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Feisar · 30-10-2018 8:56pm

bluewolf wrote: »

I don't think anyone is getting the ride

True that!

CPTM · 30-10-2018 9:02pm

Liquidity Metrics wrote: »

Wow, such wishful delusion. Attraction is not a choice.

A man doesn't choose what makes him hard and a woman doesn't choose what makes her wet regardless of the judgemental attitudes some may have.

Who said it was a choice? Can't the qualities I mentioned drive instincts for some people also? Just because you haven't evolved past b00bs and legs, or social status and wallets, can't others? Also, why are you reducing the totality of dating to purely sex? Is that all you do when you date? Can't partnerships these days extend beyond that? So many questions about your arguments. Rich guys like younger women, younger women like rich guys. God we've known that crowd existed since before our species could speak. I'm just saying parts of society have evolved out of it and look for other things - even instinctively.

Humphrey BoaGart · 30-10-2018 9:42pm

This thread is like a re-reg flytrap.

Gimme A Pound · 30-10-2018 10:00pm

CPTM wrote: »

There are scales of attractiveness though, right? For example, for those of you who talked about how they don't like to accept that people are on a scale or not. Do you date mean people? Or do you try to find a guy/girl who is kind? That's a spectrum right? What about being funny or having a sense of humour, do you date brick wall personalities? Or do you try to find someone who you can laugh along with the most? That's a scale?

Some people are born with great abilities to talk to guys and girls, and make them feel like their thoughts are the most important in the world. Some guys and girls are born hilarious and have the best banter ever. Some are born gorgeous and eat like pigs but won the genetic lottery and have all the Instagram fame. If it's kindness or looks or humour or music taste, or whatever is important to you, you'll find you have a scale in your head. I feel the big problem is when you try to force someone else to use your parameters of attractiveness instead of letting them have their own.

Nobody's saying there aren't scales of attraction, they just dislike the dehumanising, nuance-disregarding out of ten thing - whether in relation to women or men. But it is used more in relation to women than to men.

CPTM · 30-10-2018 11:23pm

Adam Massive Druggist wrote: »

Nobody's saying there aren't scales of attraction, they just dislike the dehumanising, nuance-disregarding out of ten thing - whether in relation to women or men. But it is used more in relation to women than to men.

Fair enough, and the fact it is used more often with regards to physical beauty as if it's the only important thing in life.

Mister Vain · 30-10-2018 11:36pm

Photos can be deceiving. I hate when you're looking through someones profile and they look great in some photos and terrible in others. You're left trying to figure out if you find them attractive or not.

Gimme A Pound · 31-10-2018 12:15am

CPTM wrote: »

Fair enough, and the fact it is used more often with regards to physical beauty as if it's the only important thing in life.

Well that's ok in the early stages in my opinion - I guess it's going to be the first thing you notice.

Jessie Belle · 31-10-2018 12:21am

I think that there is no filter in the world that compensates for chemistry. That initial spark when you feel I wanna jump his bones or jump on the next bus. Saying that I have certain things that are no nos but I wouldnt filter just in case the one didnt fulfil that criteria.

completedit · 31-10-2018 4:53am

It's so weird because most people I know don't look that good in photos. There's a girl I know who in person is really really attractive but in pictures she has bug eyes, a long face and lacks her natural faint tan. Honestly, as you can tell I scrutinise appearance a lot and this girl is honestly like night and day. If I saw her photos on Tinder, I would never ever ever ever ever swipe to her whereas in real life, however she is thin so none of this frauding going on.
I think guys just get lured in to quick. They get carried away, if you actually look at these pictures a bit more closely the truth would be revealed. So many girls are so utterly hopeless at taking pictures btw, they are so obsessed with looking thin that they end up having long horse faces in their selfies.

completedit · 31-10-2018 4:53am

Apologies for triple post

completedit · 31-10-2018 4:53am

Double post

sbsquarepants · 31-10-2018 9:14am

Adam Massive Druggist wrote: »

Why not just "hot", "good looking", "all right looking", "not attractive"? That "out of ten" stuff appears invented by a Sheldon Cooper type.

