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13-10-2019, 19:02   #16
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That’s brilliant Joey. Not all my thing but there’s a good few that sound good.

Do you know how often the PDC Course is run? There’s one just ending this week
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27-10-2019, 07:42   #17
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That’s brilliant Joey. Not all my thing but there’s a good few that sound good.

Do you know how often the PDC Course is run? There’s one just ending this week
Maybe ring outhouse and ask them
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08-11-2019, 09:13   #18
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I remember panicking so much about this in my late teens, early 20's. Slow steps, tell people you trust and that you know will stick by you. For a long time only my closest friends and immediate family knew, and only last year that extended out to my work friends and wider range of people I know.

Being 19, looking at the internet and thinking "God, I'd never want to be that lad whose 27 and only coming out now" but, that's exactly what happened and, honestly, I'm glad it did because I don't think I was in the right space mentally to be open with people before then. Everybody is different, nobody misses the boat.
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I only started coming out, really, last year (I'm 37), and I'm still not out to everyone irl. Everyone has their own pace.
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09-11-2019, 19:48   #20
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I kind of was only sure myself a year or so ago and I guess I need to process it myself first. Went to the gay guys cafe in the outhouse today which was good
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I only started coming out, really, last year (I'm 37), and I'm still not out to everyone irl. Everyone has their own pace.
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I came out to my family last Christmas, i'm 32, and literally, last year, only realised my attraction to women, was more than just curiosity, and i've not had a relationship yet even, but when you know, you know
As for missing the boat OP, no such thing, and i'd try not worry about what others think, because those who mind, don't matter, and those who matter, won't mind
I wish you only the best, and as said above, get comfortable with it yourself first, there's no rush on you to do anything you don't feel ready for, everything in it's own good time
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Never too late.... At 91 years old https://www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/w3csyfd8
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30-12-2019, 18:49   #23
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So completed the PDC in the Outhouse just before Christmas. It definitely helped and I actually said in my evaluation at the end that I felt I’ve taken a step on a ladder and there may be some way to the top but there’s no turning back.

I’ve also started to hang out with a few LGBT social groups. In some cases the activities done massively captivate me but socializing with groups of exclusively gay lads helps a little too. It’s early days but I can see some of them turning people I discuss things with and they would genuinely understand.

I’m possibly considering doing some counseling with someone that specializes in LGBT issues. More to dig deeper into issues from the PDC and to just deal with things better in the confidence of a professional I guess.
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30-12-2019, 20:21   #24
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So completed the PDC in the Outhouse just before Christmas. It definitely helped and I actually said in my evaluation at the end that I felt I’ve taken a step on a ladder and there may be some way to the top but there’s no turning back.

I’ve also started to hang out with a few LGBT social groups. In some cases the activities done massively captivate me but socializing with groups of exclusively gay lads helps a little too. It’s early days but I can see some of them turning people I discuss things with and they would genuinely understand.

I’m possibly considering doing some counseling with someone that specializes in LGBT issues. More to dig deeper into issues from the PDC and to just deal with things better in the confidence of a professional I guess.
Yeah the pdc course is great. Glad it helped.
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Yeah the pdc course is great. Glad it helped.
It raised some issues which I need to explore further but it did show me that I’m not alone and what I feel is normal. When I went in first I thought maybe I’m not going to get much from it, and some weeks I didn’t while others were very hard hitting. The guy that runs it is a a psychotherapist so some of the activities really got you thinking.
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So glad the course helped you OP, great to hear!

Also really interesting thread to see so many people have come out at different times in their lives. I was 31 and it was only because I met a girl who turned my head (and have since married); up to that I was exclusively “straight”. Although my family & close friends know, 6yrs later I still sometimes find it tough to outright say it as I almost feel like a bit of a fraud as I feel like I’m only “gay for my wife”. Probably a bit silly.
 
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Its never too late to come out . I'm one of those people who has taken a very long time to accept my own sexual orientation.
Coming out happens when you are comfortable within your self. Being gay should not define who you are. It is an aspect of who you are within the totality of your being.
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Never ever too late!
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I guess there’s two stages, coming out to yourself and then to the world. And finding the words to come out to the world is really hard
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People have come out in their 80s and 90s. There’s no fixed age by which you have to do anything.

I’m bi and often find that tends to confuse others, more than me as I have been accused of not been out when I have actually never been “in” I just never really made a huge deal of my sexuality, other than around Pride, or when I’m having some heated political debate, but day to day its jut a background issue.

Just be yourself - that isn’t always about being in a particular category. It’s more important they your comfortable in your own skin.
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