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Best ways to get a date offline?

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    #62
    KikiLaRue
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,283 ✭✭✭KikiLaRue


    Giveaway wrote: »
    1.Consult a calender. 2. Stop using americanism such as date- you will see more gash/pecker/whatever you're having yourself that way

    What word should I be using in lieu of date in this context?


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    #63
    SCOOP 64
    Registered Users Posts: 5,207 ✭✭✭SCOOP 64


    KikiLaRue wrote: »
    That definitely doesn’t happen.

    I was actually asked out in the street by a French guy a few weeks ago, and I just said no and then we both moved on with our lives.


    i wouldn't take all comments on here to seriously, especially my ones ;)
    (hope the winky fellow didn't offend you)


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    #64
    KikiLaRue
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,283 ✭✭✭KikiLaRue


    SCOOP 64 wrote: »
    i wouldn't take all comments on here to seriously, especially my ones ;)
    (hope the winky fellow didn't offend you)

    Sorry, OldMrBrennan genuinely seems to hold this view so I didn’t get that the follow up comments were joking!


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    #65
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    Firstly be good looking and interesting.

    Apps are good but see them as an additional string to your bow.

    Work on your social presence.

    I've one tip, I yer in a pub/late bar and there's a screaming hot bar woman, order a round for the lads and throw her a tip, like a fiver or something. Later that night when it's three deep at the bar you'll get served quickly. Women will notice. One night I was out and tipped the server, later on a woman sort of squeezed by me at the bar, I said, "doesn't matter I'll get served first" and I did. In her reptilian mind I'm the man.

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #66
    corner of hells
    Registered Users Posts: 8,356 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Feisar wrote: »
    Firstly be good looking and interesting.

    Apps are good but see them as an additional string to your bow.

    Work on your social presence.

    I've one tip, I yer in a pub/late bar and there's a screaming hot bar woman, order a round for the lads and throw her a tip, like a fiver or something. Later that night when it's three deep at the bar you'll get served quickly. Women will notice. One night I was out and tipped the server, later on a woman sort of squeezed by me at the bar, I said, "doesn't matter I'll get served first" and I did. In her reptilian mind I'm the man.

    OPs a lady person.


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    #67
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    corner of hells wrote: »
    OPs a lady person.

    ****e sorry. Same rules apply though.

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #68
    corner of hells
    Registered Users Posts: 8,356 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Feisar wrote: »
    ****e sorry. Same rules apply though.

    She also doesn't drink , have a little read if the thread.


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    #69
    Tell me how
    Registered Users Posts: 21,517 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    KikiLaRue wrote: »
    Most of my friends are quite settled or live far away so not a huge scope for going out... any ideas on how to meet someone offline?
    KikiLaRue wrote: »
    That definitely doesn’t happen.

    I was actually asked out in the street by a French guy a few weeks ago, and I just said no and then we both moved on with our lives.

    Best way to get a date offline? Say yes when asked out.


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    #70
    KikiLaRue
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,283 ✭✭✭KikiLaRue


    Tell me how wrote: »
    Best way to get a date offline? Say yes when asked out.

    Well, I didn’t fancy that particular guy.

    I’d like to go on more dates in general, doesn’t mean I’ll go out with literally anyone who asks!


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    #71
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    KikiLaRue wrote: »
    Well, I didn’t fancy that particular guy.

    I’d like to go on more dates in general, doesn’t mean I’ll go out with literally anyone who asks!

    What age are you?

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #72
    1874
    Registered Users Posts: 2,382 ✭✭✭1874


    Feisar wrote: »
    What age are you?


    She already said, 30
    Following with interest for opinions, no unexpected suggestions so far, no french women asked me out on the street, Spanish would be better


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    #73
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    1874 wrote: »
    She already said, 30
    Following with interest for opinions, no unexpected suggestions so far, no french women asked me out on the street, Spanish would be better

    OP where are you right now?

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #74
    Tell me how
    Registered Users Posts: 21,517 ✭✭✭✭Tell me how


    KikiLaRue wrote: »
    Well, I didn’t fancy that particular guy.

    I’d like to go on more dates in general, doesn’t mean I’ll go out with literally anyone who asks!

