.
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11-01-2019, 11:52   #36
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Was hard to figure out if you were male or female.
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11-01-2019, 11:53   #37
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BIG time. I mean of course people act some bit differently around different people - and i do appreciate men tend to find women who aren't ladettes more attractive - but it's never healthy to put on a complete act, particularly with the person you are supposed to be getting closest to.

What are all these terrible things you have to hide anyway? Why are you so uncomfortable with them?

Sorry Porklife, between this and the other thread which contained a lot of seeking approval ("I like to be demure... and agree to get ****ed up the ass when I don't want to" ) - you seem like a good person but you *really* need to work on your self worth.
You don't know me in fairness and you're way off the mark. I just mean, I'd be a bit louder around my friends, I'm not hiding anything. My bf knows all my stories but I dilute them a bit for him whereas I wouldn't around my friends.

Are you saying that a bunch of lads down the pub talk the same way in front of their girlfriends? I highly doubt it. We are social chamelians to quote Ian Brown and I'd be very surprised if you act the same way in front of everyone.

I tone wild stories down a bit in front of my partner and don't act the maggot as much around him, that doesn't mean I'm hiding anything or that I'm insecure.
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One of the keys to being a good communicator - being able to adapt to different peoples ways/preferences/accents/colloquialisms etc.

Not sure if anyone else notices my differences, but with the amount I adapt even just my voice on the phone to people (mostly in a business context) I almost feel like I have Schizophrenia at times.
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Far from insecure dude, no need to worry about me
So your are just fishing for stories then?
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I've known my friend since childhood and we've been through the mill together.. bereavements, weddings, breaks ups, break downs. I'm in no way acting around him, I'm being completely myself.
Many would argue that there is no such thing as an authentic self buried deep inside the layers of personas, roles, and other performative selves we regularly display to our bosses, colleagues, spouses, friends, and relatives. The notion of being "completely yourself" may be nothing more than a comforting illusion.
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Just to add to people calling me insecure for posting this, I wouldn't want to be around these here parts cos seemingly no matter what I post I get berated and insulted. This is a lighthearted Friday afternoon thread and Gimme a Pound and others are insulting me out of nowhere. Christ, next you'll be telling me to join a club, leave my partner and get counselling!

Lighten up folks, I meant no harm for gods sake, it's just a self observation and I wondered if others did the same thing.. is all.. so leave my maturity and insecurity levels out of it!
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So your are just fishing for stories then?
Yes.. that's the point of AH... discussion and debate. What's your problem? Jesus!
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I suppose I would have a little bit at the start with my partner and vice versa but 8 years later and living together most of that, I just couldn't be arsed. He's seen me at my absolute worst and my best in those years. I know that he can be a bit....cruder in his humour I suppose when he's around his friends but as we often all socialise together, I do see that and it doesn't bother me as I know it's just how they've always all been with each other.

I don't bother trying to be something I'm not around people who know me well as it's not worth it. Now that said, there are times I'd love to slap some of them but I don't and smile and nod but that's a bit different. That's just not being a d*ck.
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I'm more myself with my partner than I am with anyone else. Though having said that I did keep a lid on the crazy at the start and let it seep out gradually I couldn't live with someone and hide who I am though, I wouldn't want to live like that.

With friends I am pretty much myself, but everyone caters to their audience to a certain extent. With family there's far less cursing and dirty humour, a less vulgar version of myself, and most of them wouldn't be hearing my wild stories, though my missus and friends would alright.

When I worked in the past I was very reserved and quiet and kept to myself, since my "true" personality wouldn't really be acceptable in an office environment.

With strangers/acquaintances I am pretty chameleon like and just tend to go with what's being said. Like if they said it's a lovely sunny day I'll agree and not bother getting into the fact that I don't like the heat. Just easier than having that conversation.
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I'm more myself with my partner than I am with anyone else. Though having said that I did keep a lid on the crazy at the start and let it seep out gradually I couldn't live with someone and hide who I am though, I wouldn't want to live like that.

With friends I am pretty much myself, but everyone caters to their audience to a certain extent. With family there's far less cursing and dirty humour, a less vulgar version of myself, and most of them wouldn't be hearing my wild stories, though my missus and friends would alright.

When I worked in the past I was very reserved and quiet and kept to myself, since my "true" personality wouldn't really be acceptable in an office environment.

With strangers/acquaintances I am pretty chameleon like and just tend to go with what's being said. Like if they said it's a lovely sunny day I'll agree and not bother getting into the fact that I don't like the heat. Just easier than having that conversation.
This is exactly what I mean, what a lovely post
I love that you're more yourself around your partner than with anyone, made me smile.
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