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Pretending to look at your phone

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    #32
    Premeditated Joke
    Site Banned Posts: 38 ✭Premeditated Joke


    jimbobaloobob wrote: »
    Wasn’t a put down at all. Why not enjoy your breaks for what they are and not be second guessing what other people are doing.
    You say why not, I say 'why?'. It's in my nature to question things.


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    #33
    tjdaly
    Registered Users Posts: 85 ✭✭tjdaly


    Marvellous work OP. I look forward to your next offering. I can see the direction you're going and I think you have serious potential.


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    #34
    cj maxx
    Registered Users Posts: 13,354 ✭✭✭✭cj maxx


    Premeditated Joke wrote: »
    Not even a little?

    No . If I sit beside someone , I might do something on my phone . They might. No biggie. its not a big deal. Most people can chat normally while fb-ing or whatever . It's a Time filler , that's all.
    if someone took out their phone while I was talking to them and was scrolling away while continuing to chat so what?
    A tip for you OP. If someone grabs their phone and looks to be immersed in it, they just don't want to chat to you.
    It might be them. It might be you
    Just move chairs beside someone more sociable.
    Before mobile phones it was newspapers . People don't all work to your schedule


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    #35
    grindle
    Registered Users Posts: 6,026 ✭✭✭grindle


    People might have more going on in their heads than just scrolling throuugh friend's status updates, the internet exists beyond Facebook abd other timesucks. Between Reddit and hobbies I could easily (sanity or time permitting) spend a full 24hrs of each and every day reading or learning about things that interest me and never ever reach an end to content.


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    #36
    radiotrickster
    Registered Users Posts: 858 ✭✭✭radiotrickster


    Premeditated Joke wrote: »
    What do they all be looking at anyway? Okay maybe they do have things to look at, but what do they do once they've seen all the latest stupid posts from their friends?

    Do you pretend to look at your phone? Answer honestly.

    You know there are more apps out there than those that just show 'stupid posts' on social media sites? I spend a lot of my breaks reading ebooks, writing articles, researching things to do with my hobbies, keeping up to date with the news, etc.

    Sometimes your phone is the best way to let you actually have a break. After working a few hours with people, all I want is a rest and some peace and time to myself during lunch. The only time I only pretend to look at my phone is when I don't want to talk to someone and haven't got the energy to actually concentrate on my phone. Otherwise, I'll just genuinely look at my phone.


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    #37
    Jinglejangle69
    Registered Users Posts: 7,229 ✭✭✭Jinglejangle69


    Maybe people just don't enjoy mundane boring conversation just for the sake of it.


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    #38
    Church on Tuesday
    Registered Users Posts: 3,858 ✭✭✭Church on Tuesday


    I have my phone off unless I really need it for something.

    I hate phones, they have destroyed the art of conversation and I personally find them intrusive.


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    #39
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users Posts: 30,183 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    I have done it if I simply didn't want to talk to somebody. Some people are simply annoying and boring and it's handy to have something that makes you look busy.


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    #40
    NIMAN
    Registered Users Posts: 32,977 ✭✭✭✭NIMAN


    Redneck Reject71 wrote: »
    To be honest, people stare at their phones too much. When in town, I always see people with headphones in and staring at theirs. Oblivious to what's going on around them. That is why I still keep my trusty Nokia 3310,to keep me away from all that temptation,heh.

    Is that you Tubs?


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    #41
    Owldshtok
    Registered Users Posts: 292 ✭✭Owldshtok


    Smartphones have spawned a generation of cyborgs with the metal parts outside of their bodies.


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    #42
    punisher5112
    Registered Users Posts: 24,647 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    How can one pretend to look at there phone if they actually are looking at their phone.....

    Probably looking up porn.


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    #43
    stoneill
    Registered Users Posts: 3,610 ✭✭✭stoneill


    Nobody looks out bus windows anymore, all with head down on their little screens in their virtual world while the real one is just there.