I like the number scale - it has a distinct scientific accuracy about it.

It's analogous to going on holidays. My hot could be your warm, or your scorching. But 36C is 36C and they're that's just right:D.

Last valentines day I sent my missus a text, a big love heart with the caption "Words just can not describe how beautiful you are" Shortly followed by "Numbers can however - you're a 7" - she was not impressed!

(In reality she's a 9+ but you know, them getting uppity serves neither man nor god)

completedit · 31-10-2018 12:26pm

The 10 scale is fairly conventional yet completely inaccurate most of the time, especially for women. Any decently looking, thin women is, by most guys, considered an 8. An anyway good looking girl is considered a 10. TBH, we completely overrate women/girls in society especially in the younger years The guy is always 'playing out of his league' even if objectively he's equally attractive as his gf/wife. However, on the flip side, society(men) are far less forgiving to women who fall below the average standard. There seems to be a hailo effect when it comes to average(and thin) and good looking girls and a complete failo when it comes to girls who don't match that criteria. That's really bad imo.

completedit · 31-10-2018 12:26pm

*Edited.
There's something wrong with boards, my posts keep getting double posted.

Mister Vain · 31-10-2018 2:54pm

completedit wrote: »

It's so weird because most people I know don't look that good in photos. There's a girl I know who in person is really really attractive but in pictures she has bug eyes, a long face and lacks her natural faint tan. Honestly, as you can tell I scrutinise appearance a lot and this girl is honestly like night and day. If I saw her photos on Tinder, I would never ever ever ever ever swipe to her whereas in real life, however she is thin so none of this frauding going on.
I think guys just get lured in to quick. They get carried away, if you actually look at these pictures a bit more closely the truth would be revealed. So many girls are so utterly hopeless at taking pictures btw, they are so obsessed with looking thin that they end up having long horse faces in their selfies.

That's true. I work with a couple of girls that are very attractive but look dreadful in photos. The opposite can also be true in some cases though. Some girls will take a thousand selfies from different angles and will eventually get one they look good in.

Bitches Be Trypsin · 31-10-2018 2:58pm

Does obesity suddenly mean that somebody doesn't deserve love?

Bigbagofcans · 31-10-2018 3:06pm

Bitches Be Trypsin wrote: »

Does obesity suddenly mean that somebody doesn't deserve love?

You're missing the point. It's the use of filters and different angles that is conning others into thinking they're not that big.
A few obese friends on Facebook do that and are much bigger in real life.

completedit · 31-10-2018 3:08pm

It's nearly 2019 mate. Get with the times. There's is a huge inflation going on atm, tbh an obese man will probably end up dating sooner than a fit average guy imo. The fit average guy will think because he went to the gym that he is suddenly a stud because that's what the fitness industry want you to believe. However, not much has really changed from an attraction point of view assuming he wasn't coming from an overweight, slovenly state beforehand. Ultimately, he won't get the attention he assumed he would and thus will be waiting until he gets lucky. The obese guy(and it depends by what you mean by obese) won't be as picky and will find a partner sooner.

Bigbagofcans · 31-10-2018 3:16pm

completedit wrote: »

It's nearly 2019 mate. Get with the times. There's is a huge inflation going on atm, tbh an obese man will probably end up dating sooner than a fit average guy imo. The fit average guy will think because he went to the gym that he is suddenly a stud because that's what the fitness industry want you to believe. However, not much has really changed from an attraction point of view assuming he wasn't coming from an overweight, slovenly state beforehand. Ultimately, he won't get the attention he assumed he would and thus will be waiting until he gets lucky. The obese guy(and it depends by what you mean by obese) won't be as picky and will find a partner sooner.

There's nothing wrong with being picky. Why should anyone settle for someone they don't feel a complete attraction to?

completedit · 31-10-2018 3:26pm

There is nothing wrong with, I agree with you, I could never settle personally. I have to feel a huge attraction both physically and personality wise. I'm just saying I think lads get a bit carried away and think that by being healthy and going to the gym, they are suddenly ultra attractive. It's not really the case unfortunately.

