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21-07-2018, 21:15   #601
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my mother always says, an ounce of help is better than a tonne of sympathy
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16-10-2018, 17:09   #602
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Hello.

So I have decided to leave the farm, I'm going to put it out to lease. I'm just spent with it all at this stage. Sure my heart is broken but I know that it is the right thing to do.

I have been doing a lot of thinking and people watching and I keep catching myself wondering about these strangers I see. I wonder why they are always smiling and going about their business. How they don't seem weighed down with worry!

I have decided to go traveling again because I just need a break from thinking about everything! I still have a few working holiday visas that I can apply for, namely Canada and Argentina. I also have been in contact with a farmer in Zambia that will give me a turn if I make my way there.

I have all these options open to me which I suppose is great, and the lease on the farm will accumulate until I decide to return to the farm. But my mother has completely shut me out! Her and an autistic brother are my only living family and it is killing me.

I have this empty void in me and I would give anything for someone to tell me that it is all going to be okay and that I am not this waste of space for not making a success of it! I have come to realize that I am just so lonely in life.

I did the therepy thing and was told that my relationship with my mother was basically toxic and I should distance myself from her but I find it so hard.

Over the next 6 months my life is going to change for the better but it is going to be so bloody hard and I know that I will just be split from the family even more. I don't know how it is going to happen.

I just needed to put all that out into the world because I'm not strong enough to hold it all in my head!

Thank you.
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That fffer from Zambia was ringing me a few weeks back!

To be honest you are doing what is logical and what most of us are afraid to do. If can get a good tenant then you’re elected. Well done.
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16-10-2018, 17:45   #604
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Do whats best for yourself and dont let others hold you back
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16-10-2018, 22:50   #605
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Go enjoy & take a well earned break

In football when something would go wrong (miss a score or a tackle) always focus on the next ball & push yourself to do better.
If you keep concentrating on the last missed opportunity you’ll not make the most of the next

The farm will be there for when you comeback, go find yourself

Keep in touch
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16-10-2018, 23:16   #606
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While it might not seem like it right now, you have just done something that is astounding! You've made a sensible decision with a view to finding your mojo and not everyone gets that chance. You'll still always have something to come back to and ground you, whether you are in Argentina or Zambia. So, pack the bags and take the first step on the journey that is the rest of your life.

If you can, say an Au Revoir to the Brother and tell him that you'll keep in touch. If you say something to the mother, that'll be up to you, but you'll be far and away the bigger man if you do, no matter what she's like.

Life is fcukin' short and its not a rehearsal.... So Onward and Upward!!

Bon Voyage!
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17-10-2018, 01:25   #607
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Good for you , you are doing the right thing .
A few weeks away & your head should become lighter .
Spend time with the sea , its very healing & get into the sun .
If you can head to the South Seas , places like Fiji & Tonga are amazing.
Time slows down & people are welcoming & can teach us how to appreciate life.
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Someone mentioned to me recently, how everyone in Ireland should be talking Vitamin D during the winter. Lack of sunshine can really get you down. Ever notice that after a sunny day in Ireland, you can feel a lot better. Seven Seas, with added Vit D - try them.

http://news.menshealth.com/vitamin-d...on/2012/07/11/
I've recommended this to people with MS and other autoimmune conditions for years. It's worth ignoring the RDA and daily value (DV) numbers. Our ancestors wandering across the plains got a lot more vitamin D into them by sunlight before our caves became rather more modern as they are today. I usually go for this one myself:
https://bigvits.co.uk/product/vitami...-x-360sgels-2/

A years supply for about €15. Clever thing to do in some case is to try and lift your blood serum D3 levels more gradually by taking multiple stronger doses over the course of the day, e.g. breakfast lunch and dinner.

As for people who might be getting depression off the back of their tinnitus, I would suggest this: http://www.szynalski.com/tone-generator/#support
I found it last week and it seems to be working well so far.
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I've recommended this to people with MS and other autoimmune conditions for years. It's worth ignoring the RDA and daily value (DV) numbers. Our ancestors wandering across the plains got a lot more vitamin D into them by sunlight before our caves became rather more modern as they are today. I usually go for this one myself:
https://bigvits.co.uk/product/vitami...-x-360sgels-2/

A years supply for about €15. Clever thing to do in some case is to try and lift your blood serum D3 levels more gradually by taking multiple stronger doses over the course of the day, e.g. breakfast lunch and dinner.

As for people who might be getting depression off the back of their tinnitus, I would suggest this: http://www.szynalski.com/tone-generator/#support
I found it last week and it seems to be working well so far.
Thanks but now my tinnitus is driving the dogs mad
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Thanks but now my tinnitus is driving the dogs mad
Well now at least this allows you to show everyone else what you're having to put up with. I'll try kinesiology next and report back if I get results. Anatomical study suggests it might be a temporo-mandibular joint problem, or something to do with my sternoclavicular major muscles
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I think I'm getting totally fed up with things outside the farm. Morals and legal are not the same.

Just needed to write it down....
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I think I'm getting totally fed up with things outside the farm. Morals and legal are not the same.

Just needed to write it down....
I agree with ya there
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my mother always says, an ounce of help is better than a tonne of sympathy
I don't have an ounce of either here
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