Things you want to say to husband/boyf/ex's/friends/family/people *MOD NOTE POST #1*

Dear self,

You are knackered. Physically, emotionally, spiritually knackered. It's been a tough year. Work is a circus of stress and chaos. The personal stuff has been a struggle. And now with therapy, processing some of the deeper stuff has become monumentally painful.

It's also your time of the month. So tears come easily. Tears before business meetings are no fun. But such is the state of your head right now. It will all be worth it. Hang in there. You are just doing your best. As always.

Size does matter

just text me ffs

Did you mean what you said tonight or did you just say it because you were drunk and had your díck in me?

You said what I’ve wanted to hear and yet now that I have, I don’t know if I believe you or not. You swore it wasn’t the drink talking but honestly I’m not convinced

You need to grow up and cop on to yourself. Youre in your 30's with kids but act like bratty spoiled little princess. You expect everyone to pay your way like youre entitled to others people's money.
Everything you have your parents paid for, your house, your car, your kids, youve never worked a full week in your life and you have the cheek to pass comment on me because I have money, I work two jobs, everything I have I worked hard to get, I put myself through college and saved since I was 25, I saved my dole, I went without food to make sure I had something to put away in the credit union every week, I planned for my future because I had to, no one was ever going to give me a hand out or help me out and im proud of that, I know I can stand on my own two feet and will always have a safety net to fall back on.
Through all the years that I was badly stuck for money you never offered to help in anyway and I never expected you too but what really showed you for what you are was how much you looked down on me from your ivory tower because in your eyes I was 'poor'.
The years I worked hard and saved and up skilled to get better paying jobs are starting to pay off for me and for once in my life im able to buy nice things.
Instead of being happy for me your jealousy is obvious and if it wasnt bad enough that you questioned how I could afford the new shoes I bought and repeatedly called me a 'rich bitch' but when you started the crocodile tears about how you only have 400 a week to live on (of your dads money and your dole), tried to guilt me into giving you money and then started hinting about what expensive gifts you wanted for Christmas, to say it was uncomfortable being in the room with you is an understatement, I felt embarrassed for you.
By the way, when have you ever bought me a Christmas gift?
I dont know where your sense of superiority and self entitlement comes from?
You haven't achieved anything in your life, all youve ever done is financially drain everyone around you, use people for your own needs and throw tantrums when you dont get what you want.
You have ridiculous high standards for other people and how they treat you but you treat everyone like dirt.
If your partner knew what you where doing behind his back, that 8 weeks ago you had sex with a random married man that youd met on a night out, that you constantly text and send naked photos of yourself to other men, that a week after kicking him out with no where else to go because you felt he wasnt good enough for you.. you invite a random man from tinder over to your house and have sex with him in the bed you share with the father of your kids. Now, because you kicked him out, you dont have access to his money anymore youre feeling sorry for yourself.

Ive been there for you again and again and again but youre never there for me and it really hit me this week when you knew I was starting something new on Monday and you never even bothered to text me to ask how it went, you didnt even reply to my last text where I was checking up on you after what you did over the weekend.

I dont know why ive made excuses for you for so long but I just cant anymore, youre a total narcissists.

I dont think I want to be friends anymore.

A,

What the fcuk are you doing? Or is this you showing your true colours and am I the stupid one? This seems so out of character for what I thought you were like, so maybe I am just the stupid one.

Dear C,
Thanks for sending me a message on Sunday night. You were supposed to contact me last Thursday re us meeting on Friday. I know you were not well and were busy in work.
Yet you were well enough to go out with your new boy

notsoyoungwan wrote: »

Hard to believe so much time has passed since you died. Yesterday I wore the necklace from our ‘lost weekend in Paris’...ten years ago yet i remember it as if it was only last week. It’s beyond belief to think of you dead and buried. That mega-watt smile that transforms your face...you’ll never smile it again. It catches me off guard so often... I think that I must tell you something or that you’d enjoy something and then it hits me all over again that you’re gone. I hope you didn’t suffer, that you died so suddenly you didn’t know it was happening. To think anything else is unbearable. You had so much living left to do, you were only getting started! Life is cruel.
I’m grateful for what we had, whatever label may be put on it. It was fun, it was dreamy, it was adventurous, it was loving, it was sexy, it was exciting, it was an eye-opener, it was life-changing, it was bloody epic! Thank you for that. I will always remember and I will always miss you.

My dear M,

Now more than a year has elapsed since you died. So much has happened, and it still seems unbelievable at times. I think of you so often. Your smile, your rogueish nature, your sincerity, your sense of craic, your character. I miss you. There’s no other way to put it. There are others in your life who have a greater claim to grief than I, but still, I miss you, I mourn you, I think of you and I will never forget you.

You’re an alcoholic. Whether you believe it or not. You’ve said some hurtful, unforgivable things. I can’t wait for you to leave tomorrow. If I could leave the house tonight and stay somewhere else I would.