"Man Up" campaign by SafeIreland

newport2 wrote: »

I wonder why they never mention the education gap?

"I feel constantly suffocated": The domestic violence epidemic raging behind closed doors of Covid-19

The first part of Noteworthy’s in-depth investigation into domestic abuse finds that services are dangerously underfunded during the coronavirus crisis.

Domestic violence reports up 30% in some areas since lockdown, says Garda
Women’s Aid urges people to report suspected abuse as calls to its service increase

Man will avoid jail if he drinks beer, not spirits

Alcohol misuse organisation Alcohol Action Ireland said the court was misguided in attempting to protect the victim.

A spokesman said: “Alcohol, regardless of what product is consumed, will always be a mind altering, psychoactive drug that contributes to a range of harms to others.

However, no matter what level of alcohol was deemed to have been a contributing factor here, it can never be an excuse for exonerating male violence towards women.”

Pawwed Rig wrote: »

They were referring to this specific case tbf.

However, no matter what level of alcohol was deemed to have been a contributing factor here, it can never be an excuse for exonerating female violence towards men.”

Why don’t you ever listen to me? How many times do I have to tell you not to do that?

No one likes to be nagged. And yet it’s one of the most common ways that people can sour their relationships.

We’ve all come across couples in which one constantly appears to be nagging the other, with a seemingly unending stream of sniping, griping and nit-picking.

It may sound innocuous, but according to new research, it can actually kill. Professor Jamila Bookwala and a team from Lafayette College in Pennsylvania interviewed 1,734 men and women for the U.S.’s National Social Life, Health and Ageing project.

They found that people who reported high levels of criticism from their partner were more than twice as likely to die prematurely.

The effect was the same for both men and women and was independent of other factors, such as having friends or family who might be expected to protect them from the effects of nagging.

It’s clear there is something about an unending drip-drip of negativity that can cause serious damage to people’s health.

Those who were nagged frequently had a 44 per cent higher risk of dying within five years than those who were criticised only occasionally. From the least criticised to the most, there was a 107 per cent increase in mortality.

mr_fegelien wrote: »

Does anyone have statistics or anecdotal stories of how common domestic abuse is in Ireland?

iptba wrote: »

http://empathygap.uk/?p=3286

I wonder does such screening of male callers happen in Ireland?

There is much that is valid within the Toolkit, for example the description of the sorts of abuse which men face in section 2.1, some of which are specific to being male. In particular it is significant that forms of abuse which use children as weapons are included here, such as “telling him if he tries to leave he will never see the children again”. The inclusion of sexual coercion or belittlement is also to be applauded in this section. Also listed is “telling him that nobody will believe him because he is a man”. Unfortunately that is likely to be true, and ironically this very Toolkit promotes precisely that.

There is a new section on toxic masculinity which they redub as “harmful expressions of masculinities” because, apparently, they have noticed that we unwashed idiots seemed to be getting the impression that “toxic masculinity” means that men are toxic. Allow me to return the compliment. Supergluing the adjective “toxic” to “masculinity” is itself harmful – and you, feminist lobby, did it. Deliberately. However, there is truth in this section too. For example it is observed that…

“Perpetrators might use the expectation of gendered roles to abuse, this might take any of the following forms;

• • If you were a real man you wouldn’t put up with this
• • If you were a real man you’d provide better for your family
• • If you were a real man you would be able to satisfy me sexually”

But, I ask you, why is this not called toxic femininity? Why does it appear in a Section on toxic masculinity?

The reason is that the feminist mindset adheres firmly to the ancient gender scripts, despite the pretence to be the exact opposite. Feminism still insists on seeing men alone as agentic when it comes to causing harms. So, the above example of female perpetrated abuse becomes reinterpreted as the fault of toxic masculinity. To quote a survey of male victims, one abusive female partner said, “why do you make me hit you?”. There’s denial of agency for you – denial of responsibility, that is. Under feminism, women must never be perceived as the primary aggressor, and this is why “believe the victim” prevails in the female domestic abuse services. The exact opposite – suspicion – applies to male complainants because men are the approved recipients of blame. The vetting of male callers is a manifestation of the ancient gender script.