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People referring to you as 'him' or 'her' while present

  • 16-06-2019 1:31am
    #1
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭


    Does it annoy you when people refer to you this way when you're are present? Sometimes it can seem more rude than others. I came across this a few times recently and it's kind of annoying.

    You can see Russell Brand calling someone out about this from 5:04 onwards. I know it's Russell Brand, but just watch that part. He later corrects her on this at 6:07.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynUjo99Gzbk


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  • #2
    punisher5112
    Registered Users Posts: 24,647 ✭✭✭✭punisher5112


    Problem Of Motivation wrote: »
    Does it annoy you when people refer to you this way when you're are present? Sometimes it can seem more rude than others. I came across this a few times recently and it's kind of annoying.

    You can see Russell Brand calling someone out about this from 5:04 onwards. I know it's Russell Brand, but just watch that part. He later corrects her on this at 6:07.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynUjo99Gzbk


    Are you him or her?


  • #3
    Wailin
    Registered Users Posts: 4,407 ✭✭✭Wailin


    Ffs


  • #4
    ToddyDoody
    Registered Users Posts: 4,421 ✭✭✭ToddyDoody


    Problem Of Motivation wrote: »
    Does it annoy you when people refer to you this way when you're are present? Sometimes it can seem more rude than others. I came across this a few times recently and it's kind of annoying.

    You can see Russell Brand calling someone out about this from 5:04 onwards. I know it's Russell Brand, but just watch that part. He later corrects her on this at 6:07.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ynUjo99Gzbk

    When human relations gets like this its time to withdraw in spirit and head on to your happy place.


  • #5
    BeerWolf
    Registered Users Posts: 4,122 ✭✭✭BeerWolf


    "I helped him"

    "Rude fecker..."

    "Wut?!"


  • #6
    Mrcaramelchoc
    Registered Users Posts: 1,795 ✭✭✭Mrcaramelchoc


    Russell brand........HIM HES a cu nt.


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  • #7
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,065 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


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    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #8
    up for anything
    Registered Users Posts: 5,776 ✭✭✭up for anything


    It was drummed into us as children that it's very rude not to use someone's name when they are present. If I heard, "Who is she/he? The cat's mother?" once, I heard it a million times.


  • #9
    _Brian
    Registered Users Posts: 18,468 ✭✭✭✭_Brian


    People need to relax, if I wanted to be rude about you, saying “him or her” wouldn’t be my approach.


  • #10
    RWCNT
    Registered Users Posts: 1,430 ✭✭✭RWCNT


    I like that thing blokey English blokes do when their friend turns up somewhere and they say "Here he is!".


  • #11
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭[Deleted User]


    You're too delicate for this world, it might be time to inhabit another one. Godspeed.


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  • #12
    wetlandsboy
    Registered Users Posts: 204 ✭✭wetlandsboy


    I’ve noticed a lot of Americans tend to have this habit. Very rude and disrespectful.


  • #13
    budgie412
    Registered Users Posts: 82 ✭✭budgie412


    Ah, it's yourself


  • #14
    Sonny noggs
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,523 ✭✭✭Sonny noggs


    More workplace problems, OP? Did yer one who smokes or yer man that drinks Pepsi or yer one who talked about the radio do this? Or an entirely new person?


  • #15
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    _Brian wrote: »
    if I wanted to be rude about you, saying “him or her” wouldn’t be my approach.
    I never said it was deliberate rudeness.


  • #16
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    Sonny noggs wrote: »
    More workplace problems, OP? Did yer one who smokes or yer man that drinks Pepsi or yer one who talked about the radio do this? Or an entirely new person?
    An entirely new person.


  • #17
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    _Brian wrote: »
    People need to relax
    Then how come no one acted as if Russell Brand was over-reacting?? In fact, she completely backed down.


  • #18
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    Wibbs wrote: »
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    Troll and a bully you are.

    Can we expect a long winded rant about your testosterone levels now.


  • #19
    corner of hells
    Registered Users Posts: 8,354 ✭✭✭corner of hells


    Problem Of Motivation wrote: »
    Troll and a bully you are.

    Can we expect a long winded rant about your testosterone levels now.

    What do you work at ?


  • #20
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    It seems a trivial thing to get worked up about. Just as long as they've stopped pushing that ze bolloxs.


  • #21
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    Dravokivich wrote: »
    ze bolloxs.
    What?


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  • #22
    TheChizler
    Registered Users Posts: 9,400 ✭✭✭TheChizler


    How did I guess that you were the person who started the thread on the canteen comments...


  • #23
    biko
    Registered Users Posts: 81,223 ✭✭✭✭biko


    Misplaced accusations are like antibiotics.
    Eventually they stop working and whose fault was it?
    The person using it when it wasn't necessary.


  • #24
    Dravokivich
    Moderators, Category Moderators, Music Moderators, Politics Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 22,360 CMod ✭✭✭✭Dravokivich


    Problem Of Motivation wrote: »
    What?

    A non gender specific pronoun, ze.


  • #25
    Franz Von Peppercorn II
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,398 ✭✭✭Franz Von Peppercorn II


    They/Them


  • #26
    Sonny noggs
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,523 ✭✭✭Sonny noggs


    Problem Of Motivation wrote: »
    An entirely new person.

    At work?


  • #27
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    Sonny noggs wrote: »
    At work?
    No


  • #28
    Garibaldi?
    Registered Users Posts: 445 ✭✭Garibaldi?


    The kids who were repeatedly corrected for this are now grandparents. Old habits die hard. They instantly notice when another breaches this old and strange taboo, whatever its origin. There is no inherent offence in the practice.


  • #29
    Wibbs
    Moderators, Science, Health & Environment Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 60,065 Mod ✭✭✭✭Wibbs


    Problem Of Motivation wrote: »
    Troll and a bully you are.

    Can we expect a long winded rant about your testosterone levels now.
    Ohhh nerve touched and yet another rereg with it. BTW calling "troll" and "bully" just because someone reckons you come across as odd as two left feet hardly cuts it, but it's a handy little victim call, if stupendously clunky. Both show even less normal social calibration.

    I'd have once called "troll" myself, but you just come across as an unsocialised adult, with seemingly no idea about how social interactions work and get angry about it rather than y'know getting out of your solipsistic headspace and letting these non events go. Then again that seems to be your problem, discerning the difference between non events and real.

    Opening posts like yours just come across as odd and WTF? when read by Relatively normal people™ and because of that Relatively normal people™ aren't going to be able to give you much useful advice. It's a different more developed social language they work with and they'll likely respond with the lulz. At best you might get sympathy from others who are similar to you, but that tends to lead to reinforcing the existing worldview. Neither types of reply are much use in navigating this into the future.

    Therapy might be an option?

    There you go, long winded rant. And I can hear my beard growing. Happy?

    Rejoice in the awareness of feeling stupid, for that’s how you end up learning new things. If you’re not aware you’re stupid, you probably are.



  • #30
    Problem Of Motivation
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 386 ✭✭Problem Of Motivation


    Garibaldi? wrote: »
    The kids who were repeatedly corrected for this are now grandparents. Old habits die hard. They instantly notice when another breaches this old and strange taboo, whatever its origin. There is no inherent offence in the practice.
    Russell Brand is not from that generation.

    His reaction at 5:07 is quite extreme. And it's quite extreme for a reason. Would he have come across as charismatic if he just sat there and nothing while she started talking about him as if he wasn't there? Unless of course you're saying Russell Brand has poor social skills?


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  • #31
    ytpe2r5bxkn0c1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 32,688 ✭✭✭✭ytpe2r5bxkn0c1


    Oh sweet....

    Here we go again.


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