The Online Dating Thread Part II **Mod Warning** Read First Post/or Post 7389

If the bible was realeased today fundementalist cristians would have it banned.

Got messages of two very attractive girls yesterday which I responded to, I hate waiting on replys.

Saw another profile looking for a "sperm donor" saying "Donation either the old fashioned way, just a basic shag or into a cup and give it to me."

Well its certinly cheeper than a sperm clinic but it is a bloddy weird way to find a father for your kid.

Was going through a couple of profiles there and one girl said she was very passionate about photography.

Her profile picture was so out of focus. :pac:

That_Guy wrote: »

If they wanted to meet you they'd message you.

I dunno. I would say it can be similar to winks where the person will 'wink' at you etc. so then you make your move.

In saying that, I've clicked either the No or Maybe option on POF. My profile is hidden and I got a message from a dude that I clicked maybe on, so that could be a reason.

I get alot of these Meet Me requests on POF, at first i would mail them but never got a response so i just ignore them now. Plus on POF its hard to be sure if they have viewed your profile as they can do it without you knowing it.

That_Guy wrote: »

Anyone seen the latest event on POF.



Sounds like a pilgrimage for singles. :pac:

Sounds like someone trying to organise a dogging event :pac:

Galvasean wrote: »

I have come to the opinion that women on these sites are only contacting me to pass the time. Nobody seems willing to 'take the next step' ie: organize an actual date these days. It's all message for a few days, followed by scarpering at the idea of meeting up.
It just seems hard to find people that want to date (irony of ironies). Anyone else in a similar boat?

Maybe wait a week or two before suggestion meeting up. A guy cancelled date with me recently and haven't heard from him again so I know where your coming from.

G-Money wrote: »

I think the initial surprise at being mailed on POF within 5 minutes of joining has turned out to be a dead-end. The girl in question is somewhat evasive and has no pic and her body type is listed as "rather not say". That always conjures up good images

She gave me her number with me even asking and when I asked for a pic, she didn't reply. She also seems a bit highly strung and when I made a joke, she over-reacted.

It reminds me a little of this girl I got talking to on there about a year or so ago. We chatted on MSN and I asked if she had a pic and her exact words were "No, and you aren't getting one either". I rapidly lost interest at that stage and she started to go off on one a bit and was like "you're not interested are you, you're not even making any effort".

I don't know if it's the same girl but I'm not pursuing it. I deleted her mail that had the number and didn't make a note of it. I think someone that cagey and who rings that many alarm bells up front should be avoided.

Jeez the hassle and you haven't even met her yet! Do you really want to get involved with someone like that? You did well stopping contact.

Galvasean wrote: »

I have come to the opinion that women on these sites are only contacting me to pass the time. Nobody seems willing to 'take the next step' ie: organize an actual date these days. It's all message for a few days, followed by scarpering at the idea of meeting up.
It just seems hard to find people that want to date (irony of ironies). Anyone else in a similar boat?

sort of similar boat tbh........went speed dating recently (which involved signing up to online dating as well - that's how the singles make contact afterwards)

got a load of "friend matches" the next day .....as it turned out was very interested in one of the girls and so it seemed was she......she had visited my (almost non existent) profile etc so I messaged her.....brief friendly message asking if she wanted to meet up

got reply to the effect she wasn't sure who I was (fair enough I didnt put up a profile picture...not sure I want my picture online) so I said I'd email her a picture...which I duly did

got email back saying of course she remembered me etc...how was weekend......no mention of meeting but wink emoticon etc

sent friendly reply and asked her to let me know if she was interested in meeting up sometime....................nothing since


so thought about some possible reasons for this for a while

1) I was meant to spend more time getting to know her online before suggesting a meeting (possibly but unlikely)
2) Shes not interested and was just being polite (most likely imo)

So I said there is nothing I can do about (2)...cest la vie......however for for pig iron I went again and tried spending more time on the online side of things rather than going straight to the meetup request only for the same thing to happen - fizzles out

It has since occurred to me that trying to get a date via the online route is quite a difficult process as communicating via messaging is effectively another barrier between you and the other person and as amazing as it sounds to my own ears (being a bit of an introvert naturally) I reckon I operate better face to face and thats where you really find out if theres mutual attraction its all too easy to be fickle when you are having what effectively amounts to a relationship with your inbox

fcuk profiles and what music/tv shows people happen to like or where they have been on holiday/to college, what books they like to read etc.......this stuff amounts to no more than a hill of beans imo now......you can have all of this in common with someone and more than likely there wont be mutual attraction anyway or you certainly wont be able to tell it from an email correspondence that will probably fizzle out as has been my experience

with this in mind I've decided the online route is probably not for me and a more successful tactic will probably be putting myself in as many real world situations involving face to face interactions as possible with no barriers

So I decided recently to test the numbers game hypothesis by seeking out every possible opportunity to mix and interact face to face with members of the opposite sex while turning my nose up at this online faffing around (not involving nightclubs in my local area tho - small town and they are mostly filled with teenagers + I'm clueless/self conscious in nightclubs)


The only problem being that its proving hard to find these sort of opportunities.........there are lots of things to do but most of them are individual in nature and not necessarily conducive to meeting singles

but there must be something or else there's definitely a niche in the market for more than just online dating and speed/dinner dating

rebelwoman wrote: »

Well Amacca if you find it make sure to let the rest of know about it.lol

was thinking about tag rugby (hard to find in small town with no rugby club)

mixed self defense classes (this could be feasible)

maybe join local sailing club and learn a skill

take up a bit of golf (lessons maybe)

maybe even a book club

+ go out and try my hand at one of these poker tournaments....I'm mostly sh1t at it but have my moments particularly when I'm new and the others don't know me


In many ways though...living in a city has many advantages when it comes to this sort of stuff..........

have yet to find the "killer app" of meeting suitable singles:D but am going to try give all of the above a go if feasible, just think there is more likelihood of success and less in the way of frustration and at least you are getting out and doing something when compared to messaging and winking and updating my status and being blanked etc

wish I could find where all or at least most of the women are at though and join that whatever that is (not sure I'd have the brass balls for yoga tho!)