Boards.ie uses cookies. By continuing to browse this site you are agreeing to our use of cookies. Click here to find out more x
Post Reply  
 
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
25-09-2011, 15:07   #61
seanrose
Registered User
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 71
hey kate,

can i ask you what your goals are or what you are trying to achieve

personally speaking i am cutting down on drinking,have done 26 days and 28 days this last 2 times,my aim now is to get to the 30days without alcohol.

but i also want to try and learn from the mistakes i have made when i have drank,i know that my problem is binge drinking,the last two times i have drank it has been a weekend binge,sat and sunday,i am always grand after the first night but come the second day thats when my problems start.i get ratty and cranky and my mouth gets the better off me.thats what really gets me down and takes me 2/3 days to get my appettite and general mental state back to where i want it to be.

good luck on you goals kate
seanrose is offline  
Advertisement
25-09-2011, 15:11   #62
paddyandy
Banned
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Posts: 2,023
3 years

Everything went wrong so i have no difficulty staying off it..end of the line.
paddyandy is offline  
Thanks from:
26-09-2011, 10:14   #63
hubba
Registered User
 
hubba's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 360
4 months on Thursday. I quit for tons of reasons but the crux of the issue was that I wasn't a happy person, was not getting anything out of life and hadn't been for a long time. Plus I was angry, tired, depressed and very anxious all the time.

Four months on and I already feel a whole lot better mentally and life is now full of colour and wonder and I am like a kid at Christmas clambouring to rip open my presents, there is so much that I want to do (and have started already).

I am more at ease in my skin, which just helps deal the daily crap life throws at you.

In my experience other people are the biggest annoyance. As I read somewhere, all drinkers work for the drink industry,trying to push you to join them and be 'sociable'. But you get used to dealing with this, just like everything else. There's no way I'm giving up this feeling just to be 'sociable' as they call it.

So, are you reading this, thinking of quitting? Then I say YES, DO IT! Your won't regret it! (hint: prepare properly first - you need a life plan and to keep busy, especially in the early phase!)
hubba is offline  
27-09-2011, 20:49   #64
mrmorgan
Registered User
 
mrmorgan's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 569
Quote:
Originally Posted by seanrose View Post
hey kate,

can i ask you what your goals are or what you are trying to achieve

personally speaking i am cutting down on drinking,have done 26 days and 28 days this last 2 times,my aim now is to get to the 30days without alcohol.

but i also want to try and learn from the mistakes i have made when i have drank,i know that my problem is binge drinking,the last two times i have drank it has been a weekend binge,sat and sunday,i am always grand after the first night but come the second day thats when my problems start.i get ratty and cranky and my mouth gets the better off me.thats what really gets me down and takes me 2/3 days to get my appettite and general mental state back to where i want it to be.



good luck on you goals kate
im exactly the same but i could go off it for a couple of months but when i go back on it i go a serious binge and it realy affects my mental health. im off it now again about a month and my head is totally clear. but im still getting the itch to go drinking. but i will hope to not give in .
mrmorgan is offline  
27-09-2011, 22:46   #65
KeefF
Registered User
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Posts: 172
Feel terrible.

Would love some tips from you guys on how to go about this as I can't seem to get it right.
I know all the bad things and problems booze has brought to me. But still go back to it at the weekend. Can sometimes go weeks without but when I do anything can happen.
This year alone I have missed 5 Mondays from work due to being out on a Sunday night. At 36 I'm still managing to go to all night parties, popping pills, mouthing at people etc etc. Crazy stuff at 18 never mind 36.
Strangely still managing to perform quite well at work and am studying part time. But at weekends my life really is a wreck - once I have drink.
KeefF is offline  
Advertisement
28-09-2011, 07:22   #66
seanrose
Registered User
 
Join Date: May 2010
Posts: 71
@ mr morgan

yeah the binge drinking really is a problem but one step at at time,firstly cutting down on the drink is the first thing and then the second step is trying to control the binge drinking.

@ keeff

yeah im the exact same,anything really can happen when i drink,i absolutely feel that when i drink that im no longer in control off the person i am,its very scary at times,it ruins everthing good i do when im off it and when i drink people tend to steer well clear off me.if i go drinking on a binge i nearly count monday as a lost day because i cant function at all.why not write down how bad you feel when you drink and how good you feel when your not drinking and then read back the stuff when you feel like going drinking

at least we know that we have a problem with alcohol,i know many friends who do this most weekends,they are depressed for a while but go at it again the following weekend or the weekend after.

hopefully some day i can control the binges but for the time being im working hard to only drink fairly occassionally,and i know people will say that why not have a few every weekend,well that for me is a no no,im like a lot of people its either full tilt or nothing at all

keep up the hard work guys

Last edited by seanrose; 28-09-2011 at 07:25.
seanrose is offline  
Thanks from:
28-09-2011, 11:33   #67
hubba
Registered User
 
hubba's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 360
Try reading this. http://www.amazon.co.uk/Stop-Drinkin...205932&sr=8-18

It makes so much sense. For the few quid it costs, what you have you to lose and so much to gain.
hubba is offline  
Thanks from:
28-09-2011, 12:06   #68
paddyandy
Banned
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Posts: 2,023
3 years