    So embrace the french etiquette and ask someone yourself? Give them the whole "Voulez vous couchez avec pois, ce soir?" ;)

    Have you asked friends or work colleagues to introduce you to someone?
    Or, go on the online apps with a commitment (to yourself) to message 1 or 2 or 3 new guys a week (even if you don't see them as forever and ever material) and ask do they want to meet for coffee. Don't necessarily wait for the spark online or for them to ask to meet.


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    #75
    Ubbquittious
    Registered Users Posts: 6,177 ✭✭✭Ubbquittious


    Feisar wrote: »
    Firstly be good looking and interesting.

    Apps are good but see them as an additional string to your bow.

    Work on your social presence.

    I've one tip, I yer in a pub/late bar and there's a screaming hot bar woman, order a round for the lads and throw her a tip, like a fiver or something. Later that night when it's three deep at the bar you'll get served quickly. Women will notice. One night I was out and tipped the server, later on a woman sort of squeezed by me at the bar, I said, "doesn't matter I'll get served first" and I did. In her reptilian mind I'm the man.




    The problem with apps is that you have to lay a lot of groundwork to even get to go on a date. You'll have to waste your time on several people who will ghost you for whatever reason or are happy to chat to you but won't go on a date. This can be a huge time sink but it will also take the pressure off you to actually go out and look for someone in real life. Which is not a good thing.


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    #76
    Giveaway
    Closed Accounts Posts: 382 ✭✭Giveaway


    KikiLaRue wrote: »
    What word should I be using in lieu of date in this context?

    Meet, Liaison, encounter or dinner?
    Edit. you are French? .Approach random IRish guys and offer them an "education"


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    #77
    coffee_cake
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Politics Moderators, Recreation & Hobbies Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 81,310 CMod ✭✭✭✭coffee_cake


    Ask them can we take this meeting offline


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    #78
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 21,679 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    KikiLaRue wrote: »
    I think a girl out in a pub on her own would be seen as quite weird... I know lads can get away with it especially if there is a match on, but I think a lady alone trying to catch the eye of a passing guy would be seen as desperate.

    I quite like sitting in a pub with just a pint and book for company :) Mind you it's not something I'd do on a busy Saturday night but the likes of Mulligans in Stoneybatter or Frank Ryans are good spots for it.


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    #79
    binana
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭binana


    I met my fella by letting him ahead of me in a queue! I also got a number from a guy on a train once, the name booking things weren't working and I made a joke about it being like lord of the flies or some other well known anarchy and we just started chatting. The initial conversations weren't flirty, just friendly and funny.

    Once you get over the fear of starting a conversation with a stranger, people are quite easy to read. If the response is cold just drop it, and if they're interested they make the effort to dialogue. Good luck!


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    #80
    Feisar
    Registered Users Posts: 6,597 ✭✭✭Feisar


    binana wrote: »
    I met my fella by letting him ahead of me in a queue! I also got a number from a guy on a train once, the name booking things weren't working and I made a joke about it being like lord of the flies or some other well known anarchy and we just started chatting. The initial conversations weren't flirty, just friendly and funny.

    Once you get over the fear of starting a conversation with a stranger, people are quite easy to read. If the response is cold just drop it, and if they're interested they make the effort to dialogue. Good luck!

    And I went on a date once because I viewed a room in a house. Room was actually gone however ended up on a date with the lady that showed me the room. One needs to be easy on the eye for those sort of encounters though.

    First they came for the socialists...



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    #81
    binana
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭binana


    Feisar wrote: »
    And I went on a date once because I viewed a room in a house. Room was actually gone however ended up on a date with the lady that showed me the room. One needs to be easy on the eye for those sort of encounters though.

    And here I was thinking it was my warmth and magnetic charisma...


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    #82
    1874
    Registered Users Posts: 2,382 ✭✭✭1874


    Im a little more hopeful myself of meeting someone in my advancing state of aging, although Ive never really come across funny women, Id like if they could crack a joke or was able to make witty remarks that sums up a situation. They seem to exist, but Ive not met them.


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    #83
    binana
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭binana


    1874 wrote: »
    Im a little more hopeful myself of meeting someone in my advancing state of aging, although Ive never really come across funny women, Id like if they could crack a joke or was able to make witty remarks that sums up a situation. They seem to exist, but Ive not met them.

