Like yeah, I see it as pretty indisputable to me that there is an issue. You look at any kind of societal breakdown, any war zone etc, and what’s one of the first things that happens? Men start attacking and raping women. Even in my own life, I remember being specifically advised in teenage discos by lads I knew (who were just mimicking what other lads do) that the way you get girls was to pretty much force yourself on them or put them in positions they couldn’t say no. I didn’t feel comfortable doing that btw and, as a result, could barely get a shift on a night out until my 20’s. When #MeToo started, I began at the default boards position of #NotAllMen and all that, but then speaking to women in my life saw that pretty much all of them had dozens of stories of dealing with this kinda stuff all their lives. I worked in a job for a while that attracted creeps and every day had to march several out of there when they’d start behaving threateningly towards the girls I’d work with. It’s just there, and it’s not a case-by-case basis, it’s way bigger.
That isn’t to say that every man has a rapist inside of him, or even the majority. A friend of mine who’s had a lot of bad experiences has a fairly toxic view of men as a result, but I remember chatting to her and doing some maths and saying those views were formed from experiences with maybe 1% of all men she’d encountered in her lifetime. So, while you can empathise with how she feels that way, it’s unfair (and offensive) to tarnish an entire gender.
Truth is any kind of reasonable data is so scarce we’ve no idea what the scale of the issue is, but anecdotally I think any independent observer without an agenda could see that this is prevalent enough to be a ‘thing’. Lads get super defensive about it (and I immediately wonder “Dude what did you do?!!” when I see it), but it’s just an unpleasant reality. I don’t think we’re in any way close to determining if it’s biological or societal because the aforementioned deniers are slowing everything down, but it is probably worth looking into.
Last edited by leggo; 10-11-2019 at 21:49.