    I was standing naked in the garden as the bus went by, not one person saw me.

    So disappointing.


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    #44
    [Deleted User]
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    stoneill wrote: »
    Nobody looks out bus windows anymore, all with head down on their little screens in their virtual world while the real one is just there.

    I was standing naked in the garden as the bus went by, not one person saw me.

    So disappointing.

    I did! Shocking, it was! :D


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    #45
    punisher5112
    Registered Users Posts: 24,647 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    [Deleted User] wrote: »
    I did! Shocking, it was! :D

    Take a photo it last longer


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    #46
    dohouch
    Registered Users Posts: 1,532 ✭✭✭dohouch


    Our phone addiction, (but not mine!) is a form of voluntary autism. ( this is a quote I came across somewhere)

    We're not suffering, only complaining 😞



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    #47
    weldoninhio
    Closed Accounts Posts: 14,311 ✭✭✭✭weldoninhio


    stoneill wrote: »
    Nobody looks out bus windows anymore, all with head down on their little screens in their virtual world while the real one is just there.

    I was standing naked in the garden as the bus went by, not one person saw me.

    So disappointing.

    I rarely, if ever, look at my phone on the bus. I normally have a book with me.


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    #48
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 7,712 ✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    The fact is that phones are more interesting that people. Actually, most things are more interesting than people these days. I’d love it to be different and like days past, but that’s long gone and if people tend to be on the phone around you a lot then maybe you should look a bit closer to home for the reason.


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    #49
    El_Duderino 09
    Registered Users Posts: 19,933 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    Sometimes people just want a break during their break. Sometimes the same people want to chat during their break. This should not be new information to you, OP.

    Sometimes people go into the canteen for a break and don't want to chat until someone invites them for a chat, and then they enjoy the chat.

    Or maybe people.just don't enjoy chatting to you. Other people can do whatever they want. I wouldn't think about what other people are thinking of me in the canteen.


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    #50
    El_Duderino 09
    Registered Users Posts: 19,933 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    Church on Tuesday wrote: »
    I they have destroyed the art of conversation and I personally find them intrusive.

    Is that just something people say or do you actually believe it?

    Somehow, in this age of the destroyed art of conversation, I manage to have chats with people. Some people are really isteresting, some are really boring and most are somewhere in between.

    If everywhere you go you find the art of conversation is destroyed, then maybe you're not a great conversationalist.

    Knowing when people want to chat and when they don't, is pretty important.


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    #51
    [Deleted User]
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    El_Duderino 09 wrote: »
    Is that just something people say or do you actually believe it?

    Somehow, in this age of the destroyed art of conversation, I manage to have chats with people. Some people are really isteresting, some are really boring and most are somewhere in between.

    If everywhere you go you find the art of conversation is destroyed, then maybe you're not a great conversationalist.

    Knowing when people want to chat and when they don't, is pretty important.

    It’s easier to blame something else than look at yourself though.


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    #52
    Premeditated Joke
    Site Banned Posts: 38 ✭Premeditated Joke


    ReginaldSmythV wrote: »
    The fact is that phones are more interesting that people. Actually, most things are more interesting than people these days.
    Yes, but ironically they're probably looking up something to do with 'people' on their phones. Especially if it's a woman.


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    #53
    Premeditated Joke
    Site Banned Posts: 38 ✭Premeditated Joke


    Jinglejangle69 wrote: »
    Maybe people just don't enjoy mundane boring conversation just for the sake of it.
    Sometimes conversation can be boring. But likewise, sometimes people can't think of anything thing interesting to look up that they're in the right frame of mind for.

    Let's face facts. Young people aren't normally reading ebooks on their break. They are usually being a slave to their lizard brain, hitting a flashy message icon or scrolling aimlessly through stupid sh1t other people post.