    The only possible explanation for that is funny women surely must be too intimidated by your superior sense of humour and wit to approach you. Ah, the curse of the misunderstood genius.


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    #84
    oneilla
    Registered Users Posts: 1,168 ✭✭✭oneilla


    KikiLaRue wrote: »
    Well, I didn’t fancy that particular guy.

    I’d like to go on more dates in general, doesn’t mean I’ll go out with literally anyone who asks!

    If you do happen across one you fancy, be forward and do the asking.


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    #85
    1874
    Registered Users Posts: 2,382 ✭✭✭1874


    binana wrote: »
    The only possible explanation for that is funny women surely must be too intimidated by your superior sense of humour and wit to approach you. Ah, the curse of the misunderstood genius.


    Now why cant I meet a girl like you? one that understands me :D at the least can massage my ego and put the boot in at the same time and make it seem like a compliment :pac: all the while not a hint of snarkiness, I was thinking what you're saying, Im too funny and smart for my own good, are there many of us blokes who think that way? Im kidding of course.


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    #86
    binana
    Closed Accounts Posts: 37 ✭binana


    1874 wrote: »
    Now why cant I meet a girl like you? one that understands me :D at the least can massage my ego and put the boot in at the same time and make it seem like a compliment :pac: all the while not a hint of snarkiness, I was thinking what you're saying, Im too funny and smart for my own good, are there many of us blokes who think that way? Im kidding of course.
    We're like the tooth fairy... You just gotta believe


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    #87
    1874
    Registered Users Posts: 2,382 ✭✭✭1874


    binana wrote: »
    We're like the tooth fairy... You just gotta believe


    ok, so make it up in my head?
    here's my imaginary girlfriend or just fake laugh at their jokes?

    Id rather find them in person, havent started looking on the dating scene and been a while since I was there, dont really remember liking looking, nice when you meet someone nice, unfortunately I have some flaws, I guess Im slightly shallow, for one (I think everyone is but doesnt admit it), they dont need to be a supermodel but if Im not attracted to them, wont matter how funny their jokes are (equally no matter how good looking they were, if they were vacuous or a type of person I wouldnt like, no matter how good looking, Id never see a longterm thing in it, although I might hold out for a while/as long as possible). I couldnt think my way around not being attracted to them (I could tolerate or even like corny/bad jokes if a nice person, witty and funny would be nice though, too sarcastic in a mean way might not gel with me, being cynical and slightly sarcastic myself, I at least know when to tone it down).
    Re looks, I dont think Jo Brand is that funny (sometimes she is) but I couldnt date regardless, anyway Im crashing the OPs thread, shes got a bit over a decade on my age group so think its easier still plus got time, in a few months I'll probably start posting on PI for advice myself.


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    #88
    ChikiChiki
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,950 ✭✭✭ChikiChiki


    Ubbquittious wrote: »
    The problem with apps is that you have to lay a lot of groundwork to even get to go on a date. You'll have to waste your time on several people who will ghost you for whatever reason or are happy to chat to you but won't go on a date. This can be a huge time sink but it will also take the pressure off you to actually go out and look for someone in real life. Which is not a good thing.

    On apps I just ask for a phone number more or less straight away or even a date as Im much better at real conversation than messaging. Seems to work as I find text convo can die or get tedious very quickly.


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    #89
    Ariadne
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,149 ✭✭✭Ariadne


    Like Biko said, I'd suggest meet up and see if there are any groups that interest you. It is using an online source but to make friends with people who have similar interests to you and see if anything develops.


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    #90
    Widdershins
    Registered Users Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    I think you should find a hobby with the sole criteria being that you'd take pleasure in it, rather than with a view to meeting people for romantic /sex reasons. What's meant for you won't pass you by but it seems to be true what they say...these things will find you when you're not looking for them . And if it doesn't , you'll still have enriched your life .


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    #91
    Widdershins
    Registered Users Posts: 10,633 ✭✭✭✭Widdershins


    freshpopcorn wrote: »
    Lisdoonvarna!

    Hm. Watch ''The Matchmaker '' (Janeane Garofalo & David O'Hara) first....


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