I got fed up with being sick and broke most of the time and everything was giving up on me.My Mind and Body were starting to give me problems and the fun had completely gone i did'nt like the new style cafe/bars at all.There was nothing left.... the glass was drained.... and so was i.Drinkers don't realise what they're missing.All my bills are paid on time.A lot of the anxiety has gone.This Xmas day i will think of all the people who feel like a Bucket of....sitting on a Hot stove i won't envy anybody.
paddyandy is offline  
Thanks from:
28-09-2011, 13:05   #69
 
Join Date: Jan 2011
Posts: 77
55 days today.

did two other stints this year, 63 days and 66.

hoping to break my record (of 66 days sober)

I've been drunk 14 times this year. (when i break my bouts of sobriety after 63, 66 etc i tend to go on the sauce a few times)

I'm hoping I'll eventually make it to 100 days sometime. that'll be a real achievement.

The longer you stay off it, the fresher your body and mind feel. Clearer, more in control of your thoughts. You see the world differently.

big change from years gone by where i was beering at least three times a week from the age of 18 to 23.

24 now and I dont get as much women or anything as I'm no longer the life and soul of the party (i often don't really go out anymore and if i do obviously i cant engage as well in all the ''drunken craic'')

nonetheless i wouldnt change anything. i gave it up for health and academic reasons, and also because I do a lot of gym training and it's not entirely conducive to that.
drink has a horrific hold over this country and most people are trapped under an ethanol filled fog. their lives revolve around alcohol and when the next night out on the lash is.
that's fair enough, but that's not how I want to live my life.

although the upshot is, whilst I used do a serious amount of drinking, I was never actually addicted to alcohol. My real vice is coca cola - drink at least three cans a day and the longest ive ever stayed off that is 19 days that was two years ago!! tried to stay off it recently and could only do a week!! so drink isn't the real demon I'll have you all know!!!!!!!!!!!
FrankAmazing is offline  
Thanks from:
Advertisement
28-09-2011, 20:18   #70
 
Join Date: Jul 2010
Posts: 9,687
Well done frankAmasing, you seem to know what you want and are going for it,dont worry about the women & craic your life will eventually turn into what way you want it to. ;-)
Sunnyisland is offline  
30-09-2011, 09:12   #71
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 3,500
I think I need to stop drinking myself.

I drink out of boredom more than anything but last night was an eye opener.
Had the usual Thursday pint and pub grub reading the paper. But when I left I just wanted another drink. Very worrisome. Going to try and stay off it for as long as possible now. It really is a depressant.
foxyboxer is offline  
30-09-2011, 10:30   #72
 
Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 6
Day 26 today... This will be my fourth drink free weekend

But... My OH is going away on a stag weekend and I'm worried I might get tempted to have have a glass bottle of wine in his absence..

I hope I can stay strong.. I keep mentally reinforcing the reasons why I've given up, and I'm getting a lot of strength from reading the threads in this forum.. So fingers crossed.
LittleAmy is offline  
Thanks from:
30-09-2011, 10:42   #73
hubba
Registered User
 
hubba's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 360
Think of it this way, when your OH is there, you CAN have a drink any time. It's not your OH who is banning you from drinking, it is your own personal choice, which you are doing for yourself and your own positive reasons so your OH being away should make no difference.

I would advise keeping really busy, especially if you feel 'at risk' and have something really nice to do as the highlight of your weekend. Have a point of focus. Leave no voids, no room for 'what if ...'.

You've done so well so far, there's absolutely no reason to use this an excuse to throw the towel in.

Perhaps project your mind forward to Monday morning, do you want to feel really proud of yourself? Or how will you feel if you decide to drink?

Wishing you the best and I hope your weekend goes well for you.
hubba is offline  
30-09-2011, 10:59   #74
SmoosBoo
Registered User
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Posts: 22
I just stumbled across this thread this morning. It has given me inspiration.

I decided to give up drink for the month of September – no main reason other than I felt I was drinking too often (4 or 5 nights a week). The amount of drink it took for me to feel merry or drunk was increasing also.

Over the last week, I have been debating with myself, as to whether or not I should start back drinking on Saturday, but, on this final day of my personal challenge, guess what? I don’t even feel like drinking.

The OH and kids have noticed the weight drop off me. Cycling helps a lot too!

I think I’ll stick with not drinking for a while more.
SmoosBoo is offline  
Thanks from:
30-09-2011, 18:05   #75
 
Join Date: Sep 2011
Posts: 6
Thanks Hubba.. Yeah I know I can drink any time, but the tought of 'nobody ever has to know' keeps creeping into my head one half of me would just love to hear that playful splash of the wine hitting the glass and that first ice cold swallow from a frosty glass grrrrrrrrrrrr

BUT, on the other hand, I've come so far now, and I have been feeling better than I had in years.. I am going to stick to my guns.. I'm going to have a nice hot bath and some camomile tea and watch a movie.. might even bust out a bar of Dairymilk
LittleAmy is offline  
Post Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Remove Text Formatting
Bold
Italic
Underline

Insert Image
Wrap [QUOTE] tags around selected text
 
Decrease Size
Increase Size
Please sign up or log in to join the discussion

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search



Share Tweet