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27-10-2019, 14:00   #16
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There's a perception that bi people are promiscuous or more likely to cheat which is complete bull. That puts some people off.
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27-10-2019, 18:29   #17
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No its not fear. What would there be to fear?
For me its just that I would find it a turn off, as in something that would make that person less appealing than others to me.
Im 37 and have always made it clear I don't want children and I'm sure that's made me less attractive to some men but I don't think that's fear its just that as humans we all find different things attractive or unattractive.
So to conclude it might sound like fear to a stranger on the internet but I know myself well enough to be comfortable with my choices and whether I feel fear or not
Is it because you find them less masculine?
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27-10-2019, 18:39   #18
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Is it because you find them less masculine?
How do bi lads even come around to saying it to a potential girl,,,, oh by the way I’m into men as well

We had this conversation at work and most of the girls said the same thing ,,,,, it’s hard enough to watch them around women never mind the entire bloody niteclub lol
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27-10-2019, 20:12   #19
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Is it because you find them less masculine?

I don't think I'd class a whole group of bi guys as less masculine. I reckon their are plenty very masculine burly bi guys,
I personally just find it an unattractive trait in a potential romantic interest, which I think is perfectly fine, different strokes for different folks and all that, obviously I couldn't care less on a friendship level and it would be absolutely none of my business.
Im just answering the question posed honestly.
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27-10-2019, 20:24   #20
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How do bi lads even come around to saying it to a potential girl,,,, oh by the way I’m into men as well

We had this conversation at work and most of the girls said the same thing ,,,,, it’s hard enough to watch them around women never mind the entire bloody niteclub lol
So basically they all have biphobic attitudes that all bi men are cheaters
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27-10-2019, 20:43   #21
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I don't think I'd class a whole group of bi guys as less masculine. I reckon their are plenty very masculine burly bi guys,
I personally just find it an unattractive trait in a potential romantic interest, which I think is perfectly fine, different strokes for different folks and all that, obviously I couldn't care less on a friendship level and it would be absolutely none of my business.
Im just answering the question posed honestly.
No, that's fine. Let's be honest, you're not the only one. I do wonder though is it the same for bisexual women and men.
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27-10-2019, 20:52   #22
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Im 37 and have always made it clear I don't want children
Does Bert know?
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27-10-2019, 20:53   #23
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No, that's fine. Let's be honest, you're not the only one. I do wonder though is it the same for bisexual women and men.
I doubt it. I'm bisexual and married to a straight man. I know a good few bisexuals in relationships with straight people. I can't understand why it would be an issue unless you believe bisexuality makes you more likely to cheat or careless about your sexual health.
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27-10-2019, 21:17   #24
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Does Bert know?
Lol He was my gorgeous dog, passed away now but will never forget the most handsome guy I've ever had in my life.
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28-10-2019, 00:28   #25
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I doubt it. I'm bisexual and married to a straight man. I know a good few bisexuals in relationships with straight people. I can't understand why it would be an issue unless you believe bisexuality makes you more likely to cheat or careless about your sexual health.
Are those all bi women that are married to straight men or do you know bi men married to straight women?

I'm bi (and single)....and as for being more promiscuous...I'm the complete opposite, I only sleep with someone if I have some good connection with them...and that doesn't happen too often!
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28-10-2019, 00:51   #26
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From a woman I knew from a previous job; she didn't like the fact that the dude (who liked her) also liked dick. So things didn't progress between them.

The fact that men to women ratio on the likes of Tinder is a large difference could be one reason that women can choose not to like bisexual men.

However, men may see it as a possible FMF threesome in the future, if the woman was bi
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28-10-2019, 02:06   #27
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I do believe that there is still a widespread perception that bi people are more promiscuous and “want to have their cake and eat it” etc which is very unfair to them.

Also given societal homophobia being stronger against gay men than lesbian women and most straight men being rather turned on by lesbian sex, I suspect that far more straight women are put off by bisexual men as a potential partner than straight men are by bisexual women.
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I think that a lot of women and general society would judge a man if he came out as bisexual - the big one being that "oh he's just gay and hasn't accepted it". In my experience of dating bi lads, this tends to lead to complete secrecy and unfortunately some of these lads when they are back dating women are still hiding a really huge part of their personality.

I've seen one or two back with girlfriends and I always think how sad it that I potentially know more about them than that girl does.

Its a shame there isn't a bit more flexibility and understanding out there.
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