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    #54
    Premeditated Joke
    Site Banned Posts: 38 ✭Premeditated Joke


    El_Duderino 09 wrote: »
    Sometimes people go into the canteen for a break and don't want to chat until someone invites them for a chat, and then they enjoy the chat.
    What if we all took the view that we're not going to talk unless someone invites us? These days turning down the invitation is a way of letting your peers know that you're cooler than that person.


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    #55
    Bigbagofcans
    Registered Users Posts: 1,164 ✭✭✭Bigbagofcans


    I'll chat a bit but once it goes awkwardly silent or someone starts talking about Love Island/I'm A Celeb then I'm straight onto my phone.


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    #56
    El_Duderino 09
    Registered Users Posts: 19,933 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    Premeditated Joke wrote: »
    What if we all took the view that we're not going to talk unless someone invites us? These days turning down the invitation is a way of letting your peers know that you're cooler than that person.

    Is it? Seriously?

    Then nobody would start conversations, I suppose. Some people are more extroverted and some are more shy about starting conversation. What's your point?

    If you find nobody wants to have a conversation with you, then I think I know what the problem is...

    But do you honestly pretend top look at your phone in the canteen because of what other people might think? I'd find that to be an incredible thing to do.


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    #57
    Torino
    Site Banned Posts: 12 ✭Torino


    I think people are actually addicted to their smart phones, smart phones are a great tool to have, but if you find yourself getting anxious without looking at it for an hour then you probably have a problem.


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    #58
    lalababa
    Registered Users Posts: 1,726 ✭✭✭lalababa


    The Irish have the 'gift of the gab'. Although sometimes calling it a gift can be erroneous. In other cultures being quite can be accepted. In Ireland you almost have to talk...to chill hunny bunny out. Not blabbing on inanely or otherwise is seen as rude & disrespectful....like a petulant teen. Of course people have nothing to say/want peace some of the time, but this cannot happen in Eire, one has to be having 'the craic'. Sooo...we 'pretend' to be on our phones. Also staring into space is not allowed here either. It's the same in other countries but to a lesser degree.


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    #59
    Torino
    Site Banned Posts: 12 ✭Torino


    lalababa wrote: »
    The Irish have the 'gift of the gab'. Although sometimes calling it a gift can be erroneous. In other cultures being quite can be accepted. In Ireland you almost have to talk...to chill hunny bunny out. Not blabbing on insanely or otherwise is seen as rude & disrespectful....like a petulant teen. Of course people have nothing to say/want peace some of the time, but this cannot happen in Eire, one has to be having 'the craic'. Sooo...we 'pretend' to be on our phones. Also staring into space is not allowed here either. It's the same in other countries but to a lesser degree.

    When you develop confidence none of these things you mention matter, a confident person can stare into space without worrying about who is watching.


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    #60
    El_Duderino 09
    Registered Users Posts: 19,933 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    lalababa wrote: »
    The Irish have the 'gift of the gab'. Although sometimes calling it a gift can be erroneous. In other cultures being quite can be accepted. In Ireland you almost have to talk...to chill hunny bunny out. Not blabbing on inanely or otherwise is seen as rude & disrespectful....like a petulant teen. Of course people have nothing to say/want peace some of the time, but this cannot happen in Eire, one has to be having 'the craic'. Sooo...we 'pretend' to be on our phones. Also staring into space is not allowed here either. It's the same in other countries but to a lesser degree.

    Staring into space isn't allowed? What are you on about? You might not allow staring into space, but I don't think there's any problem with it.


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    El_Duderino 09
    Registered Users Posts: 19,933 ✭✭✭✭El_Duderino 09


    Torino wrote: »
    When you develop confidence none of these things you mention matter, a confident person can stare into space without worrying about who is watching.

    100%. These characters must be wracked with self doubt and worry about what other people think of them.

    The OP said they actually pretend to be on their phone and they say saw someone else who was sitting drinking tea without looking at their phone and they looked uncool. What a load of nonsense.

    Sitting having a cuppa and a taking a break, staring into space, using your phone, having a chat are all normal behaviours. But ultimately, who cares what you do on your break?


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