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Caretaker Rights To Family Home

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    #32
    beauf
    Closed Accounts Posts: 22,651 ✭✭✭✭beauf


    CaretakerRights wrote: »
    ...it's been mental. ...

    Well it certainly has been predictable.


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    #33
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Op, your mother is the one I'd be listening to for this issue.
    She would have the most balanced viewpoint as she can actually see both sides as a person who is involved with the house and has a personal relationship with you. She was also there when the agreement was made for you moving in. You mentioned arguing with her over this so I'm assuming she also feels you should move on now that the lease is up and give your cousin the opportunity you have been privvy to. They are as entitled to that as you were and the reality is if they wait another six months or a year, the opportunity might be lost to them if your granny passes away. So they are probably eager to get things moving and as you weren't very proactive in the lead up to the end of the contract (such as asking your family what their intention was at the end of the term and getting the ball rolling with finding somewhere to live) they are probably worried you'd stay indefinitely and not adhere to a timeframe that didn't suit you.
    And that opinion will only be more reinforced by this behaviour.

    Ask yourself which is more important? Your family? Or moving somewhere that might be less than ideal while you continue to look for the perfect place.
    You're on the verge of burning all your bridges over money. Completely not worth it.


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    #34
    wiggle16
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 3,022 Mod ✭✭✭✭wiggle16


    Wow. Ever heard the phrase Often wrong, but never in doubt, OP?

    Everyone who posts in PI lives in the real world too, believe it or not. I'm stuck living at home at the moment and my brother and his family are homeless - I'm well aware of how difficult the rental market is. No one here has taken issue with you living "rent-free". You're the only person who seems to have a hang-up about it. No one has argued about whether or not the RTB or Threshold would agree with you or whether you're legally in the right or legally in the wrong - because it's not the point. Posters are telling you that this situation is not worth pursuing, for all the reasons outlined previously.

    And you've still the neck to cry victim and say that "this setup wasn't even nearly legal" - a set-up you willingly precipitated, participated in and directly benefited from.

    So all that matters to you is being right, apparently. And instead of taking the high road, calling it a day and moving on with your life, or trying to sort it out civilly by approaching your cousin, you're ready to get a state agency and a housing charity involved in an unnecessary dispute between you and your entire family... for what? A couple of extra months in that house?

    No one is under any obligation to acknowledge the advice given them in PI and you're not expected to agree with everything you're told, but if your attitude to the posters who took the time to respond to your thread but gave advice you didn't like is anything like your ability to handle criticism in real life, then that says a lot about how this issue is probably going to pan out for you.

    Good luck, anyhow.

    Thread locked.


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