PlaneSpeeking · 31-10-2018 4:24pm

It does tend to be the pathetic losers who THINK they're God's gift who go on about "no fatties, no uglies, only 9s and 10s"

Listen to Pink's song U + Ur Hand. That's you that is.

professore · 31-10-2018 5:05pm

completedit wrote: »

The 10 scale is fairly conventional yet completely inaccurate most of the time, especially for women. Any decently looking, thin women is, by most guys, considered an 8. An anyway good looking girl is considered a 10. TBH, we completely overrate women/girls in society especially in the younger years The guy is always 'playing out of his league' even if objectively he's equally attractive as his gf/wife. However, on the flip side, society(men) are far less forgiving to women who fall below the average standard. There seems to be a hailo effect when it comes to average(and thin) and good looking girls and a complete failo when it comes to girls who don't match that criteria. That's really bad imo.

Really? So fat ugly short guys are equally sought after by women as tall handsome ripped fit guys? Things have changed since I was dating then.

completedit · 31-10-2018 5:28pm

Your contradicting the wrong man here. Women will actively pursue the hot, attractive guys and ignore the ones who don't fit into their attractive box. I'm just saying if you're an average women who keeps in shape you will be desired and fawned over, whereas for a girl who is below average(that can be facially, body or whatever) men will tend to scorn and ridicule them. It's just that complete contrasts that an average girl with a decent body will experience and a below average one that I think is unfair.

armaghlad · 01-11-2018 11:48am

I met two girls from tinder last weekend. To say I’m getting complacent is an understatement. Long story short, both were partial to Snapchat filters, both did not look the same in person and both are now perilously close to being blocked on all platforms if they don’t take the subtle hint.

Bigbagofcans · 01-11-2018 12:06pm

armaghlad wrote: »

I met two girls from tinder last weekend. To say I’m getting complacent is an understatement. Long story short, both were partial to Snapchat filters, both did not look the same in person and both are now perilously close to being blocked on all platforms if they don’t take the subtle hint.

If someone needs Snapchat filters for profilers on dating sites, avoid at all costs.

ginandtonicsky · 01-11-2018 1:28pm

How did they not look the same in person? Was it weight, height, facial structure or features etc? Did they blatantly mislead in their pictures?

Genuine question, I’m really curious!

Redneck Culchie · 01-11-2018 1:35pm

armaghlad wrote: »

I met two girls from tinder last weekend. To say I’m getting complacent is an understatement. Long story short, both were partial to Snapchat filters, both did not look the same in person and both are now perilously close to being blocked on all platforms if they don’t take the subtle hint.

Happened to me too, I met a girl from Tinder that was bigger in person. I'm talking 5 stone or more possibly? Looked nothing like her pictures. I lost interest a bit in online dating when I realised how many of them looked nothing like reality. I mean I look better in my pictures than reality too I'd say. But there has to be a limit, when there is no resemblance at all it's absurd stuff. You feel cheated and like a fool.

hightower1 · 01-11-2018 2:24pm

Have to agree with others here, was online dating on and off for a couple years. Some ladies are definitely "economical" with the pics they use. We all want to put the best foot forward but we all know when we're crossing that line into being flat out deceptive.

I distinctly remember a couple of occasions meeting up for the first date and walking right past the girls in question as they looked nothing like their pics.

Thankfully I met an amazing girl and we've been together for nearly half a year now and it's going great. I know it's superficial but she looks BETTER in real life! (Think Nana Visitor with Haley Williams hair) Sometimes the real life "version" can work out better than the pics, but in my experience it was overwhelmingly the other way around.

completedit · 01-11-2018 2:31pm

If the girl is fat, she'll never look better in person. Thin girls with longish can look better in person than in pictures. So many girls take selfies from above which exaggerates the length of the face

Feisar · 01-11-2018 3:49pm

Sorry for keeping this going however, if one is inclined to filter/crop/photoshop themselves they are hardly going to step up on a scale and input the result into their Tinder profile?

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